Domestic Violence Quotes For Support

By: Jessica Anderson

Updated November 20, 2020

Medically Reviewed By: Lauren Fawley

Those who have suffered or are experiencing domestic violence often feel alone or trapped in their situation. For some, it can be challenging to recognize what is happening as domestic violence, let alone recognize that there is a life out there of happiness, calm, and safety. Domestic violence can affect anyone of any age and any gender. Reading about the many types of people who have survived domestic violence and have moved on to joyful, fulfilling lives may give you some comfort or encouragement to keep pushing for your safe solution out of this situation.  Maybe you’re not sure if your situation is violent, but maybe you’ll find some things you recognize in these quotes.

If you are, or have been, in an abusive relationship, it is never your fault. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1.800.799.SAFE is always available.

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When you're consumed in an unhealthy relationship with another person, whether they are your partner, your parent, or anyone in your household, you may have found yourself forgetting what life can be like when the people in your life respect healthy boundaries. By acknowledging your situation does not constitute something healthy for you, you can begin to move toward an action plan to get the healthy, joyful life you deserve.

Quotes For Support

The stereotypical image of domestic violence may be physical violence, but domestic violence can encompass many kinds of pain. Domestic violence can include inducing physical pain or emotional pain, like belittling, name calling, confidence crushing, isolating, and ignoring. If you've even suspicious that your situation constitutes a violent one, that discomfort you feel is a great indicator It could be time to look for resources.

 "Domestic violence is any behavior involving physical, psychological, emotional, sexual, or verbal abuse. It is any form of aggression intended to hurt, damage, or kill an intimate person."

-Asa Don Brown

“Emotional abuse is any type of abuse that is not physical in nature. It can include everything from verbal abuse to the silent treatment, domination to subtle manipulation."

-Beverly Engel

"Another way a person shows they are trustworthy is when their words and behavior match up. For example, if someone says they love you, and then they act abusively toward you, their words and actions don't match. When you love someone, you do not abuse them."

-The National Domestic Violence Hotline


"It's not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive."

-The National Domestic Violence Hotline

If these quotes seem to describe your relationship, there is always hope. This is a challenging situation, but not an impossible one. It is possible for you to remove yourself safely from this unsafe situation. It's not your fault. You deserve to be treated respectfully and with love. You have options for support in whatever way you choose to move forward.

"Believe in yourself and be proud of who you are. Don't let anyone tell you differently. There is beauty in everyone, and no one should stop you from growing into a confident and strong young person."

-June Sarpong

"If the numbers we see in domestic violence were applied to terrorism or gang violence, the entire country would be up in arms, and it would be the lead story on the news every night."

-Representative Mark Green

"You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren't alone."

-Jeanne McElvaney, "Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children"

"By publicly speaking out against domestic violence, together we can challenge attitudes toward violence in the home and show that domestic violence is a crime and not merely unacceptable."

-Honor Blackman

"No woman has to be a victim of physical abuse. Women have to feel like they are not alone."

-Salma Hayek

The number of survivors from abusive relationships grows every day. When you decide it’s safe to take your next step, you can join that growing number. That growing number means there are many people who understand what you are coming from and are prepared to help you move forward.

More About Domestic Violence

The more tools you have, the more likely you are to succeed. Domestic violence can feel like an inescapable trap, especially when you're in the midst of it. Arm yourself with knowledge and use that to make smart, safe decisions as you begin the journey toward a healthy life.

Domestic violence campaigns often target women, but people of any gender and any age can find themselves in an unsafe or unhealthy situation. Domestic violence can look different in different situations, including across cultures. No matter who you are, being in a domestic violence situation is not something to be ashamed of. Nor is it something to avoid seeking help for if it is safe for you to do so.

"Domestic violence does not only happen to adults. Forty percent of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend, and approximately one in five female high school students' reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner." -Dianne Feinstein

"Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?

Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?

Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did?

Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you?

Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you?

Has he ever threatened to hurt you?

If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he'll ever be violent; he already has been."

Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Understanding How Abuse Begins

Abusive relationships often follow a cycle. If you notice signs of this pattern, consider leaving or getting the help you deserve.

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The first stage in the cycle of abuse is tension building. Stress builds in this timeframe over small arguments, maybe over money or other relationship struggles. Verbal abuse starts here. The victim tries to make things better by placating the abuser. However, the abuser continues to become more upset until they reach their breaking point.

The second stage is the considered the acute battering stage. This is where physical abuse often happens. This is when the abuser reaches their mental breaking point. It has nothing to do with what the victim says or does or doesn’t do.

The third stage is where the abuser tries to fix the situation by either apologizing or blaming their actions on the victim. They begin to act in loving and kind ways, directly contradicting their behavior in the last stage. They convince the victim that the violence will not occur again. This is the stage that makes it easy to believe that it was only one time or that this person has changed.


When you understand domestic violence and its components, it can be easier to recognize if it is happening to you. This might also make it easier to leave. If this information describes your situation, reach out for help today. There is help available for you and the better life you deserve.

BetterHelp Can Help

One way to begin to leave an abusive relationship is to get someone on your team. This person may be a friend or family member, or it may be a therapist. You can begin to find a therapist at  A therapist can help you to understand your situation and recognize tangible ways to leave it. They can reinforce that you deserve something better and foster your courage and confidence to leave. Talking with a therapist can also increase your wellbeing in the meantime. A study following a 12-week therapy program for female survivors of domestic violence found that they showed significant decreases in depressive symptoms and feelings of hopelessness. The therapy in the study included cognitive behavioral therapy, where therapists help patients recognize thought and behavior patterns and challenge them. Talking to a therapist is a simple way to prove to yourself that you can get help, that you can get better, and that you're capable of anything.

Finding time and space to meet with a counselor can be challenging, especially if you’re constantly under the watch or path of your abuser. BetterHelp offers online services that include live chatting features and messaging functions so you can get the help you need without endangering your safety. You can schedule flexibly to best suit your needs. You can chat online with someone who cares and someone who can help, all without needing a reason to leave your home.

You can hear from some users of BetterHelp who have dealt with domestic violence and abusive relationships with our counselors below.

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"Sharon Valentino has helped me through so much! Since we started working together, just a few months ago, I already feel like I have more power and control over my life. I have let go of some very painful things, I have moved away from abusive relationships and really gaining skills and tools I need to keep myself safe and happy. She has taught me that I have the power to control my thoughts, my anxiety, and most of all my company. I really like how direct she is, it helps me get grounded and connect to myself. I can't wait to see where I am after working with her a year!!!"

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Domestic violence may cause you to feel helpless and alone, but even the most challenging obstacles can be overcome. You can move toward a healthy and happy life. Keep these quotes in your mind, and take your first step toward a more joyful life today.


Some quotes for the road

"Instead of saying, 'I'm damaged, I'm broken, I have trust issues.' say 'I'm healing, I'm rediscovering myself, I'm starting over.'"

-Horacio Jones

"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any."

-Alice Walker

"Real confidence comes from knowing and accepting yourself - your strengths and your limitations - in contrast to depending on affirmation from others."

-Judith M. Bardwick

"Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it with use."

-Ruth Gordon

"Psychological and emotional wellness is an ongoing process for everyone."

-C. Kennedy, Ómorphi

"Don't judge yourself by what others did to you."

-C. Kennedy, Ómorphi

"Do not look for healing at the feet of those who broke you."

-Rupi Kaur, "Milk and Honey"

"From what I've been told, the scariest part of being part of a domestic abuse relationship is the idea that you cannot escape and you cannot get help, that feeling of being stuck."

-Kerry Washington

Domestic violence may cause you to feel helpless and alone, but even the most challenging obstacles can be overcome. You can move toward a healthy and happy life. Keep these quotes in your mind, and take your first step toward a more joyful life today.

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