Examples Of Body Language: Attraction And More
Body language cues can often indicate a person’s emotions, although they aren’t always 100% accurate and can differ between individuals. Still, feelings like attraction are often displayed through common examples of body language. For example, preening behaviors, an open physical posture, leaning in, blushing, and prolonged eye contact frequently suggest that a person may be experiencing attraction. However, the only way to know for sure that someone is experiencing attraction may be to ask them directly. For further insight and guidance into using and interpreting nonverbal communication, consider working with a licensed therapist in person or online.
Reading Body Language
Observing or "reading" body language may not always be a definitive guide to understanding another person's thoughts or feelings. Everyone tends to express body language in their own way.
Body Language Cues That May Indicate Attraction
The following examples of body language may indicate attraction.
Presentation Of Fertility
Body language is often related to sexual excitement and attraction, which can be biologically related to fertility. An individual may express signs of their fertility in different ways, ranging from standing up straight and squaring the shoulders to tilting the head to expose more pheromones.
Preening Behaviors
Individuals may engage in preening behavior around those they find attractive. This type of behavior is often exhibited by a general concern for their physical appearance, from brushing hair away from their face and checking the mirror to readjusting their clothing.
Licking Their Lips
When a person is around someone they find attractive, it may make them nervous. Feeling nervous can activate the salivary glands or lead to a dry mouth. Both of these experiences may cause someone to lick their lips.
Parted Lips
Some individuals tend to be more likely to part their lips (rather than lick them) as a sign of attraction. It might be a response to subtle nervousness or indicate that they're anticipating a kiss.
Hip Movements
The way an individual moves their hips can potentially indicate romantic attraction. For example, if music is playing, subtle hip motions can signal that the person feels at ease and may be interested in you. Individuals may also touch their partner's hips to signal attraction.
Eye And Facial Movements
The face can be a strong indicator of emotions, including attraction. For example, a person's facial expression may mirror yours if they are attracted to or connected to you. Their face might be expressive, with signs such as a smile, raised eyebrows, or widened eyes.
An individual who is attracted to you may also try to make eye contact with you, although their personality can impact whether this eye contact is sustained or brief. They might also look up and down the body of someone they're attracted to.
Flared Nostrils
When a person's nostrils flare, it's often a way to take a quick breath in, and it can sometimes be related to attraction. It might indicate interest and excitement, and on a biological level, it's also possible that this could enable them to take in more of the other person's pheromones.
Open Physical Posture
A general open physical posture instead of a "closed" posture often indicates comfort or attraction. While it isn't always associated with romantic interest, it's usually a good sign on a date. For example, a person with an open posture may keep their body facing toward you, uncross their arms, and point their feet toward you. They may also seek to remove barriers between themselves and the person they're attracted to.
Showing Availability
People are often more attracted to someone who shows availability, so this may appear in body language. For example, this might include taking on the open posture mentioned above, making eye contact instead of looking away (or at their phone), or mirroring the other person's body language.
However, many people feel uncomfortable with eye contact, so a lack of eye contact doesn't always indicate that a person isn't attracted to you.
Smiling
Smiling may be another way some people indicate their attraction to others. Smiling can make you appear more attractive and inviting while expressing interest to another person. However, smiling can also indicate many other things. For instance, many people smile at others to be polite or friendly, not necessarily to show they are attracted to them.
Leaning In
Another aspect of attraction and body language can involve physical space and the distance, or lack thereof, between two people. For example, if you observe two people leaning toward one another and engaging in conversation, it may signal that they're attracted to each other. Leaning in may indicate a desire for greater intimacy and that the person is paying close attention to you.
Flushing Or Blushing
There are some signs of attraction that we can't usually control on a physiological level. For example, an individual experiencing feelings of attraction may experience a rushing of blood to the face, potentially resulting in flushing or blushing.
Faster Heartbeat And Breathing
Another physiological response to attraction can involve a quickened heartbeat. While you won't usually take someone's pulse while you're on a date, faster breathing is often associated with a quickened heartbeat. A person whose heart is beating fast may also have warmer palms.
Speed Of Movement
The speed of a person's movement might tell you how they're feeling. For example, moving slowly and deliberately and taking your time with actions may show confidence. On the other hand, fast and jerky movements might indicate nervousness. Both can serve as indicators of attraction, depending on the individual's personality.
Touching
Brief moments of physical contact might tell a larger story of attraction. For example, a touch might seem accidental or innocent, but it can often indicate that a person is looking for a more intimate relationship. In addition, small touches may signal a desire for more touching, whether done consciously or not.
Mirroring
Biologically speaking, humans are typically hardwired to mirror the movements of others. While it often happens subconsciously, mimicking a person’s body movements to take on a similar pose might indicate engagement in the interaction.
Seeking Professional Help With Nonverbal Communication
Body language can be considered a type of nonverbal communication, and it isn’t always easy to understand what people are communicating nonverbally. Working with a licensed therapist can help you gain insight into this type of communication and use it more effectively yourself.
Benefits Of Online Therapy
At BetterHelp, we can match you with a licensed mental health professional based on your needs and preferences, such as a therapist who can help you learn how to use and read body language as you navigate dating and romantic relationships. Plus, you can choose to attend therapy sessions via voice, video, or online chat at times that are convenient for you.
Effectiveness Of Online Therapy
Although more research may be needed regarding the efficacy of online therapy for improving nonverbal communication skills, many studies suggest that online and in-person therapy tend to be similarly effective. Both types of treatment may be suitable for addressing a variety of concerns related to mental health and relationships.
Takeaway
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How do I know if I feel attraction?
Several physical signs from your body may tell you when you’re feeling attraction. Some of the physiological responses to attraction can include an increased heart rate, dilated pupils, higher body temperature, and faster breathing. You might also experience the “butterflies in the stomach” sensation as a sign of attraction.
Behavioral signs of attraction may include exhibiting nervous behavior, such as avoiding prolonged eye contact or fidgeting. However, your body language could also go the other way when you talk to someone you’re attracted to. Other behavioral signs of romantic attraction include a mutual gaze or extended gaze, leaning in toward the other person, or mirroring their actions.
It can be important to keep in mind that not everyone feels or displays attraction in the same way. For more individualized insight and guidance, consider speaking with a licensed therapist.
How do you know if someone is attracted to you?
You might look at a person’s body language to get a good idea of whether they may be attracted to you, but the only way to know for certain may be to ask them directly.
Can you feel someone's attraction?
If someone is attracted to you, you might be able to feel their attraction in the form of shifting energy levels or a change in the mood of the room when they walk in. You may also observe some of the behavioral and physical signs of attraction. However, you generally can’t know for sure whether someone is attracted to you unless you ask them.
How do you know if someone is attracted to you sexually?
When someone is attracted to you sexually, they usually exhibit certain body language cues. When they are sexually attracted to someone, people tend to highlight or exaggerate what they feel are their most attractive features. Some people might accentuate their chest or draw attention to their hair. Others might flex their muscles and stand up taller. However, body language cues may not always accurately indicate a person’s attraction.
How do guys show attraction?
In general, people tend to show attraction through their body language, words, and actions.
What is unspoken attraction?
Unspoken attraction may be defined as a clear sign that someone is attracted to another person, even if they don’t say it out loud. One of the biggest signs of unspoken attraction can be when someone maintains eye contact. If this prolonged gaze is returned, the attraction between the two people can be noticeable to most people.
Can you see attraction between two people?
Two people who are attracted to each other may face each other, mirror the other’s body language, and maintain eye contact.
How do you know if a attraction is mutual?
Mirroring, facing each other, and maintaining prolonged eye contact may indicate a mutual attraction.
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