What Do Depression And Anger Do To Me?
Updated January 01, 2019
Reviewer Laura Angers
Do you find yourself struggling with anger and depression? Maybe you don't even realize that it's happening,but it could be affecting you. Understanding what depression and anger are and what they can do for your future is essential. But not everyone even realizes that they have them. But we'll discuss more than just what it means to be depressed or angry. We'll also take a look at what you can do if you're suffering from either or both of these yourself. Before you know it you'll be able to get the help you need to live a healthy and happy life.
What Is Depression?
Depression is a very complex mental health disorder, though you may not think about it. Many people mistakenly think that depression is just sadness and that it's only about being unhappy, but that's not the case at all. Depression is characterized in a completely different way. Someone who is depressed will have extensive sadness and negative emotions, as well as lack of interest in things that they once enjoyed, but they'll also have other symptoms, including:
- Change in appetite
- Weight gain or loss not associated with dieting
- Difficulty sleeping
- Excessive sleeping
- Increased fatigue or loss of energy
- Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
- Thoughts of suicide or death
- Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
Although this is not an exhaustive list, it's one that you should consider for yourself and your loved ones. You want to make sure you recognize any of these signs if they occur in someone around you because getting treatment as quickly as possible can help you to get back to the life that you want to live. Even worse, depression can lead to a host of other mental health problems, including anger, which we'll talk about next.
What Is Anger?
Feeling anger is a completely normal human emotion. It's something that happens to each of us occasionally, and that's fine, but it's important to understand the difference between 'normal' anger and the type of overwhelming or irrational anger that can cause problems for your future. But how do you know if you have a normal kind of anger or if you're suffering from some type of anger disorder? Well, there are a few different things you should look at for yourself and those around you.
There are three different kinds of symptoms related to anger, and they focus on behavior, emotion and physical symptoms. That means you'll likely have a combination of several different factors.
Emotional symptoms include:
- Excessive irritability or anxiety
- Overwhelming rage
- Difficulty organizing thoughts
- Fantasizing about hurting yourself or others
Physical symptoms include:
- Heart palpitations
- The pressure in the sinuses or head
- Tingling in the body
- Higher blood pressure
Behavioral symptoms include:
- Acting out
- Difficulty interacting with others
There are plenty of additional symptoms that may occur,and any of these symptoms can occur in a range of different combinations as well. You don't have to feel any specific way. Everyone experiences anger and depression in different ways, but when they combine it can make life harder for you and your family.
What Happens When I Am Angry And Depressed?
When you experience anger and depression in ways that are extreme or unhealthy, you can set yourself up for even bigger problems throughout the rest of your life. That's because they both affect the way that you live that life. If you experience severe depression, it can lead to anxiety, increased anger problems and of course, withdrawal from your life. Withdrawing from the things that you once enjoyed leads to a loss of friends who don't understand that you are depressed and could even result in losing a job. These things can make depression worse, which begins a long cycle of increased withdrawal and increased depression.
Some people even consider harming themselves or even committing suicide. Getting professional help can get you on the path to healing and recovery rather than allowing you to travel further down a negative path. Being depressed and staying depressed becomes a type of self-fulfilling prophecy. What that means is you feel like you're outside looking in and because of that feeling of being unwanted (for example), you cause yourself to be excluded or take yourself out of the situation. In the end, you wind up even more upset, and this continues to lead to just the thing that you think is going to happen.
But what about anger? What does anger do for your future and your life? The unfortunate truth is that anger can cause serious problems in your life as well. Your friends and family don't want to argue with you. While it's normal to have disagreements and even for those disagreements sometimes to turn heated, if your anger is excessive, it can drive away your friends and family. As that happens, it can feed into the depression that you feel because you start to feel even more alone.
In some cases, anger even leads to abuse and that is a very serious problem. You don't want to hurt your friends and family. You want to protect your loved ones, but when anger gets the better of you, it's sometimes possible to lash out even at those you love.
Types Of Treatment For Anger And Depression
There are several different types of treatment that you can seek out for anger, depression and any other mental health disorders as well. Traditional styles of therapy include sitting down, one-on-one, with a therapist or mental health professional and simply talking about your thoughts and your feelings. These types of therapy are very loose in their 'rules' and generally allow you to have the floor as much as you want, talking about anything and everything. There isn't a whole lot of structure, though the therapist may guide you with questions along the way.
More structured forms of therapy may look at your childhood or past traumas as a source of the anger or depression that you are experiencing now. These methods consider what caused you to feel this way and focus on resolving those childhood issues to change the way that you react now. For some, healing the trauma that occurred is the best way to recover their future, and it helps them to reduce the depressive thoughts or even work through their anger. Of course, not everyone experiencing depression or anger has a traumatic childhood, and it may involve looking deeper to see where it started.
Group therapy can be a benefit for many people as well. This is because group therapy puts you either with the family and friends that you are struggling with or it puts you in a group of other people who are experiencing the same thing that you are. Putting you with your friends and letting them talk to you about what they see and how you are hurting them (with your anger) or how much they care and want to help you (with your depression) can help you to overcome as well. Working with other people who know what you're going through can help you recognize that it is possible to change and to make your life the way you want.
Getting Help For Anger And Depression
If you have trouble with anger and depression, it's crucial that you seek out the professional help you need. But finding the right professional can be difficult. So what do you do? The best thing you can do is look at the options for therapists and psychiatrists in your area and think about the important factors for you when speaking with a therapist. These are generally things like proximity, how comfortable you feel with the therapist and even how you can communicate with them, or when. But what if you aren't all that comfortable with the therapists in your area? If that's the case, then you need to look at some of the other options.
Online therapy is one way that you can resolve all of these potential problems. With online therapy, you are no longer limited by the physical proximity of your therapist. Instead, you can get online and talk to a therapist who's anywhere in the country. You'll also be able to connect with them whenever you want and from anywhere too. After all, you just log on from your computer to the network, and then you hold your session, just like that.
With online therapy, you're also going to have no reason not to make your sessions. That's because even when you're away for business or on a family vacation, you'll still have access to your therapist. All you need is an internet connection, and then you can get comfortable anywhere. You'll be able to sit on your couch, your favorite chair, the kitchen table or even a little café if you want. It's all about where you feel comfortable and ready to talk about anything. BetterHelp is a great place for you to get access to an online therapist too, and it gives you the opportunity to get everything you're looking for.