You have come to this website because you are seeking a way to answer some questions or resolve some kind of dilemma. My role is as a kind of "coach" to help you discover the strengths and skills you already have and to develop new ones that will help you find the answers to your questions or the resolution of your dilemma. My name is (Ms.) Toby F. Mailman. I am a New York State licensed Clinical Social Worker. I completed my degree at New York University and have been in practice with individual adults since 2001. I have worked with a diversity of clients, including diverse ethnicities, cultures, and sexual orientations. I have experience taking into consideration the norms of different cultures and the role they may play in psychotherapy.
My approach to psychotherapy is to establish a relationship with a client in order to foster trust, as I believe that trust is one of the most important factors for therapy to be helpful to the client. I use different kinds of modalities, depending on what I believe would be most effective for the client. Sometimes different kinds of modalities may be useful for the same person. The modalities that I have been using include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Narrative Therapy, Body Work, Mindfulness and Psychodynamic Psychotherapy.
I believe that therapy is most effective when there are regularly scheduled weekly or bi-weekly sessions. Out of respect for each other, I would advise anyone as far in advance as possible if I need to reschedule an appointment and would fully expect that the subscriber who is seeking services with me would do the same. It is always best practice to consult with me before scheduling a different appointment, since some times may already be taken by a regular weekly client, even if they look "open" on schedules that are weeks ahead.
The issues I have worked on with clients include, but are not limited to:
Grief and mourning
I hope I have an opportunity to help you improve and enrich your life, and I congratulate you on having the courage to take this step.
Additional areas of focus: Relationship issues, Grief, Sleeping disorders, Parenting issues, Anger management, Career difficulties, Coping with life changes, Compassion fatigue, Abandonment, Caregiver Issues and Stress, Chronic Pain Illness and Disability, Co-morbidity, Commitment Issues, Communication Problems, Control Issues, Coping with Natural or Human-Caused Disaster, Domestic Violence, Drug and Alcohol Addiction, Expats, First Responder Issues, Forgiveness, Guilt and Shame, HIV / AIDS, Hoarding, Immigration Issues, Mood Disorders, Multicultural Concerns, Obsessions, Compulsions, and OCD, Panic Disorder and Panic Attacks, Personality Disorders, Phobias, Post-traumatic Stress, Self-Harm, Sexual Assault and Abuse, Social Anxiety and Phobia, Women's Issues
Clinical approaches: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), Existential Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy
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Sometimes your vision is off. Toby helped me correct my vision to a much better life.
Written on Oct 30, 2023 after therapy with Toby for 1 month on issues concerning family conflicts, trauma and abuse, and anger management
I look forward to my sessions with Toby. We work on strategies for healing and boundary setting.
Written on May 22, 2023 after therapy with Toby for 1 month on issues concerning relationship issues, sleeping disorders, and self esteem
toby is the best!
Written on May 01, 2023 after therapy with Toby for 3 years on issues concerning stress, anxiety
Toby is supportive and truly listens to me. She creates an environment where I feel safe to share with her. I trust Toby and her expertise. I highly recommend her as a therapist!
Written on Mar 24, 2023 after therapy with Toby for 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem
Written on Dec 13, 2022 after therapy with Toby for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem
Toby is firm, supportive, curious, and helpful. I find her style to be appropriately challenging and compassionate. She understands my issues and offers insightful observations and questions for me to guide my personal growth.
Written on Nov 28, 2022 after therapy with Toby for 8 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, and coping with life changes