Making Enduring Love Relationships Last

Updated October 4, 2022by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Everyone has a dream of falling in love, meeting their soul mate, and living happily ever after. Once you find that special someone that you truly love, you want to hold onto that relationship for all it's worth. But, if you haven't had long-term relationships in the past, it can be difficult to know how to make that enduring love last.

When you first fall in love, feelings run passionately through you both. The love you have for each other is intense and all-consuming. However, those high passions cannot last forever. Eventually, usually within the first two years of a relationship, those feelings begin to subside. The love can endure, but it begins to be work.

A good, long-lasting relationship with enduring love does take work. In several research studies, it was discovered that mindfulness in a relationship could make or break it. When you love someone and are mindful of every aspect of your relationship and your partner, your relationship is much more likely to last for years to come.

The items in this article are things that you can do mindfully to make your relationship last through the tests of time. When you and your partner commit to taking action on your relationship on a daily basis mindfully, you will find that you are much happier in your relationship and it will last forever.

What Constitutes A Healthy Relationship

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A healthy relationship that can last for years takes two committed people. It cannot be a one-way street. While the things mentioned in this article can help your relationship last longer, it will only work if you are both committed to the challenge. Both partners must be willing to work on the relationship every single day mindfully.

If you find that you are the only one trying to make it work, you may need to face the fact that your relationship will not last long. A healthy relationship is a two-way street, a balance between the two of you that must be struck and maintained. If you want your relationship to last, you should be going over these points with your partner so that you're both on the same page.

Being A Best Friend

Studies have shown that the couples that last the longest are best friends. They have more than just romantic love. Couples that last for decades are true companions to one another. But what does it mean to be a best friend?

When you are best friends with your significant other, you support them in all that they do. You're there for a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen. You are committed to making sure that they are happy, and you are committed to spending time with one another. Best friends can tell each other anything, and they can help each other through problems, even between the two of them.

Be Willing To Sacrifice (for partner needs/compromise)

When you are in a committed relationship that you want to last, you have to be willing to make sacrifices along the way. Sacrifices could be small, such as letting your significant other choose where to have dinner that night. Or, they can be huge, such as letting your spouse decide where you reside.

When you are willing to sacrifice for your partner, you will find that they are also willing to sacrifice for you when the time comes for it. You will be showing them that you are putting them first, before your desires. Studies have shown that a willingness to sacrifice is necessary for true commitment.

Being willing to sacrifice is also an important part of being willing to compromise. When you can compromise to resolve disagreements, it will keep small and large arguments from becoming points of resentment and contention. Sometimes compromise will be easy, and you'll be able to meet in the middle. But often compromise means being willing to sacrifice something you want for what your partner wants.

Keep in mind that for the relationship to be healthy and last for years, both partners must be willing to make these sacrifices from time to time. If you find that you are constantly giving in to your partner's needs and desires while ignoring your own, you will eventually come to resent them. Sacrifices have to be made on both sides equally for the relationship to work.

Plan A  Future

When you are in a committed relationship that you want to last, you have to make sure that you are planning for your future together. You are no longer planning just for yourself, but together as a couple. Every plan you make for the future should be made by keeping in mind how it will affect your partner and your relationship.

For example, you may have had a plan for your career before you met your partner, which would ultimately require you to move or travel. Now that you are with your partner, you have to consider how that plan will affect them. You have to discuss it with them and determine if that is still a good plan to follow in light of your relationship.

Maintain A Physical Connection

It is very important for couples to maintain a physical connection. A sure sign that a relationship is failing is when physical intimacies are no longer the norm. Physical touch like hand-holding, quick kisses, and touching or massaging a shoulder are important, but they are simply not enough.

Couples who want to remain together for years have to maintain a physical intimacy. You should be intimate with your partner at a minimum once a week to maintain a close relationship. If this is not possible for any reason, it becomes even more imperative that other forms of touch are frequently employed.

Keeping Lines Of Communication Open

You and your partner have to keep the lines of communication open at all times if you want to have your enduring love relationship last. Communication is key to making sure that both of you are having your needs met and your desires fulfilled. It is also important to keep things out in the open to avoid arguments.

Many times arguments and disagreements can be handled without rising tempers when appropriate communication tools are in play. Being able to tell each other everything and communicate effectively, even when you disagree, will ensure that you are both being heard and understood by the other. It is extremely important that you can communicate with your partner in any situation.

Communication is, of course, a two-way street. You both have to be willing to commit to hear each other out and weigh the options. Conversations cannot be one-sided, especially on important topics.

Daily communication is also important. Couples who do not talk with each other often are not connecting with one another. You should make time every day to sit and talk with your partner, whether it is about their day or something more substantial. The important thing is that you are talking with one another routinely.

Be Willing to Apologize

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You must be willing to apologize to your spouse when you are wrong. Ego cannot get in the way of an apology if you want your relationship to last and experience enduring love even through the hard times. When you make a mistake, you have to own up to it and apologize sincerely, and try to make it up to your partner.

You also have to be willing to apologize when you are not sure what you have done wrong. If you have somehow made your partner upset or mad, you have to be willing to apologize for that. Even if they have done something to upset you, find the way to apologize for your part in the problem. This will help alleviate tempers and distress, and you will be able to move past the disagreement.

Being Committed To Make It Work

Ultimately, you and your partner have to be committed to making the enduring love last between the two of you. You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to move past problems that may arise in your relationship. Good, healthy relationships and enduring love take work. You can't be willing to give up when things get rough. You have to be willing to stick it out to the end and do what it takes to make sure your partner is getting what they need.

It is recommended for this reason that couples seek out a good therapist before marriage. Going through couples therapy will help you learn the tools you need to be able to make your relationship last for years to come. Couples who go through therapy before marriage are also more willing to go through therapy when the marriage reaches times of trouble. When you are willing to get outside help to make your relationship work and do as the therapist instructs you, you will be sure to make your love last for life.

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