How To Be Seductive And Still Be Yourself

Updated September 2, 2022 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Does your mirror reflect the kind of sexy that you know you once had? Guess what? It's still in there somewhere! You just might need to make a few internal and external changes to bring it back to the surface. Keep reading to learn how to be seductive and still be yourself.

What's Motivating You to Feel Less Than Sexy?

Does Being Seductive Make You Feel Disingenuous?

Look beyond the image in the mirror and try to discover what it is that's causing you to feel this way. Be truthful. Be objective. Have you put on a few pounds? Did your significant other cheat on you? Are you having financial troubles? Were you turned down for a job or promotion? Finding the answers to these questions can help to get you out of your slump and help you get your sexy back. The certified counselors at are standing by to help you figure things out.

How to Be Seductive and Still Be Yourself on the Inside

Do you know that something as simple as smiling can transform how you feel? Smiling releases neuropeptides that send messages to your neurons to communicate a sense of happiness and contentment to the rest of your body. If physical pain is causing you to feel like less than your best, smiling releases endorphins that act as a natural pain reliever. Endorphins can also lower your heart rate and blood pressure to alleviate your stress.

If you want others to notice your seductiveness, make sure your smile is genuine. Studies have shown that smiling attracts people to you and they know when you're faking it. Adding eye contact to a genuine smile will get most everyone's attention.

How to Be Seductive and Still Be Yourself on the Outside

Take a look at some photos of yourself at a time when you felt amazing. What's different now? Did you have an attractive haircut? Were you paying more attention to your wardrobe?

You don't have to go over the top to make an impactful change to your appearance. Make a list of things that you could change and then pick just one small change. Ladies, brighten your lip color, get a manicure, or get your eyebrows waxed. Accessorize with a scarf or some tactful jewelry. Men, clean up with a new haircut, get a fresh shave, or treat yourself to a pedicure. Try a new cologne or aftershave for a change of pace.

Small changes on the outside will transform how you feel on the inside.

Digitally Disconnect and Make a Personal Connection

Internal and external changes make you feel like your best self which easily translates to being seductive. Don't forget that being seductive is about making a personal connection with people. Make a date to see your special someone in person. Shut off the cell phones or leave them at home so that you can devote your full attention to the person you are with.

When you feel your best and look your best, that genuine smile comes easy. Your partner and everyone else in your presence are sure to notice that you are seductive and still very much yourself.

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