Domestic Violence Quotes For Support
By: Jessica Anderson
Updated November 07, 2019
Medically Reviewed By: Lauren Fawley
Those who have suffered or are suffering from domestic violence often feel alone and as if they will never get out of their abusive lifestyle. It is hard for them to imagine ever living a life of happiness, calm and protection. Reading about others who have survived domestic violence and have moved on to joyful, fulfilling lives may be the impetus that they need to make a change. If you are, or have been, in an abusive relationship, please remember that what you are experiencing is not about you! An abuser will be abusive regardless of who his or her partner is. But there is hope. You are not alone.
When you're consumed in a relationship with another person, you may lose perspective on what is considered healthy and what crosses the line. The first step to healing is realizing you truly are in a domestic violence situation. Once you know where your relationship stands, you can move down the path toward a more healthy and joyful life.
Quotes for Support
"Domestic violence is any behavior involving physical, psychological, emotional, sexual, or verbal abuse. It is any form of aggression intended to hurt, damage, or kill an intimate person."
-Asa Don Brown
You may think of domestic violence as inducing physical pain, but it's span is much wider. Domestic violence is physically hurting as well as belittling, name calling, confidence crushing, isolating, and ignoring. Domestic violence is fear-inducing and manipulating. If you've been experiencing any of these problems or other acts that cause you to feel any type of discomfort in your relationship, know that you do not have to suffer. You do not deserve to be treated this way.
'Emotional abuse is any type of abuse that is not physical in nature. It can include everything from verbal abuse to the silent treatment, domination to subtle manipulation."
"Another way a person shows they are trustworthy is when their words and behavior match up. For example, if someone says they love you, and then they act abusively toward you, their words and actions don't match. When you love someone, you do not abuse them."
-The National Domestic Violence Hotline
"It's not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive."
-The National Domestic Violence Hotline
If these quotes seem to describe your relationship, have hope. You're in a challenging place, but you can get out. Remember that these aspects of your relationship aren't healthy, and you deserve much better. It's not your fault, and you have options for support. You will soon live a happy and healthy life once again.
"Believe in yourself and be proud of who you are. Don't let anyone tell you differently. There is beauty in everyone, and no one should stop you from growing into a confident and strong young person."
"If the numbers we see in domestic violence were applied to terrorism or gang violence, the entire country would be up in arms, and it would be the lead story on the new every night."
-Representative Mark Green
"You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren't alone."
-Jeanne McElvaney, "Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children"
"By publicly speaking out against domestic violence, together we can challenge attitudes toward violence in the home and show that domestic violence is a crime and not merely unacceptable."
"No woman has to be a victim of physical abuse. Women have to feel like they are not alone."
The number of survivors from abusive relationships grows every day. When you take your next step, you can be a part of that growing number, too. You're not alone in your suffering, and you will not be alone in your success.
More About Domestic Violence
The more tools you have, the more likely you are to succeed. Domestic violence can be a challenging topic to understand, especially when you're in the midst of it. Arm yourself with knowledge, and use it to your benefit as you begin the journey toward a healthy life.
Domestic violence campaigns often target women, but people of any gender and any age can find themselves walking through these challenging grounds. Knowing who can be affected by abuse in relationships gives you power by reminding you that you are not alone.
"Domestic violence does not only happen to adults. Forty percent of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend, and approximately one in five female high school students' reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner." -- Dianne Feinstein
"Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?
Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did?
Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you?
Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you?
Has he ever threatened to hurt you?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he'll ever be violent; he already has been."
- Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Abusive relationships often follow a cycle. If you notice signs of this pattern, consider leaving, and get the help you deserve.
The first stage is "Tension Building." Stress builds in this timeframe over small arguments about money or other relationship struggles. Verbal abuse starts here, and the victim tries to make things better by ignoring or accepting the abuse. However, the abuser continues to become more upset until they reach their breaking point.
The second stage is the "Acute Battering Episode." This is where physical abuse happens. It takes place when the abuser reaches their mental breaking point. It has nothing to do with what the victim says or does.
The third stage is called "The Honeymoon Stage." This is where the abuser tries to fix the situation by either apologizing or blaming their actions on the victim. They begin to act in loving and kind ways, directing contradicting their behavior in the second stage. They convince the victim that the violence will not occur again. This is the stage that makes many victims stay in the relationship.
When you understand domestic violence and its components, it's easier to recognize what's happening, and it's easier to leave. If this information describes your situation, reach out for help today. There is help available for you, and you deserve a better life.
BetterHelp Can Help
One way to escape an abusive relationship is to get someone on your team. This person may be a friend or family member, or it may be a therapist. A therapist can help you to understand your situation and what you truly deserve. They can help you see your worth while growing the courage and confidence it takes to leave an unhealthy relationship. Talking to a therapist shows you that you can get help, that you can get better, and that you're capable of anything.
"Instead of saying, 'I'm damaged, I'm broken, I have trust issues.' say 'I'm healing, I'm rediscovering myself, I'm starting over.'"
"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any."
"Real confidence comes from knowing and accepting yourself - your strengths and your limitations - in contrast to depending on affirmation from others."
-Judith M. Bardwick
"Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it with use."
"Psychological and emotional wellness is an ongoing process for everyone."
-C. Kennedy, Ómorphi
"Don't judge yourself by what others did to you."
-C. Kennedy, Ómorphi
"Do not look for healing at the feet of those who broke you."
-Rupi Kaur, "Milk and Honey"
"From what I've been told, the scariest part of being part of a domestic abuse relationship is the idea that you cannot escape and you cannot get help, that feeling of being stuck."
If these quotes are hard to understand on your own, a therapist can help. BetterHelp counselors can also talk you through the hard emotions you've been feeling. They can give you the courage and confidence to start on the path toward a happier life.
It can be hard to find time or an excuse to see a therapist when you're in a domestic violence situation, but with BetterHelp you won't need to worry about that. You can chat online with someone who cares and someone who can help, all without leaving your home. You can see reviews of BetterHelp counselors below, from people who are experiencing similar issues.
"Sharon Valentino has helped me through so much! Since we started working together, just a few months ago, I already feel like I have more power and control over my life. I have let go of some very painful things, I have moved away from abusive relationships and really gaining skills and tools I need to keep myself safe and happy. She has taught me that I have the power to control my thoughts, my anxiety, and most of all my company. I really like how direct she is, it helps me get grounded and connect to myself. I can't wait to see where I am after working with her a year!!!"
"I have been talking to Dr. Briley for about 2 years. I had just gotten out of an abusive situation and he helped me navigate and begin the healing process."
Domestic violence may cause you to feel helpless and alone, but even the most challenging obstacles can be overcome. You can move toward a healthy and happy life. Keep these quotes in your mind, and take your first step toward a more joyful life today.