About Me

Hello and Welcome,

In my experience, people seek counseling for many different reasons. Although life can be challenging and sometimes difficult, I believe that with support and effective strategies, we can all find a way to thrive in any situation at any stage of life. There are times when we need help processing losses and painful situations as well and I believe therapy can help anyone find relief from pain in these distressing situations.

Through non-judgemental and supportive listening it may be possible to help you identify the causes of your distress as well as to explore strengths you can use to improve your overall sense of well-being when life’s difficulties confuse and overwhelm you. The use of long term and short term goals can also be very helpful for anyone in determining treatment strategies and the direction of therapy. I have found Dialectical Behavioral Therapy to be very effective in strengthening self-esteem and confidence, as well as increasing independence, and in improving decision making, relationship health, emotion regulation, and a more positive mood. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be very effective in helping you to identify and replace damaging, distressing and ineffective thinking patterns with those that can help you achieve your goals in life and improve your emotional health.

My name is Toni Kooy and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Colorado. I have been working in the substance abuse and mental health field since 2004. I have a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and a Master’s Degree in Counseling, both, from the University of Colorado.

I have worked with clients primarily, in the rural and urban community mental health center setting and have worked with a variety of clients from the age of 4 years old to the age of 80 years old . I have extensive training and experience with clients who struggle with problems related to mood and emotions as well as trauma and grief. I have received extensive training in trauma, which included EMDR. Thus, I have worked with many clients who were experiencing the symptoms of trauma in my past employment. In the past, I have worked as a musician, a construction worker, a nanny, a home-maker, and an assembly worker as well as my current 14 year career as a therapist, so I bring a varied and non-judgmental life perspective to the therapeutic process as well as a flexible schedule.

You have already gained insight into your situation and have utilized strength to seek help. If you would like to continue in your journey toward a life in which you can thrive, I would be honored to join you in your walk.


Specialties

  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Trauma and abuse
  • Self esteem
  • Depression
Also experienced in:
Addictions , LGBT , Relationship issues , Grief , Intimacy-related issues , Parenting issues , Anger management , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder
Years of Experience: 14

Services Offered


  • Messaging

  • Live Chat

  • Phone

  • Video

Licensing

LPC #LPC.0005555 (Expires: 2021-08-01)


Reviews

Written by J.E. on Feb 23, 2021 after counseling with Toni for 10 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety

Toni changed my life. Words cannot describe how grateful I am for her guidance. She listens without judgment and truly cares about helping you find your own strength.

Written by R.O. on Feb 13, 2021 after counseling with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, parenting issues, self esteem, and adhd

Toni has really helped my identify some of the things that have been bothering me. I’m grateful for her help.

Written by J.O. on Jan 20, 2021 after counseling with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and anger management

Words cannot express how much I have enjoyed working with Toni, she is wonderful! Very caring, she listens, very helpful and she is very open and honest without any judgement. Grateful for her!

Written by S.A. on Jan 18, 2021 after counseling with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, and stress, anxiety

This was my first time doing any kind of counseling and I wasn't sure about it at first. Honestly, I really love talking with Toni. She is very easy to talk to and she listens to what I am saying. She has helped me so much and I would recommend her to anyone!

Written by A.R. on Jan 16, 2021 after counseling with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, career difficulties, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue

I have seen two other counselors in the past, and found that they were either too schmaltzy for me, or too rough around the edges to relate with. Toni is a really good fit - she is just the right blend of practical with non-judgemental warmth and caring. I like that she provides gentle resistance when needed if I am in a thought process that needs to be explored more & challenged. I also appreciate that she stays rooted in skills-building & psych foundation while integrating my faith. Definitely recommend!

Written by Z.U. on Dec 16, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes

I am new to counseling and still pretty new to Toni. I have felt very comfortable being vulnerable with her because she is extremely supportive and does not judge. I am excited to keep growing with her over time and seeking guidance from her. Toni offers a wide range of knowledge and life experience. She is a very relatable woman, and someone I feel safe talking to.

Written by D.A. on Nov 05, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, and coping with life changes

Toni is amazing! She really listens and seems to understand me. We have fun during our sessions she seems to get me very well and offers great advice and ways to cope in a gentle way. All around good person who has helped me tons! I truly appreciate her.

Written by G.A. on Sep 24, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue

I’ve had a few therapists in the past couple months and she has been the best. Making me feel heard and I’ve actually made progress in my life to living happier

Written by I.M. on Sep 16, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, bipolar disorder, compassion fatigue, and adhd

Toni tells me straight forward, she doesn’t sugar coat. She immediately jumped into the issues I was facing, which is exactly what I needed. If I forget to reply, she reached back out to me to check on me. I couldn’t recommend her more.

Written by S.H. on Aug 20, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, and compassion fatigue

Toni has helped me through some of the biggest challenges in my life. I'm learning to love myself more and face life with greater confidence thanks to her support and advice. She's truly been a beacon of light for me these past few months.

Written by M.A. on Jul 30, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, family conflicts, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, and coping with life changes

Best counselor I’ve ever had :)

Written by M.O. on Jul 02, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, grief, and self esteem

Toni was fantastic help for me! If I could afford to continue services with her I would, but unfortunately I am not able to. She is understanding and listened to everything I had to say, I would not be where I am in life without her help!

Written by K.R. on Jun 01, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, anger management, and coping with life changes

Toni has helped me through the darkest time in my life. She is compassionate, understanding and helpful. She's great!

Written by R.H. on Apr 30, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, grief, and coaching

I am really pleased with her timely response to my e-mails. I am still in the early stages of counseling but so far so good.

Written by J.E. on Apr 21, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, self esteem, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue

Toni has really helped me in working to develop my emotional intelligence. She is very thoughtful and knows when to listen and when to offer advice. She is also very responsive.

Written by F.E. on Apr 16, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, coping with life changes, and adhd

Toni is a fantastic counselor. Attentive, encouraging and knowledgeable, she has made me feel listened to and has equipped me with tools to work through my issues with ease and understanding.

Written by L.A. on Jan 29, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and career difficulties

Toni listens very carefully to my concerns and feelings. She has given me more tools to work on my specific needs than any other counselor I’ve seen. I’m definitely feeling more capable, competent and happier since I’ve started working with her!

Written by S.J. on Jan 23, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, and coping with life changes

Toni not only responds quickly to my messages, but really seems to dig into what I'm struggling with and helps point out a different perspective that I've been blinded to. She is flexible with my schedule and checks in if she hasn't heard from me in a while.

Written by S.T. on Jan 19, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, intimacy-related issues, and compassion fatigue

This service is helpful, convenient and affordable. I love it!

Written by S.H. on Jan 17, 2020 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, and relationship issues

Toni is great at what she does. I always feel listened to and understood. She has knowledge about skills and techniques which makes me feel I like I can wave BetterHelp one day with the skills I need to move forward in life.

Written by A.L. on Sep 30, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks

Toni's been extremely helpful and a good listener! Her explanations help me make connections to how I'm feeling, and provide some key strategies that can help me day-to-day. I love working with her!

Written by D.M. on Sep 22, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 1 year on issues concerning relationship issues, and self esteem

Toni is caring, understanding and never judges me! She is supportive and I feel like she is someone I can trust.

Written by T.A. on Jun 05, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, parenting issues, self esteem, and anger management

Toni is very sweet and understanding. I have a very busy schedule and she is always flexible to reschedule sessions if I need to. She gives a variety of relaxation tools to help with trauma and anxiety.

Written by B.R. on Apr 26, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues

I see Toni as a friend that has gotten to know me and actually is invested in me and what is going on in my life. I feel like I have a friend that I can talk to.

Written by C.A. on Apr 25, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, addictions, family conflicts, grief, self esteem, coping with life changes, coaching, and compassion fatigue

Toni has encouraged me to vent and is able to identify main issues. Her communication skills are excellent. Toni's feedback has helped me understand myself better and offered suggestions to move through it. She is straightforward and supportive.

Written by N.A. on Apr 23, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, self esteem, anger management, and coping with life changes

Toni helped me a great deal. Her insightful questions, comments, and suggestions were spot on. She was always available - responding to my messages immediately. I highly recommend Toni as a counselor!

Written by M.O. on Mar 05, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem

Before Toni, I was crying every day and feeling immensely depressed and hopeless due to childhood trauma and also more recent trauma. She is a great listener, extremely caring, affectionate while also professional and organized, keeping the big picture in mind. She has been methodically guiding me through stages of personal growth and healing via video calls and also sending me reading materials. Whenever I feel down, which happens much more rarely than it used to, I console myself with the thought that my next session with her is scheduled soon.

I highly recommend Toni for anyone dealing with depression, insecurity, heartbreak, trauma of varying severity. My life is getting better every day because of her guidance.

Written by N.A. on Mar 03, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and career difficulties

Toni is wonderful. She understands depression and anxiety, and does everything she can to help you understand it too. She’s kind, and funny, and I have never once felt judged when talking to her.

Written by J.E. on Feb 24, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, anger management, coping with life changes, and adhd

I really like Toni. She offers a wide variety of advice and ways to get me into my own head if need be. I think my favorite part of BetterHelp is just having someone that you can talk to whenever it may be. It’s helping me with so much and I am so grateful to her.

Written by K.E. on Feb 06, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes

Toni has been very helpful. She is very empathetic and clearly understands me and helps me understand my situation better.

Written by K.. on Jan 11, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, self esteem, anger management, and coping with life changes

Toni seems to genuinely care, and is always ready and willing to talk or listen.

Written by S.A. on Jan 11, 2019 after counseling with Toni for 4 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, self esteem, and compassion fatigue

Toni is very supportive & understanding. She makes me feel that I'm heard & understood and that she will be there for me when I message her. I'm glad she's my counselor.

Written by A.N. on Dec 18, 2018 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, lgbt, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, and self esteem

She is a great therapist. She has a professional disposition and great attitude.

Written by W.E. on Dec 15, 2018 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, and bipolar disorder

Toni has been kind and understanding, and with the initial time we've spoken has worked to understand what I'm going through.

Written by J.U. on Oct 31, 2018 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and career difficulties

Tony has been a large help already and has given me some insight on things that I have been struggling with my whole life. I look forward to sticking with her and hoping to advance with her expertise in realizing what I can be and how I can think better and feel better.

Written by M.A. on Oct 23, 2018 after counseling with Toni for 4 weeks on issues concerning self esteem

Toni is helpful and very easy to talk to, I recommend her counselling services.

Written by L.U. on Oct 19, 2018 after counseling with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, parenting issues, and anger management

Toni, has been wonderful during her counseling. She does not mind my long messages, and I know he reads them in depth because of her precise answers. Her questions have helped me to go back in time and relate instances that have altered my present emotional state. I feel I can open up to her and tell her anything.