Hi, My name is Charity B. Rolfes and I am a Virginia licensed Clinical Psychologist with 25 years of experience. The therapeutic relationship is the foundation of any type of psychotherapy. It begins with mutual respect and the therapist’s ability to create a supportive, compassionate, non-judgmental atmosphere where a patient feels safe to explore and address life’s challenges.
A great many of us are taught that some aspects of ourselves are wrong, bad, or not good enough. Too many experience traumatic or abusive situations that can shake our confidence in ourselves, our safety, and other people, and all of us will experience losses that cause us sadness and pain. Psychology provides many paths to work with the emotions and consequences resulting from these experiences in a way that leads to growth and a more meaningful and fulfilling life, and healthy connections with others. I have training in and experience with a broad range of psychotherapies, including psychodynamic, Dialectical Behavior, mindfulness based, somatic, and cognitive behavioral therapies. I enjoy and have experience working with clients from many backgrounds, races, ethnicities, LGBTQIA+ identities, branches of military service, ability and neurodiversity statuses, immigration statuses, and religions and spiritual traditions.
I look forward to the opportunity to meet with you, explore your goals, and work toward the life that you envision for yourself.
Additional areas of focus: LGBTQ+ related issues, Relationship issues, Intimacy related issues, Eating disorders, Parenting issues, Anger management, Motivation, self esteem, and confidence, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Coping with life changes, Compassion fatigue, Abandonment, Attachment issues, Autism and Asperger Syndrome, Avoidant personality, Blended family issues, Body image, Caregiver issues and stress, Chronic pain, illness, and disability, Co-morbidity, Codependency, Commitment issues, Communication problems, Control issues, Coping with natural or human-caused disaster, Dependent personality, Dissociation, Divorce and separation, Domestic violence, Emptiness, Family of origin issues, Family problems, Fatherhood issues, Forgiveness, Guilt and shame, Hospice and end-of-life counseling, Immigration issues, Impulsivity, Isolation / loneliness, Jealousy, Life purpose, Men's issues, Midlife crisis, Veteran and Armed Forces Issues, Mood disorders, Multicultural concerns, Narcissism, Paranoia, Personality disorders, Phobias, Post-traumatic stress, Prejudice and discrimination, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-harm, Self-love, Sexual assault and abuse, Sexuality, Social anxiety and phobia, Women's issues, Workplace issues, Young adult issues
Clinical approaches: Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Jungian Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Somatic Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy
VA Psychologist 0810004797
These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Dr. Charity Rolfes. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.
She’s just the best! She gets me! Understands me and can see who I am! She truly cares about my wellbeing and gives great tips and resources to help me figure out what the best path is for me!
Written on Jul 09, 2026 after therapy with Charity for 10 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, parenting issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes
There are photographs of the soba noodle delivery men of old Tokyo, riding one-handed through snarling traffic, towers of steaming bowls balanced on one shoulder, dozens of lunches stacked improbably yet elegantly.
They remind me of Dr. Rolfes.
She moves through the heaviest things I bring her with that same quality. Almost nothing spills. Nothing is dropped. And in working with her you begin to suspect that it was always possible to arrive still hot, still whole, with everything intact.
You just needed someone to ride with you.
Written on Jul 03, 2026 after therapy with Charity for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, eating disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Charity is the kind of therapist you hope to find but rarely do- sharp, warm, and excellent at her work. Like Mary Poppins, she's practically perfect in every way, minus the umbrella (though honestly, with the way she handles things, I wouldn't be surprised).
Written on Jun 15, 2026 after therapy with Charity for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, eating disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, and coping with life changes
She remembers what I’ve been through and she’s so kind.
Written on May 28, 2026 after therapy with Charity for 8 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, and self esteem
Before BetterHelp, I had multiple attempts to pursue therapy with other providers (all who didn't quite provide what I was searching for). Dr. Rolfes is personable and has been knowledgable to help guide me in a variety of different personal struggles. Her schedule has been accommodating to my somewhat inflexible workdays. Glad we got matched & already have our next session booked!
Written on May 19, 2026 after therapy with Charity for 3 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, and relationship issues
10/10 no notes
Written on May 12, 2026 after therapy with Charity for 5 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, and coping with life changes