What Is The Childhood Of A Leader?

By Nicola Kirkpatrick

Updated December 11, 2018

Reviewer Lisa Cooper

Some people seem like they are born to be leaders. In the schoolyard, some children may be more energetic or getting the other children more engaged or motivated. As they grow older, these same individuals may become class presidents and then the managers of a company. A leader is one who guides, motivates and encourages. There are many reasons that leaders can be ineffective and ordering others without attempting to motivate or guide them is often ineffective.

If you have ever encountered a leader, you may wonder how they became that way. What was their childhood like? Did that affect their leadership style that they are working from today? Is there a gene that guarantees someone will be effective with leadership?

In this post, we will delve into all these questions and more.

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Is It Genetic?

You may wonder if leadership is learned or inherited. Is there certain genetics that can increase the likelihood of being a leader, or is it all learned or self-taught?

As it turns out, there may be some genetic factors that come into play when determining a leader. The gene, rs4950, is shown to have some leadership traits inside of it.

If you don't have the gene, there is still a chance you can become a great leader and vice versa. Being genetically prone is useless if the person doesn't learn leadership skills. However, someone who doesn't have the gene but learns to become a leader may be able to lead without any gene whatsoever. (Source is needed)

What Makes A Great Leader?

A leader is not just someone who has authority or a given title. It takes more to lead, and here are some qualities of a great leader.

  • Leaders have strong principles and stick to them. They are not going to be people who speak over you or make commands without consideration of their audience or without considering what they feel is important or worth valuing in life. They have a moral code, and they make sure to stick to it.
  • Leaders are confident. This is an obvious one, but a good leader goes beyond just being confident. Even on bad days, the leader knows how to be confident and get the people around them motivated. They know the right balance of confidence as well. Sometimes, a leader can't be too overconfident.
  • Leaders will inspire you. If you have ever been around a great leader, you may have felt inclined to act after listening to one of their speeches.
  • Leaders are passionate about what they do. They aren't someone who begrudgingly took the job, but were passionate about it from day one. They are committed to what they do and will make others passionate as well.
  • A leader is creative. They will think of unique solutions to solve problems and unique ideas as well.
  • They are good communicators. It takes a great amount of skill to learn an effective and meaningful way to communicate to different people. Some people communicate differently, and everyone has their own personal skill level. A good leader will be able to explain themselves clearly to new people and be able to challenge those who are experienced.
  • A leader will decide regarding an issue as soon as they can. They recognize that being efficient is connected to being prompt and focused on results.They will still think about their decision before they make it, but they will not waste their time.
  • A great leader holds themselves accountable when they make mistakes. They will appreciate their mistakes as an opportunity to learn and will use this moment to teach others from this experience. A bad leader will believe they can do no wrong and will blame others when they mess up.
  • A good leader is empathetic. A leader should be empathetic and put themselves in the shoes of others. If they are not empathetic, others will possibly resent them and be unwilling to work towards goals that have been identified or set in place by the leader.

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The Childhood Of A Leader

When it comes to leaders, many of them were raised to be that way. A leader's parents tend to be authoritative. They do not let the child do whatever they want, but there is plenty of room for them to breathe. Here are some ways a parent can make a child into a leader.

  • A parent should let their child take chances. We all know those helicopter parents who are always preventing their kids from taking a risk, and this can lead to problems down the road. You shouldn't let your child run around in danger, but there are points in their lives where they can take a risk. Let them play outside without you hovering over them. Sometimes, the child needs to realize risk and consequences without the parent saving them at the last minute.
  • A leader will have parents who let them make choices instead of having the parents do everything for them. The parents let the future leader choose their meals, outfits, and more.
  • A parent knows that a child should feel proud of themselves. While a parent should compliment their child, they know not to compliment too much. A leader won't rely on other people for validation, but instead feel happy about their achievements.
  • The future leader will have parents without unrealistic expectations. These parents don't want their child to be lazy and not give it their all, but if they slip up, the parent understands it's all part of growing. A parent with unrealistic expectations can make the child fearful and less like a leader.
  • A parent will encourage their child to accomplish whatever it is they want to do. If the child wants to be a firefighter when they grow up, encourage them. Tell them what they can do to get that job. A bad parent will instead roll their eyes at the child's dreams. If the dream is unrealistic, still encourage it. The child will soon look for a more realistic goal.
  • The parents should be leaders as well. If the parents have leadership qualities, then odds are, the children will too
  • The parent of a future leader should focus on their child, and not the other children around them. By putting all their energies towards that child, they can shape them up to be a leader.
  • The parent will teach the child that sometimes, they don't have to do what everyone else is doing. A leader, as the cliché goes, thinks outside the box, and this means that sometimes, they will stray from the path. On the other hand, sometimes the path they are on is the best one to walk.
  • The parent will teach their child social skills and how to empathize with others. They will teach the child what the child can do in case of an upset.

Anyone Can Become A Leader

So, your parents weren't the best at raising you to be a leader, and you don't believe you have the genetics. However, anyone, at any time in their life, can shape themselves to become a leader. If you want to lead more, here's how.

  • Stop with the doubt. If you believe you won't be a leader, that doubt is going to stop you. Be more confident, and you may find yourself attracting other people who want your confidence.
  • Keep your promises. In this world, it's hard to keep promises, and by being able to keep them, it's a sign of a good leader. Hold yourself accountable whenever you break a promise and don't offer any excuses.
  • Always ask for feedback. Don't let others give you feedback, but instead ask whenever you are trying to lead or trying to perform a task. A good leader wants to make sure they're doing well and will listen to any feedback they may get and consider it in the future.
  • Try listening to people more. If your friends need to talk, listen to their words and try to imagine yourself in their shoes. Practicing empathy is a good step to becoming a leader.
  • Admit when you were wrong. It takes a lot for a person to apologize or admit fault. People will appreciate you for it if you're a person who is always self-correcting and willing to grow.

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Seek Help!

If you want to be a better leader, you may have mental roadblocks preventing you from doing so. Sometimes, there's something in your past that makes you less likely to lead.You may try to lead and then fail.

A counselor can help you with any problems you may have. If you lack the confidence to be a leader, they can teach you to be more confident. If you're having trouble communicating, they can teach communication skills. Counselors can be leaders as well, and perhaps one of your problems is that you've never had a great leader to inspire you. This may be the opportunity you're looking for.

Leaders may be born and raised, but at any point, you can become a leader and inspire others. Why not get out and see what you were born to lead?


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