Are You Experiencing Workplace Mobbing? Here's How To Navigate It
Many people assume that when they leave school, the days of bullying or mobbing will be over. However, this is not always the case. Workplace mobbing—the intentional targeting of a coworker for isolation, humiliation, or aggression—happens every day, regardless of occupation. While the term is still relatively unknown, it’s important to identify mobbing (also called bullying) and take action to address its potential impacts.
What does mobbing mean? In her book Workplace Mobbing: Expulsion, Exclusion, and Transformation, Linda Shall cross-defined bullying at work (termed “mobbing”) as “a deliberate attempt to force a person out of their workplace by humiliation, general harassment, emotional abuse, and terror.” This mobbing tends to be executed by a leader (who can be a manager, a co-worker, or a subordinate). The leader then rallies others into a systematic and frequent “mob-like” behavior toward the target. Other terms for mobbing in the workplace include workplace bullying, group bullying, and aggression.
How Common Is Mobbing In The Workplace?
According to the Workplace Bullying Institute, approximately one in three employees is a target of aggression at work. The institute also found that women are most often the targets of this harassment.
The leaders of workplace mobbing may have personality disorders that lead them to engage in aggression, but they are also often known to be charming and charismatic. This can enable them to recruit others to join in mob behavior and continue a pattern of workplace aggression and abuse.
Some abusers also use what is referred to as relational aggression. This is when other coworkers are pitted against the target of workplace bullying. This type of mobbing can be particularly damaging to face at work, with both personal and professional consequences, and can cause a great deal of financial and psychological distress.
Stages of Mobbing
If you suspect you’re being mobbed at work or simply want to understand more about the process and symptoms of workplace mobbing, you may want to consider the stages of mobbing. The stages of mobbing typically mirror the stages of grief:
The first stage in workplace mobbing is disagreement. Mobbing usually sparks with a disagreement or some other form of criticism (such as an investigation, rebuke, warning, suspension, termination, evaluation, or report) toward the target of workplace bullying. This allows the target to be caught off guard and seemingly gives validity to the attack. Mobbing often begins with some form of disagreement regarding the individual being mobbed—for instance, claiming that an employee has a pattern of tardiness after a single late arrival to work.
Anger And Aggression
The second stage is when mobbing aggression becomes more overt and patterned. The target might respond in anger, as their reputation, job, and salary may be at stake. However, responding in anger is precisely what the mobbers desire, as it makes the employee appear to be unfit for work. Workplace mobbing is manipulative, and its aim is to discredit the target as thoroughly as possible.
At the bargaining stage, the perpetrator of the mobbing begins to involve the management team. Often, management is persuaded by the falsehoods portrayed by the mob (if they, themselves, are not already involved in bullying at work.) The bargaining stage of workplace mobbing may create a need in the victim to defend themselves and speak to the management team about bullying at work. At this stage, workplace mobbing has likely already made the victim feel misunderstood and alone; however, appealing to management does not always produce positive outcomes—and can actually make the predicament worse.
This is usually the stage at which the mob has converted managers and other co-workers to a belief that the employee is deserving of the treatment, as everyone seems to be partaking in it.
People who experience workplace mobbing can experience symptoms of depression. For some, it occurs during their time at work; others experience these symptoms only after they have left. After leaving, some victims begin to wonder if the bullying was justified. Other repercussions of workplace mobbing include difficulty with concentration, changes in sleep and appetite, feelings of sadness, low energy, and sometimes suicidal ideation.
If you are thinking about suicide, please contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (988) for support and help immediately.
Workplace mobbing may create a negative cycle that can seem difficult to get out of. The target of workplace bullying may become less productive at work. It can be debilitating, especially if the effects expand beyond the workplace into one’s broader social or professional network. Aside from depression, stress disorders and psychosomatic diseases can occur.
Eventually, the situation tends to resolve in one way or another. The mobbing may subside, human resources may intervene, or the employee may quit or be fired. It’s often hard to let go of the feeling of injustice that accompanies being a target of bullying, so the road to acceptance can be a long and challenging one. However, acceptance is usually achieved faster when one seeks distance from the mob. Workplace mobbing requires healing just as much as any other form of trauma or cruelty, and it should be approached with the same degree of self-consideration and self-care as other mental health issues are, such as depression and anxiety.
How To Handle Mobbing
If you face a conflict at work, you might consider trying to resolve it as quickly, calmly, and respectfully as possible. Workplace mobbing may be easier to stop when it is caught early on in the process. You can learn to recognize the signs of mobbing (particularly the first two stages described above) and respond in a non-aggressive and discreet manner.
If you feel emotional, you might wait until you can approach a problematic colleague in a calm manner. Emotional responses can harm an employee’s credibility, as a mobber might take the opportunity to refer to them as rash, irritable, or too sensitive. Others may go along with what another coworker says out of fear, embarrassment, or disinterest, which may work in favor of workplace mobbing.
Also, you might consider only talking about your experiences at work with someone trustworthy. It may be best to avoid talking about potential mobbing with other coworkers. If you formulate any formal responses, you might try to make them non-threatening, brief, and entirely based in fact. Should you feel anger, try to take a break outside of your workspace to calm down. Also, it’s recommended that you avoid retaliation. If you are considering legal action, keep those potential actions to yourself.
If you are experiencing depression associated with workplace mobbing, you have options. You may want to speak with someone outside work, such as an online counselor at BetterHelp.com. BetterHelp has licensed counselors and therapists available to speak with clients remotely at their convenience.
Also, you might try to build your support system. If your support group was previously within the workplace, you may find it helpful to build a new one, perhaps through family, a community organization, or new friends.
Who Are Targets Of This?
Anyone can be a target of workplace mobbing, but there are some trends. Research suggests that mobbing occurs in work environments with poor organization and management. Other workplaces in which mobbing is common are those with few opportunities for advancement (like universities with tenured faculty or unionized organizations with strong contracts). Mobbing may also be common in fields that were predominantly occupied by one gender but has people of other genders beginning to enter more steadily, such as the military or nursing.
This means that if you are the target of mobbing, it may say more about the employers or environment than it does about you. Experiencing workplace mobbing is not your fault. In fact, targets are sometimes specifically chosen because they are great at their jobs—the opposite of what the mob is trying to portray and, often, the opposite of what the mob exhibits.
Psychological And Physical Effects
People who experience mobbing may experience many psychological and physical effects. Among the most common are sleep disorders, anger, stress, loss of concentration, digestive system disorders, alcohol and drug use, depression, panic attacks, and violent tendencies. It may help to get professional help if you are experiencing any of these issues. BetterHelp may be a good place to start.
Having your reputation attacked can be painful, but it is possible to work through it. With the right support, you can come out stronger and more resilient.
BetterHelp Supports You Advocating For Yourself
Workplace mobbing can be frustrating, insulting, infuriating, and depressing. If you are a target, know that many others have experienced similar situations to yours; a leading nonprofit recently estimated that almost 30% of American workers have personally experienced workplace bullying. If you’re having trouble advocating for yourself, you might want to consider working with a therapist, such as the counselors available through BetterHelp. A trained therapist may be able to provide you with tools and strategies to strengthen your communication skills, confidence, and assertiveness. Talking with a mental health professional about your feelings about being targeted can also promote your emotional and psychological wellness through a difficult time.
If you think therapy might be a good solution for you but you are hesitant to arrange in-person therapy, then consider the advantages of online therapy with BetterHelp. Online therapy has been shown to be just as effective as in-person therapy. With BetterHelp, you can work with a qualified mental health professional on a schedule that works for you via video chat, phone calls, emails, and even text messages. Thanks to the flexibility of online therapy, you can schedule your sessions around your life, even late at night or first thing in the morning.
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If you are experiencing workplace mobbing, you don’t have to face it alone. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. An online therapist can support you in learning to advocate for your feelings. Even in the midst of a challenge as difficult as workplace mobbing, you can take the first step toward a more resilient, happier life with fulfilling relationships both in and out of work. Contact BetterHelp Today.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How Do You Deal With Being Shunned At Work?
Being shunned at work should never be the status quo. It can make quite difficult to deal with and should never be considered acceptable behavior. This sort of mobbing behavior is likely to lower employee morale and is an unhealthy sign, seeing as it involves other workers and other employees. To work toward having a healthy work environment, shunning and other mobbing behavior should be reported to human resources and/or a superior.
Is Shunning A Form Of Harassment?
Shunning is a passive form of bullying or mobbing behavior. It is a form of emotional bullying. Just because there is no physical aggression or verbal insulting, it is unacceptable to shun other workers and have any kind of mobbing targets in general.
Why Do Coworkers Ostracize?
Coworkers may ostracize someone because they dislike and/or feel threatened by them. Employees may even come together to intentionally shun or otherwise bully someone who they feel challenges the status quo, makes them look bad, or is of a different national origin or sexual orientation. Ostracization may not be the most extreme form of mobbing behavior (compared to character assassination, physical aggression, or sexual harassment, for example), but it is still unacceptable behavior in the workplace.
How Do You Use Mobbing In A Sentence?
Mobbing can be used to refer to group bullying. For example, you could say, “The group of bullies brought down their fellow employee through mobbing.”
Put simply, mobbing is simply bullying behavior on a group scale. There’s often a mobbing ringleader, but in order to be mobbing, there need to be multiple bullies acting as antagonists to the victim or victims.
What Does Overcompensating Mean? Is Shunning Toxic?
Overcompensating means to do more than necessary or react in a way due to some shortcoming. For example, employees might feel insecure, so they come together to single out one employee as a victim. In shunning them, for example, they may be trying to feel better about themselves.
There may be a team player who has outstanding job performance, and the other employees feel that they look bad by comparison. They may overcompensate for their insecurity by shunning and turning this employee (and possibly others like them) into a mobbing target.
In any case, bullying and mobbing are toxic behaviors that may include gossip, shunning, physical force, and even worse (e.g., sexual harassment would be an extreme form).
What Happens To People Who Are Shunned?
People who are shunned are victims of mobbing and bullying, and they may often feel bad about themselves due to this behavior. Once targeted, they may feel alienated from the rest of the workers.
Someone who is being shunned should consider speaking with their supervisors if they suspect the supervisors aren’t involved in the shunning. Speaking with HR may also be a good idea.
How Do You Tell If You Are Being Shunned?
Bullying and mobbing behaviors often include shunning. When you are shunned, you will probably not know because you are likely not treated as equal to the group. People may ignore you or engage with you minimally. If they talk about you, it will likely be in the form of gossip behind your back. The other employees may laugh about you as a group and look at you from a distance. This is classic bully behavior and is unacceptable. You might consider speaking with supervisors or other superiors to resolve the situation.
What Is Mobbing Behavior?
Mobbing is behavior identified as a type of bullying, but with more than one aggressor. Although workplace bullying can have the same emotional impact as mobbing, bullying is often a one-to-one interaction. In the workplace, the bully is a group of individuals working as a single entity, rather than being a sole aggressor. With mobbing, the behavior of the group is very similar to bullying. The group harasses its target, whether that harassment comes in the form of spreading gossip, leaving someone out, or intentionally saying hurtful things to them.
Workplace mobbing behavior was initially identified through study of the animal kingdom and has been applied within psychology today. Many species of animals engage in this behavior as a means of weeding out the weakest of the lot. Birds, for instance, might peck at a single, weaker bird in a flock and leave that bird behind. In nature, mobbing is frequently seen as a simple product of survival of the fittest. In humans, most mental health professionals identify mobbing as an instinct that can be actively fought against or ignored.
What Is Clique Mobbing?
Clique mobbing is a type of bullying wherein a group or clique is formed and deliberately targets other people or cliques. While cliques are most frequently associated with junior high and high school, these tight-knit (often unhealthy) groups of friends can exist well into adulthood and even into a group’s elderly years, as cliques are little more than informal groups formed on the basis of friendship, exclusivity, and close ties.
What Does Mobbing Mean In Slang?
In slang, the term mobbing is the same as bullying but suggests the presence of more than one bully. In typical workplace bullying interactions, a single aggressor attacks a bullied individual. Bullying may look very similar in terms of content (personal attacks, leaking individual information, starting rumors, etc.), but it can be different in terms of execution. Mobbing can involve a small group of people, or it can include a large number. Few workplaces are immune to mobbing, and workplace mobbing is actually a source of increasing study, due in part to its prevalence. In both slang and academic contexts, the term holds a negative connotation and is an indictment on the behavior.
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