How To Be Brave And Overcome Fear
By: Rachel Lustbader
Updated February 11, 2020
Medically Reviewed By: Amy Brown
The ability to show bravery and overcome fear is highly critical life skills. Contrary to popular belief, bravery is not the absence of fear, but the ability to continue moving forward in spite of fear. Often, fear arises when we are faced with a perceived threat or challenge. However, the decision to be brave and overcome fear allows one to live their best life. People who yield to fear are doing themselves a major disservice. Believe it or not, fear kills more dreams, goals, and hopes than failure ever does.
Despite the many benefits of bravery and overcoming fear, these feats are sometimes easier said than done. Are you interested in learning exactly how to be brave and place your fears to rest, continue reading?
Don't Worry About What Other People Think!
Family Circle cites worrying about what other people think as a mistake to avoid as one works to become brave. Believe it or not, this is a common error that people make and arguably the root of most fears. So many people are ruled by the opinions of others and how these people may perceive them. However, viewpoints other than our own are entirely out of our control and therefore concerning ourselves with them is highly counterproductive.
More often than not, one's fear and worry of what other people think can be subconscious. Think about it! Glossophobia, better known as the fear of public speaking, is cited by Greatist as the most common fear, outranking the fear of spiders, doctors, and even death. But why are so many people afraid of public speaking, one might ask? Well, studies show that glossophobia is rooted in the existence of an unsavory image of self. Insecurities about self, coupled with fears of what others may think, can be a recipe for disaster.
Relinquishing worries of what other people think comes down to a simple realization: some people will like you, others will not, and that's alright. The quest to please every person is an impossible task that can result in dissatisfaction and misery every time.
Next time you feel bogged down with what others may or may not think about you, try to redirect that energy elsewhere. Ask yourself the following questions: Am I happy with myself? How do I feel? What do I want to do?
Ironically, ceasing concern for what other individuals think of you, can actually improve their perception of you. People can sense neediness, low self-esteem, and desperation to attain the admiration of others. More often than not, these unsavory feelings often breed contempt among observers. However, confident, self-assured individuals tend to earn respect and veneration of others.
When one ceases to be ruled by the thoughts and opinions of others, they are inherently vanquishing one of the most common fears.
Engage in Positive Self Talk and Uplifting Affirmations
Many people fail to realize how much self-talk and uplifting affirmations contribute to their levels of bravery and overcoming fear. Bravery exists in your mind, and your subconscious thinking heavily impacts your mind. Believe it or not, repetition is the key to reprogramming the subconscious.
More often than not, individuals who suffer from seemingly overwhelming fears are plighted with this due to their innermost beliefs and feelings. Next time you are faced with a difficult situation or circumstance, instead of focusing on the potential problem or challenge, tell yourself the following affirmations:
I am brave. I am strong. I am courageous. I can do anything. I am fearless.
Consistent declarations of the above affirmations will gradually impact your psyche and your consciousness. Fear exists only in mind, and repetitive, positive affirmations will strengthen your best qualities, hence boosting bravery and strength while vanquishing fear.
Psychology Today moreover affirms the significance of self-talk. Unfortunately, many people will find that they often engage in negative self-talk without even realizing it. This may not even be their fault. As some of us grow up and mature into adults, we are told by society or even our loved ones that we cannot achieve certain aspirations or a goal or dream is out of our reach. Over time, after constantly hearing this negative commentary and absorbing it, the affirmation becomes burned in our minds, breeding feelings of self-doubt, low self-esteem, and ultimately, fear.
Thankfully, we as individuals, have the power to change this. Whenever previously programmed negative thoughts begin to rise, counteract them with positive affirmations and self-assurance. This is how you become brave and overcome your fears. Know that you are stronger than your fears. You are strong. You are courageous. You can do anything. No challenge, obstacle, or difficulty can overpower you. You can accomplish anything. Repeat these affirmations to yourself habitually and believe them. Feel the inside of your heart and never allow anyone to convince you otherwise. This how you conquer fear.
Embrace Challenges As Opportunities!
Have you ever heard the phrase "a challenge is simply an opportunity in disguise." This is truer than most people realize. Recognizing this can help one overcome their fears when faced with seemingly challenging circumstances. Sometimes, the key element to being brave simply lies with one's manner of perception.
For instance, imagine someone working hard and doing their best to please their boss at a company which employs them. No matter how hard this person works or what they do, they still seem to clash with their coworkers and simply not fit in. Then, imagine this person's boss pulling them to the side, telling them to either take a serious pay decrease or find another place of employment. At this point, the individual is likely feeling very stressed and fearful.
What will they do? How will they pay bills and support themselves without this job? They work so hard, show up on time, and do everything right, yet it never seems to be enough. At this point, the person has reached a crossroads. They can either cower to fear or look at this apparent challenge as an opportunity.
Perhaps this person quits their job and decides to go out on a limb and start their career as an online freelancer whose writing services are contracted by various clients. Granted, this takes lots of time, effort, and persistence, but eventually, the person builds a strong client base and is infinitely better off than they would have been at their previous job.
Challenges, difficulties, and obstacles are inevitable parts of life. Attempting to hide from them or avoid them are futile. However, when one holds their head high and believes in themselves and their abilities, anything is possible. Throughout each person's journey to overcome fear, they should always remember to remain grounded and confident, remind themselves they can do anything, and always look for the opportunity or the bright side within any obstacle.
You Are In Control!
Did you notice a regular theme in the listed ways to be brave and overcome fear? What does not worrying about the opinions of others, engaging in the positive self-talk, and viewing challenges as opportunities have in common?
They are all matters of your control! Ultimately, conquering fear and being brave is up to you and the steps you take. There are countless speeches, articles, and books written on the matter, but in the end, it is all in your hands. Bravery and overcoming fear cannot be bought, purchased, or given to you by another person.
You must dig deep within yourself and know that you can handle anything. You are strong. You are brave. You are confident. You are powerful. Repeat these affirmations every day. Believe in yourself. Surround yourself with upbeat, confident, positive people who believe in you and remind you that you are a fantastic individual. This will help immensely with positive self-talk and uplifting affirmations. Our minds are greatly influenced by not only what we tell ourselves, but also by our environments and the company we keep.
In Case You Need Additional Help
Even the bravest and most fearless people require help at certain times, and that's ok. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you or a loved one are in need of assistance as you work to overcome fear and become your best, bravest self, please do not hesitate to reach out to our team of dedicated professionals at BetterHelp.
Here at BetterHelp, we prioritize the best assistance and care for you. Not only do our counselors, psychologists, and therapists take pride in helping people rise above the challenges of life, but we also get to know each person, hence building meaningful and life-long relationships. As you implement self-assurance, positive affirmations, and focus on opportunities within challenges, please know that you are not alone. Sometimes, the bravest thing to do is to ask for help, especially when you feel as though it may benefit you.
Ultimately the choice lies with you. However, if you are ever in need of counsel, guidance, or even moral support, feel free to contact BetterHelp. You are only one click away from making the rest of your life the best of your life.