Channeling Your Passions: Finding Fulfillment From What You Love

Medically reviewed by Andrea Brant, LMHC
Updated March 4, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Small reminders or signs may point you in the direction of your passions. Spending time with others with common interests may help you fine-tune and better understand your interests. 

Think about the experiences in your life that have stood out. Are there any common themes? You may be surprised when you find a few similarities between the things that have fueled a passion fire in the past. The pattern between them may not be instantly apparent. 

Breaking down the ingredients of what brings color to your days may illuminate otherwise disconnected elements. By connecting different ideas that you love, or activities that interest you. even if they are seemingly unrelated, you may better work toward creating a career or occupation that is best suited for your personality and ideal lifestyle. 

Understanding the overarching umbrella of your skills and the best ways to spend your time can be significant steps toward self-actualization, the realization or fulfillment of one’s talents and potential.

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Is your lifestyle aligned with your current goals?

What constitutes one’s lifestyle?

A lifestyle may be a way of life for an individual, group, or society, which often describes how people spend their time. A person’s lifestyle can consist of various elements, including the following:


The place where you choose to live may reflect your lifestyle. For example, living in a large metropolitan city could offer a busier or more social lifestyle than living in a rural neighborhood or another country.


The type of work industry you choose may impact your professional and personal life daily. For example, your work could be fast-paced or slow-paced, require high or low energy, or involve heavy supervision or remote work. 

Set an alarm for 6 or a time that suits your schedule, using a free alarm clock, like an online alarm clock, to help you start your day. If you work from home, you might spend more time with your family, or enjoy alone time. If you work in a fast-paced modern office, you may spend more time socializing or work longer hours. You might also find yourself having less time at home with your family. 

Social interaction 

Social fulfillment and engagement with friends, family, and community fall under social interaction. Social interaction may include engaging in fictional realities like watching movies, playing video games, or interacting in online forums. 

Your social interaction can be connected to your social status, which reflects your position within your community, profession, family, friend group, religion, or culture. Social status may not be essential to everyone, while others view social status as a key to life satisfaction. 

Health and wellness 

Your physical well-being is often connected to your nutrition and fitness. Studies show that eating well can improve your physical and mental health overall. 

Do you prepare and eat most meals at home or frequently dine out at restaurants? What kind of activities do you participate in to stay physically active? Some people may prefer weightlifting, while others may enjoy individual pursuits like swimming or group sports like rugby. Set alarm for 6 to start your morning with exercise, using a free alarm clock, such as an online alarm, with a soothing or funny alarm sound.

Spending habits

Who you are as a consumer impacts your lifestyle. For example, you may be more conservative with your expenses,  or spend money more freely. On the other hand, you may prefer designer brands or luxury items. How you choose to spend your money  (i.e., fitness, fashion, food)will also impact your overall lifestyle.

Hobbies and leisure 

Hobbies can be personal or group-centric and, like our spending habits, may take up a significant portion of our lives. For example, you might prefer reading and discussing literature as part of a book club, gardening, or baking. These activities can take time and attention and involve social interaction.

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Religion and spirituality

Some individuals decide to participate in organized religion or other forms of spiritual connection. Spirituality can mean praying, reflecting, or finding other ways to connect with nature and people. 

From attending synagogue, church, or mosque to practicing mindfulness or attending yoga retreats worldwide, your religious or spiritual pursuits could determine the people in your immediate community, as well as your beliefs about your life. 

Media consumption

Your media consumption is likely to impact your beliefs about right and wrong and influence the type of people with whom you spend your time. 

Some individuals enjoy discussing current events and their ideas for modern problems, while others find these conversations potentially tedious, so strive to avoid them. Your understanding of what is happening in the world might ultimately affect how you spend your money, where you spend your time, and with whom you socialize. Set an alarm for 6 00 to catch up on the news or watch a morning show, using an alarm clock with funny alarm sounds to start your day.


You likely have personal goals in addition to your professional goals. While some people tend to be more goal-oriented, or goal-driven, than others; your goals will impact every area of your life: psychological, emotional, spiritual and relational 

Whether you are training for a triathlon, running for public office, or learning to restore old cars, your pursuits and how you respond to obstacles may influence your attitude, perspective, and income. To ensure you stay on track with your goals, adjust your morning routine, and use alarms or an alert to remind you of important tasks or a specified time to start working on them.

Using assertiveness to channel your passions 

Being in tune with yourself, and being around positive people who are inspired and motivated in their work, may help you harness the power of your passions. 

At times, your loved ones may consciously or subconsciously influence you to make decisions out of guilt or suggest choices that aren’t in your best interest. Practicing assertiveness could benefit you in these cases.

Assertiveness is often defined as a type of communication where you choose to “stand up” and advocate for the rights of yourself and others in a calm, positive, but stern manner. Assertiveness doesn’t include aggressive or passive behavior, such as accepting another person’s perspective or beliefs over your own. 

Individuals who communicate assertively may: 

  • Advocate for themselves or others (by expressing needs, wants, feelings, beliefs, rights, etc.)
  • Listen without interrupting
  • Speak with confidence
  • Compromise and negotiate
  • Use empathy and compassion 
  • Communicate directly

You may, at times, feel boxed into pre-determined roles or stereotypes. However, standing up for yourself, and claiming the path you want to take, can be a way to practice assertiveness and challenge those stereotypes.

Look for interests that spark passion and give you the energy to fuel your behavior patterns and habits. Consider working to make life what you want and need despite setbacks or challenges.  

How can I begin to channel my passions?

Try exploring and identifying the values in your life that give you the freedom to choose your path. Check out the possibilities you haven’t yet considered. Look for alternative opportunities to make money. 

You may be able to craft your hobbies into a profitable lifestyle. For example, many individuals make money freelancing through writing, editing, graphic art or design, and other skills.

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Ask yourself what makes you light up and how you can implement this into a way to make money. For example, if you love to read and write, look on the internet for opportunities to do these things for someone who needs written material. 

If you haven’t honed your skills yet, consider taking a class or attending school online part-time to get a degree. Get creative when thinking of where your skills could be utilized, as you may be able to transfer these skills with ease with time and understanding of the processes. 

You may also want to apply for a job you feel you might not qualify for. Although you might not get it, there is certainly a higher chance that you’ll get a position if you apply for it and sell yourself, as opposed to not applying at all. To stay on top of your job search, set an online alarm with an alarm message or tell your digital assistant, “wake me up at 6am” giving you a head start on your day and allowing you to dedicate an hour to your career goals before you start your daily activities.

Using professional support to find fulfillment 

Perhaps there’s a specific avenue you’re interested in taking, whether it’s learning about reflection, taking a career aptitude test, or feeling more confident in your social skills. Professional support through therapy may allow individuals to get expert advice and insight and control emotions in difficult life situations. 

If challenges like social anxiety, depression, or difficulty focusing interfere with your efforts to cultivate your dream lifestyle, it may be helpful to speak with a therapist. Many individuals prefer online therapy, especially if they are already working, or studying, online. 

Online therapy has been proven to be as effective as in-person therapy in treating symptoms related to social anxiety disorder, depression, ADHD, and other mental health conditions. Online therapists on platforms such as BetterHelp may be able to support you in finding an appropriate lifestyle. 


You may want to make a life change or pursue a dream at any point in your life, regardless of your age, social class, gender, race, or social status. When making significant changes, it may be helpful to lean on your support network, which can include friends, family, colleagues, or a therapist or life coach. 

It can be understandable to have fears or concerns about making significant changes. Courage does not necessarily mean the absence of these fears. Instead, it may entail acknowledging fears and chasing your dream despite them. Consider reaching out to a counselor (via phone or text message) if you’re looking for more professional insight. To help you stay focused on your goals and maintain a balanced routine, set a start alarm and a stop alarm to remind you to take breaks and rest, allowing yourself to recharge and reflect on your progress.

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