10 Tips To Boost Your Self-Confidence

By Stephanie Kirby

Updated December 20, 2018

Self-confidence is a skill that you nourish and train; it is not something you gain overnight. Some people will have a big amount of self-confidence naturally, and it'll show in how they behave and handle situations. However, some people go through a trauma or bad experiences that take a toll on their self-confidence.

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How you see yourself and treat yourself defines how others will treat you. Self-confidence is an important trait of success because it pushes you to be your best self, to take risks, and to get people to say yes to you.

Let's go through a few tips that can help you boost your self-confidence, helping you lead a better and healthier lifestyle.

10 Tips To Boost Your Self-Confidence:

  1. Shut down negative thoughts:

"It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts." Robert H. Schuller

It's about time you said goodbye to the negative voices in your head. Whenever you have a negative thought about yourself, your job, or your career, you push yourself down a little bit more. You need to stop listening to the negativity and start replacing those negative thoughts with positive ones.

Instead of saying you can't do this or that, tell yourself you can, and sooner or later, you'll start believing it. Negativity only leads to negativity; it demotivates you to be your best or do any good so next time you get a negative thought, quickly replace it with a positive one. And then when you have that positive thought, turn it into action.

2. Surround yourself with positivity:

"Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher." Oprah Winfrey

It's not just enough to have positive thoughts and implement them. The people around you and in your life have a huge influence on your self-confidence. Surround yourself with people that push you up and push you towards what you want in life, not people that make you feel bad about yourself and your life.

Your environment, family, and friends can make all the difference about how you feel about yourself. They are the main pillar in encouraging you to believe in yourself. So, it's time to clean your contacts list. Pull out all the bad weeds that negatively take you down and make you feel bad.

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3. Learn how to say "NO":

"One of the hardest expressions of self-assertiveness is challenging limited beliefs" Nathaniel Branden

You need to take control of your own life and decisions. Don't be bullied into doing something that'll make you feel uncomfortable and goes beyond your boundaries. This brings us back to our previous point, be assertive and don't be afraid to say no when you need to.

You may think that you're being mean or don't want to upset someone, you'll come up with a list of excuses as to why you should say yes. But the truth is, saying yes will only hurt yourself and your confidence, no one else.

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4. It's time for a Makeover:

"We know grooming is important to people. To get their hair done, to get makeup and things like that - that makes a person feel better." Kenneth Williams

In this point, we're going to do the opposite of "change happens from inside out." This doesn't mean you have to get an actual makeover or dress in pricey clothes, but even the simplest changes in our image can make us feel good about ourselves.

For example, try a new hairdo, get a haircut, shave this morning, or even wear that t-shirt you think you look good in. Making little tweaks to your self-image will make you feel good on the inside too. So yes, sometimes how you look on the outside matters too.

5. Change how you see yourself:

"Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your powers you cannot be successful or happy" Norman Vincent Peale

We behave and feel according to our self-image. So if you feel like you're a loser at life, you'll walk with your shoulders slumped and avoid eye contact, if you feel like you're not physically attractive, you'll avoid looking in mirrors much, and so on. Changing how you see yourself and working on your body language, eye contact, and speech will make you more confident in yourself.

Find out what are the things in your image you don't like and work on fixing them, you can even try focusing on the things you do like about your self-image and saying them out loud to yourself until you believe it. Be confident in the way you carry yourself even if you don't necessarily feel that way just yet. Pull your shoulders back, stand tall, and talk slowly and clearly. How you act in front of others will not only make them think you're confident but will boost your confidence.

6. Do something risky once a week:

"Do not fear mistakes. There are none." Miles Davis

You can't keep safe in your bubble forever; you need to put yourself out there - and get rejected. Taking risks doesn't necessarily mean go bungee jumping or mountain climbing but take yourself out of your comfort zone. Talk to that girl you've always had a crush on or get that tattoo you were too hesitant to get, even if it leads to rejection.

You need to accustom yourself to rejection, whether it's from your crush, an investor, or a friend. The fear of failing or being rejected will always be in the way, so you need to overcome it by training yourself to accept rejection.

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7. You are your meanest critic:

"I am a self-critical perfectionist." Victoria Pendleton

No one is judging your every step but yourself. Sometimes people's criticism can be harsh, but your criticism of yourself is the hardest. You're not perfect; I'm not perfect, we all make mistakes. So instead of beating yourself down for all your mistakes start praising your strengths and good deeds instead.

Write down all your strengths and remind yourself of them each time you're going to criticize yourself negatively. Stop being so hard on yourself or calling yourself a loser or a failure because each time you do, it's another blow to your confidence.

8. Set goals for yourself:

"All successful people have a goal. No one can get anywhere unless he knows where he wants to go and what he wants to be or do. " Norman Vincent Peale

Setting and achieving goals is one way to feel accomplished and confident. Now, this doesn't mean your goals should be anything huge like ending world hunger or saving koala bears because if you don't achieve them, you'll feel discouraged. Start with small goals that you can easily achieve. For example, my goal is to finish this article tonight, or I have a goal to go to the gym this weekend.

Achieving these small goals will make you feel good about yourself and reassure you to take the step to set bigger and harder goals. However, all goals achieved matter, no matter how small.

That's why you should keep a list of all your accomplishments (not necessarily every single one but the general ones that made you feel proud). Use this list as motivation to get you to achieve your bigger goals.

That's why you should keep a list of all your accomplishments (not necessarily every single one but the general ones that made you feel proud). Use this list as motivation to get you to achieve your bigger goals.

9. Love Yourself:

"You, as much as anyone in the entire universe deserves your love and affection." Buddha

How you feel about yourself is vital to how you treat yourself. Caring and nourishing your health, appearance, and emotions is the perfect blend of loving yourself. When you love your body and look after it, you'll be more confident in yourself.

Care for yourself by improving your sleeping habits, get more hours of sleep at night or exercise more, even if it's just a walk or maybe even pick up a sport to increase your energy and reduce stress. Eating healthy meals and caring for your hygiene are also signs of caring and loving yourself.

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Another trick to boosting your confidence is by being more knowledgeable. This is something you can do for yourself by reading books or articles, researching or studying. The more you know about a topic, the more confidently you can speak about it! Nourishing yourself with love, knowledge, and care will make you feel better about yourself and give you more confidence.

10. Be Grateful and Helpful:

"When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around." Willie Nelson

Doing good for others will make us feel good about ourselves. The smallest gestures like a smile can make all the difference with someone. Try to always have an active role in volunteering or even helping charities during the holidays, being able to make a difference with someone will satisfy you inside and improve your self-image.

Seeing all the change that you can do and all those that need your help will make you more grateful for the people and things in your life. Having an impact on someone else's life will give you a big dose of confidence because you made that happen.

Still struggling?

It won't just take one of these tips to boost your self-confidence; it can take a few or even all of them. Most importantly, you need to keep working on improving yourself.

Talking to someone you trust, a close friend or family member to support you and encourage you to do better also helps. For further assistance, you can also seek professional help and talk to experts on the matter to help you work on this, step by step.


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