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Dr. Kourtney Vaillancourt, LMFT

Addictions Relationships Family conflicts Grief
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About me

Thank you for taking the time to read through my profile, I am glad that you are taking the step to reach out for help!

To begin, I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Licensed Drug and Alcohol Counselor, and a Life Coach in New Mexico. For the past 14 years I've worked with individuals, couples, and families across the lifespan to tackle challenges that they're facing in their lives. I have specialized training in family relationships, marriage/couples, substance abuse, sexuality, mindfulness, grief and loss, trauma, and military families. I engage in a non-judgmental approach to helping clients identify their strengths and use those to tackle the problems they face.

I think that it is important for me to note that I really love the work that I do, and I love being able to provide therapy through a platform that is convenient and available 24/7. Online therapy is new and exciting, but also may be a little scary at first. I'm here to take things at your pace and to help you to navigate the platform and to help you feel at ease with this style of work. :)

I engage in client-centered practice where your needs and wishes are respected and honored. I practice from a systems perspective that involves considering how the challenges you face are impacted by, and likewise impact, the systems to which you belong (i.e., family, work, community). I am also a strengths-based therapist who avoids pathologizing anyone, we all experience challenges and need help from time to time, that is not an indication of some inherent weakness. I am comfortable working with liberals and conservatives, religious and non-religious individuals alike. Because I adopt a non-judgmental approach and one that allows you to be the expert in your own life, my own perceptions and beliefs take a back seat. Of course it is impossible to completely avoid bias, but I actively address with my clients their beliefs and values and we work together to understand one another and respect differing perspectives. So please do not be confused or discouraged because I list in my profile that I can work with people from opposite spiritual, religious, or otherwise beliefs...the client-centered practice that I have built allows an opportunity for this. I am also happy to discuss this further if questions arise. :)

Personally, I am the mother of two young and energetic boys who keep me running! I have been married for 15 years, my husband and I enjoy watching movies, camping, hiking, and most of all laughing. We also have two very spoiled dogs who round out our household.

I take pride and joy in my work and look forward to engaging with you as you begin your journey to a better you!

Professional experience

14yrs in practice
Addictions Relationships Family conflicts Grief

Additional areas of focus: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Trauma and abuse, Intimacy-related issues, Eating disorders, Sleeping disorders, Parenting issues, Anger management, Self esteem, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Depression, Aging and Geriatric Issues, Attachment issues, BDSM, Kink, Alternative Sex Culture, Blended Family Issues, Body image, Caregiver issues and stress, Chronic pain illness and disability, Codependency, Commitment Issues, Communication problems, Control issues, Coping with Natural or Human-Caused Disaster, Divorce and separation, Domestic Violence, Drug and Alcohol Addiction, Eating and Food-Related Issues, Emptiness, Expats, Family of Origin Issues, Family Problems, Fatherhood Issues, Fertility Issues, First Responder Issues, Forgiveness, Guilt and shame, HIV / AIDS, Hoarding, Hospice and End of Life Counseling, Immigration Issues, Infidelity, Isolation / loneliness, Jealousy, Life purpose, Men's issues, Midlife crisis, Military and Veterans Issues, Money and financial issues, Mood disorders , Multicultural Concerns, Obsessions, Compulsions, and OCD, Panic disorder and panic attacks, Polyamory / Nonmonogamous Relationships, Postpartum Depression, Post-traumatic stress, Pregnancy and childbirth, Prejudice and Discrimination, Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling), Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-love, Sex Addiction, Sexual Assault and Abuse, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexuality, Social anxiety and phobia, Traumatic Brain Injury, Trichotillomania, Visually Impaired, Women's issues, Workplace issues, Young Adult Issues

Clinical approaches: Attachment-Based Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy

Services offered

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License information

NM LMFT CMF0109041

TX LMFT 203717

PA LMFT MF001458

NJ LMFT 37FI00225700


These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Dr. Kourtney Vaillancourt. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.

I am very happy with Dr Vaillancourt

Written on Dec 16, 2021 after therapy with Kourtney for 1 year and 1 month

Great conversation slow in response

Written on May 15, 2021 after therapy with Kourtney for 6 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, coping with life changes, and adhd

Very helpful, not too pushy but supportive.

Written on Mar 23, 2021 after therapy with Kourtney for 3 weeks on issues concerning trauma and abuse

Dr. Vaillancourt is a very understanding and knowledgeable therapist who I feel genuinely listens without judgement. She wants to get to the root causes and wants to help the best way possible. I have felt completely comfortable talking with her and I truly feel she will help me on the path to bettering myself. Could not ask for anything more!

Written on Feb 03, 2021 after therapy with Kourtney for 2 months

Dr. Vaillancourt helped me through a very difficult time, in the aftermath of losing my dad and finding life to be just too much to get through on my own. I really appreciate her work and her willingness to try and check up on you even if you haven't posted in a while.

Very much recommended.

Written on Feb 01, 2021 after therapy with Kourtney for 3 years and 1 month on issues concerning depression, grief, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, and self esteem

She listens and provides helpful tips and tricks to challenge and improve the state of mind.

Written on Jan 03, 2021 after therapy with Kourtney for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, career difficulties, compassion fatigue, and adhd