Different Types Of Abuse And Their Impact On You

By Stephanie Kirby

Updated February 12, 2020

Reviewer Tiffany Howard, LPC, LCADC

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Abuse is a traumatic situation. It doesn't matter if you're abused by an intimate partner, parent, or anyone else. Most people are familiar with physical abuse and the pain that it causes, but not as many people are familiar with the emotional pain and mental health challenges that result from other types of abuse. But, just because you can't see the mental and emotional scars of abuse doesn't mean they don't exist.

The statistics on abuse are alarming. One in nine men and one in four women have been victims of abuse from an intimate partner. So, when you add in the number of children that are abused by parents or people abused by family members or others, the number increases dramatically. If you are a victim of abuse, you are not alone.

The first thing to do if you are in an abusive situation is to get away. If you are a child or elderly person who is being abused by a caregiver, you need to tell someone right away. There are alternatives and you have options even if your abuser tells you that you do not. That is what they do, they brainwash you into believing that you have no place to go and that nobody will believe you or help you. This is absolutely false in all cases.

No matter what, if you are being abused, someone will help you. If you cannot get away from the person long enough to get help, you can contact someone online that can help. There are professionals that can get you the help you need no matter what is going on. And, it doesn't matter if you were recently abused or if the abuse happened decades ago. There are treatments that can help you overcome the trauma that you experienced. Below we'll go over common forms of abuse.

Physical Abuse

Physical abuse can include any type of physical harm to another person such as:

  • Kicking, punching, slapping, hitting
  • Forcing a partner to use substances
  • Controlling medication or refusing medical care
  • Strangulation
  • Burning
  • Using weapons on such as knives, guns, or other weapons

Mental Abuse

Mental or emotional abuse is when a partner uses mind games to control their loved one. Some of the tactics used include:

  • Degradation
  • Causing undue fear
  • Stalking
  • Isolation or refusing to let the person go anywhere
  • Humiliating or shaming the person
  • Intimidating the person
  • Showing extreme jealousy
  • Blaming your partner for everything
  • Insulting or calling names
  • Making the person feel bad about themselves

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Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse is not really about sex but about power and control. When a person forces their partner to perform any kind of sexual behavior without their consent, it is sexual abuse. Some of these are:

  • Convincing the person to have sex without birth control
  • Physically hurting the person while having sexual relations
  • Having sexual activity with someone who is not coherent, intoxicated, or afraid to say no
  • Making a person have sex with others against their will

Child Abuse

Child abuse can include psychological, sexual, or physical mistreatment of a child. This can be done by the parent or any caregiver of the child. It may be something that is done to or something withheld from the child that can cause some type of harm. Some of the examples include:

  • Beating, hitting, kicking, slapping
  • Choking, strangling
  • Burning
  • Pulling hair
  • Shaking
  • Throwing, dropping
  • Biting
  • Scratching or pinching
  • Forcing the child to eat or swallow dangerous things (spices or soap)

Child Neglect

Child neglect can be complicated and has different categories. They include:

  • Lack of education, keeping a child home from school
  • Emotional neglect by not providing support and nurturing
  • Lack of medical care
  • Physical neglect includes not providing basic necessities like a safe home and healthy food
  • Supervisory neglect is when the parent ignores things their child is doing that can cause them harm
  • Abandoning or leaving your child alone for long periods of time

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Adult Abuse

Elder or adult abuse is usually done by family members but can also be done by any caregiver. Similar to children, many elderlies are helpless and susceptible to physical, mental, financial, and sexual abuse or neglect. The abuse can include things like:

  • Physical abuse - inflicting pain or physical restraint
  • Mental or emotional abuse - causing humiliation, degradation, or other emotional trauma
  • Financial or material abuse - withholding or taking funds from the elderly person
  • Sexual abuse - any type of sexual contact with the elderly person that is not consensual
  • Neglect - withholding care or medication

Financial Abuse

If your partner has control over your finances and withholds money needed or causes you to lose your job, this is financial abuse. Some of the examples include:

  • Deliberately making a person's credit score go down
  • Controlling all the household finances and not allowing you to use your own money
  • Harassing your partner at work
  • Hurting your partner so they cannot work

Bullying

Bullying is mean or aggressive behavior that involves being overpowered. This can be when a single person picks on another or when a group picks on one or more individuals. It usually happens on a regular basis and causes the bullied child or adult to be afraid. Some examples are:

  • Name-calling
  • Pushing or hitting
  • Inciting others to pick on the individual
  • Constant ridicule
  • Intimidating

Who Are the Abusers?

The abuser may be a loved one such as a husband, wife, or intimate partner. Or they could be a parent or grandparent, a sibling, or another relative. It may also be a teacher, coach, or family friend. It is impossible to tell who an abuser may be because many times they are just like anyone else. However, there are some risk factors that you can watch for. Many times, abusers are people that have suffered from abuse in their own path. They have been cruel to animals or other children when they were young. And, they can have unpredictable behavior. Abusers might believe that they are better than others and suffer from extreme jealousy. They can be known for having a bad temper and being very controlling.

The Effects of Abuse

The effects of abuse vary depending on the type, length, and severity of the abuse. It can also vary based on the person that was abused. Different people have different reactions. Some people may come through abuse with very little effects at all but most have mental scars and possibly physical scars as well. The physical scars of abuse are usually visible right away such as:

  • Bruises, cuts, burns
  • Broken bones
  • Black eyes
  • Tooth loss
  • Head trauma or brain damage
  • Blindness

The psychological scars of abuse may take longer to manifest and may last forever if treatment is not received. Some of the most common psychological scars include:

  • Anxiety disorder
  • Depression
  • Acting out (misbehaving, getting in trouble with police)
  • Risky behavior and/or sexual promiscuity
  • Drug and alcohol abuse
  • Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder
  • Mood or personality disorders
  • Fear of relationships
  • Lack of self-esteem

Many victims of abuse have post-traumatic stress disorder and do not even know it. The signs of this disorder include:

  • Flashbacks and nightmares
  • Guilt and shame
  • Headaches and memory loss
  • Insomnia and extreme fatigue
  • Feelings of extreme anger or irritation
  • Avoiding people and public places along with an inability to trust anyone
  • Depression, anxiety, and stress
  • Fear of the unknown
  • Unexplained bouts of crying
  • Nausea
  • Nervousness, shaking, trembling, heart palpitations, and chest pain
  • Dizziness or fainting
  • Chronic pain


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Most victims of abuse will tell you that the psychological scars of abuse are worse than the physical scars because they never go away and even though they are unseen to the naked eye, they are just as painful.

Treatment for Abuse Victims

There is counseling for every type of abuse from physical, sexual, psychological, and even financial abuse. The best way to help is to talk about it but that is not easy for many victims of abuse. It may take years before a victim is able to talk about what happened to them. In fact, even if the abuse happened 10 or 20 years ago, it may seem like it is still going on for them if they have not gotten treatment.

One of the most effective treatments for abuse is cognitive behavioral therapy. This is a form of talk therapy that helps you deal with depression and anxiety by interrupting the link between the mind and the body when you are under stress. In other words, it is psychotherapy that teaches you how to focus on your thoughts and behaviors so you can control them. It is a way of breaking the connection between your bad memories of the past and the feelings and behaviors of the future.

One important fact about abuse victims is that many do not want to leave the safety of their homes. After being in an abusive situation and finally finding a place where they feel safe, many victims have a hard time going outside that space. Therefore, online therapy can be a major blessing for them. Being able to talk to a therapist from the safety of their own home gives the victim more security and the chances of their treatment being successful is much higher.

In fact, many victims of abuse cancel their appointments over and over again if they are seeing a therapist outside their home. This is true for many patients with mental health disorders. Online therapy has become a lifesaver to these people and many others like them because they would not have gotten therapy otherwise. Betterhelp.com is the largest mental health provider in the world and has more than 2,000 licensed professional therapists who can help you now. No appointment needed. Read below for some reviews on our counselors, from people experiencing similar issues.

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"Sharon Valentino has helped me through so much! Since we started working together, just a few months ago, I already feel like I have more power and control over my life. I have let go of some very painful things, I have moved away from abusive relationships and really gaining skills and tools I need to keep myself safe and happy. She has taught me that I have the power to control my thoughts, my anxiety, and most of all my company. I really like how direct she is, it helps me get grounded and connect to myself. I can't wait to see where I am after working with her a year!!!"

Conclusion

There is never an excuse for abuse. If you are a victim of abuse, seek the help that you need to have a full recovery. You are worth it. Take the first step.


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