What Is Existential Anxiety & How To Cope With It
Updated October 21, 2020
Medically Reviewed By: Lauren Guilbeault
Do you ever find yourself preoccupied with the question of why you're here? If so, you might have existential anxiety. Those who suffer from this form of anxiety are often plagued with questions about the meaning and purpose of life.
However, existential anxiety doesn't have to control your life. If you are willing to take the proper steps, a brighter future lies ahead. You deserve to live a peaceful life, and it's possible to get there.
What Is Existential Anxiety?
To put it simply, existential anxiety is stress caused from questioning your existence. When you start questioning how you got here, why you are here at this time, and what you are supposed to be doing with your life, it spirals into existential anxiety. While this can cause extreme worry and stress, it can also help you work toward certain goals in life and give you a sense of purpose.
Symptoms of Existential Anxiety
The symptoms of existential anxiety are similar to the symptoms of general anxiety, with a strong focus on worrying about your purpose in life and what the future holds. The symptoms include:
- Avoidance of people or situations you once enjoyed
- Excessive worrying
- Tightness in the chest
- Increased heart rate
How Can You Cope With Existential Anxiety?
Existential anxiety often stems from thinking too much about the future. What will your career be in ten years? Will you be married? Will you have children? Will you be happy? If you think too much about all these things at once, they can become overwhelming. Instead of feeling as though you have no control over your life, there are simple ways you can start working toward long-term goals today.
1. What makes you happy?
What makes you happy is perhaps the most important thing you can learn about yourself. If you begin to focus your path in life based on what truly makes you happy, you'll feel more fulfilled. Make a list of everything you can think of that brings a smile to your face-no matter how big or how small. Maybe it's hiking up a mountain, or playing with a puppy, or collaborating with a team on a big project. Try to keep writing things down until you've filled an entire page with ideas.
2. How can you incorporate more of these things into your daily life?
Look at the list you just made and ask yourself how many of these things you encounter daily. If it's close to none, try to consider how to incorporate them more. Perhaps you can reserve some time every evening before bed to read a chapter of a good book, or you can spend the weekends painting next to a river. In some cases, the things that make you happy could even become your next career! If you love hiking, you could become an outdoor guide, a park ranger, or a camp counselor. If you love playing with puppies, why not become a dog trainer, a veterinarian or work at a boarding kennel?
3. Are your interpersonal relationships causing you existential anxiety?
Whether you've spent your entire life dreaming about the day you'll get married, or not given it much thought, chances are at some point you'll meet someone who you connect with. That initial spark can be both beautiful and terrifying. Is this person right for you? How long will this relationship last? Are they the one?
We've been so over-saturated by the typical Hollywood love story that when we find our perfect match, we may not even realize it. You may not have one soul mate, and your true love might not look like a movie star. If you spend your entire life looking for someone who ticks every single box, you may spend your life disappointed in everyone. Real love-as opposed to the love in all those romantic comedies-requires a lot of hard work and dedication from both parties. If you've found someone you click with, don't get rid of them just because it doesn't seem like a fairytale romance.
"By recognizing certain patterns that are leading to anxious feelings, a professional therapist can give you coping tools to help you make certain changes that will reduce your anxiety."
On the other hand, don't stay in a relationship that you aren't satisfied with just because you're afraid of never finding anything else. Settling is never the best option. There will always be someone and something new and exciting.
4. Will you have children? Will you travel? What does life have in store for you?
Sometimes we're faced with so many decisions at once that we're unable to decide anything at all. Even something as simple as deciding what to eat for breakfast or where to spend our free time in the afternoon can seem daunting when dealing with existential anxiety. Every little decision seems of imperative but unknown importance. But making decisions helps you progress, so it's important not to get too hung up on all the small details.
Remember that making one decision doesn't necessarily close all the other doors. If you have children and then decide you want to travel, you still can! If you study a certain subject in college and decide you want to follow a different career path afterward, no problem! If you expand your imagination, you can find ways of doing nearly everything you desire-just maybe not always in the exact way you've always envisioned it.
Treatment of Existential Anxiety
There are various methods for treating existential anxiety. Medication and cognitive behavioral therapy are two common ones.
Medication - Both antidepressants and benzodiazepines may be prescribed for more severe cases of existential anxiety. Antidepressants work to restore proper levels of serotonin, noradrenaline, and dopamine in the brain, while benzodiazepines are minor tranquilizers and promote a feeling of relaxation. While helpful, benzodiazepines should only be used for short periods since they can become addictive and don't solve the underlying emotional issue.
Cognitive behavioral therapy - Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) acknowledges that how we think and behave affects our overall emotions. By recognizing certain patterns that are leading to anxious feelings, a professional therapist can give you coping tools to help you make certain changes that will reduce your anxiety.
The first step is identifying negative thought patterns, then challenging them by considering how realistic they are, and replacing those negative thought patterns with more positive ones. The sessions will be different for everyone based on individual needs. CBT often incorporates relaxation and breathing techniques to help alleviate symptoms of anxiety.
Learning to Live with Anxiety
Existential anxiety may not ever completely go away, and that's okay. Without a bit of anxiety over our purpose and future, we would never progress. The important thing to remember is that you are in control of your own life.
This may be daunting when faced with so many decisions, but ultimately you can carve out the future you want, even if it seems as though the steps you are taking aren't leading you towards anything. Start with small goals and keep reminding yourself that every step forward is a step closer to a larger goal.
Grounding techniques are a great place to start when you are dealing with anxiety. These techniques are designed to help ground you in the world and take power from your anxiety. This will help you realize how to battle your anxiety or stop it altogether.
When you're feeling anxious, try talking to a friend or family member. The circle of people we keep around us greatly impacts our mental health. Sometimes having an ear to listen to your problems makes all the difference.
Self-care is another important consideration. If you aren't taking the time to care for yourself, you won't have the energy to deal with your anxiety. Make sure your batteries are fully charged each day by taking a few minutes to think about you.
If you feel as though your existential anxiety consumes you, and it negatively affects your everyday life, help is available. Speak with one of the licensed counselors at BetterHelp and learn how you can regain control of your emotions today. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors, from people experiencing similar issues.
"I put off finding a therapist for a long time. I dreaded my first conversation with Neil and all the awkward, clunky explanations I'd have to give about my depression and anxiety. All of the things that felt like dirty little secrets that caused me so much pain. But I was so pleasantly surprised by the way Neil accurately picked up on what I was saying and gave me more insight into how my brain was working. It made my issue feel so much less of a personal problem and more of a universal problem we could examine together. He always gives me a thoughtful response within a day or two any time I send a message. I actually think we've made more progress in between sessions just by being able to communicate things that are coming up in real time. Neil is intelligent and kind. I really appreciate his communication style and highly recommend him."
"Natasha has been a truly amazing counselor! I now feel that I have the confidence to face challenges as they come. Natasha helped me to reflect on why I might be feeling a certain way, while providing me with some tools to cope with my anxiety as needed. She was incredibly understanding and helped me to set realistic goals with myself and others. Not only can I tell that our counseling sessions helped, but also others have commented on the positive changes I have made. She's awesome!"
Existential anxiety doesn't have to control your life. With a little help, you can overcome the suffering brought about by anxiety. Reach out to a therapist at BetterHelp and take that first step to a fulfilling future.