My name is Mary Hargarten and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I am located in Milwaukee, WI. I have been doing therapy in person and online for 22 years. I have done therapy with individuals, couples and families. I have worked with clients around issues such as anxiety, depression, panic attacks, relationship issues, family issues, domestic violence, self-esteem, sexual abuse, women’s issues, aging and issues at different life stages.
It is my belief that we all have the resources we need inside of us to cope with the challenges that life throws at us. Sometime we just need a little help finding those coping skills and bringing them out. We all have strengths that we can develop and build on to help us cope better in day to day life. I believe that our family of origin can have a lot of influence on our ideas and beliefs so it is important to explore that influence and how it may be helping or hurting us in the present day. I believe in treating the whole person and in trying to find a good balance in all areas of our lives - physical, emotional, intellectual, social and spiritual.
My style is to be warm, caring, non-judgmental, compassionate and I have a good sense of humor. I try to step into your shoes so I can better understand exactly where you are coming from. You are the expert on your life and I am the expert on therapeutic strategies so we need to work together to see what will work best to get you where you want to go in your life. I think it takes tremendous courage to go to therapy and talk about your deepest feelings and fears. So just taking that step shows you are already moving in the right direction to shift your life in the way you want it to go.
I use different types of therapy - Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Solution Focused therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Bowen’s Family System’s therapy. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helps us look at our thoughts and beliefs and actions and how they are working positively or negatively for us. Solution Focused Therapy is about focusing on one issue at a time and setting goals to solve the problem. Motivational Interviewing is about finding out what motivates you to make changes in your behaviors. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy teaches how to accept the things we cannot change and commit to changing the things we can. It also teaches Mindfulness which is a very useful tool in everyday life. Bowen’s Family System Therapy talks about how we each need to “individuate” from our families by developing our own values and beliefs as an individual.
I truly look forward to working with you. I love doing this work and being reminded daily of the strength of the human spirit.
Additional areas of focus: LGBT, Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Intimacy-related issues, Parenting issues, Anger management, Bipolar disorder, Aging and Geriatric Issues, Communication Problems, Divorce and Separation, Domestic Violence, Family of Origin Issues, Family Problems, Forgiveness, Guilt and Shame, Infidelity, Life Purpose, Midlife Crisis, Mood Disorders, Panic Disorder and Panic Attacks, Postpartum Depression, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-Love, Sexual Assault and Abuse, Women's Issues, Young Adult Issues
Clinical approaches: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy
WI LCSW 7107-123
WI LMFT 676-124
Mary is kind and knowledgable and clearly cares about my situation and my goals. She offered simple and doable suggestions and helped to broaden my perspective. I would highly recommend her!
Written on Oct 11, 2023 after therapy with Mary for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues
Great therapist. Quickly recognized what my needs were and has great strategies that challenge my current way of thinking so I can overcome the present day obstacles.
Written on Apr 18, 2023 after therapy with Mary for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, compassion fatigue, and adhd