What Is A Twin Flame? The Connection To Your Other Half

By Corrina Horne |Updated July 8, 2022

A girl laughs on the couch while looking at her phone, speaking to her twin soul.

Your Twin Flame Helps You To Grow

Soul mates get plenty of attention. Soul mates are heavily featured in novels, poetry, and other forms of media. We wonder if there is someone out there in the world whom we've never met that might be destined for us, whether that be a life partner or a best friend. Even family members may be a specific type of soul mate, in some cases, depending on how many types of soul mate relationships you believe in.

A More Destiny-Driven, Overwhelming Form Of Love Than Soulmates

Or maybe you're with someone now who you are always in perfect sync with. Most people identify the term "soul mate" as opposed to "twin flame" to describe the peak of a romantic relationship and ultimate find with regard to love and romance... A twin flame, however, might be even closer than soul mates. They may share one soul.

What Is A Twin Flame?

A twin flame is the cousin of a soul mate. While a soul mate is typically thought of as a romantic partner, a twin flame can come from all walks of life and can embody many different types of relationships. Because twin flames are not necessarily compatible for romance in terms of age, temperaments, and backgrounds, they are not considered soul mates, but are instead considered two literal halves of a whole, so intimacy and connection come as naturally as breathing between two twin flames.

How Is A Twin Flame Different From Soulmates?

While the notion of soulmates is backed by at least two different mythological origin stories, twin flames are not a product of any one particular mythology. Instead, twin flames are a spiritual concept, where twin flames meant or represented two parts of one soul in separate bodies, or a literal “soulmate”. These two parts do not have to come together to be a whole, healthy person in every life, according to the lore, but are more thoroughly fulfilled and at peace in order to bring greater peace and fulfillment to the world.

Twin flames are said to be created when a person reaches transcendence or a higher way of living.

The consequence of transcendence is to have your soul rendered in two, and the second piece is transposed into a body outside of your own. This is not a punishment, as soul mate separation was said to have been, but a natural consequence.

Twin Flames And Love Signs

The most powerful symptoms of twin flame’s unconditional love is longing. You will experience an intense longing for your twin flame, even when the two of you have connected-and perhaps even while the two of you are together. Because you are a single soul, split into two, you will crave oneness and unity with your twin flame. This unity can only be reached through continual growth in all aspects of your life and is considered a spiritual longing, or soul longing.

The Magnetic Pull Between Soulmates

Feeling a strong, magnetic pull toward a person may also indicate that you've found a twin flame connection. Being two halves of one whole, and existing to create unity and wholeness in one another means that being apart from each other can be difficult, or downright painful. If you have not yet met your twin flame, you will feel yourself moving in the direction of this person, without realizing or knowing why. Once you do meet your twin flame, though, the pull is undeniable, and you will likely continue to feel an attraction, a closeness, and a sense of magnetism even if you have gone your separate ways for a time.

Finally, you will feel an incredible sense of intuition toward your twin flame. You might find yourself doing or thinking the same things at the same time, and may even have the same dreams. You might know things about your twin flame that they haven't told you, such as when they are struggling, suffering, or experiencing euphoria. Your connection allows you to have a window into their emotional state.

Are Twin Flames Always Romantic?

No. Twin flame love and twin flame relationships may be romantic, but it may also be that the other half of your soul is a beloved friend, a family member, or even someone to whom you look up or admire. The most important aspect of a twin flame is a connection. You may have an intense, overwhelming connection or relationship with a friend or family member, too, and these relationships can also act as a mirror for you to grow and improve yourself.

In friendship twin flame relationships, though, the two of you are likely to be inseparable and have a bond that may seem to be a step above friendship, even without romance involved. The two of you may be likened to being siblings when your bond is observed by outsiders, as it will be powerful, intense, and unbreakable. This is why when you meet your twin flame, you will likely be fully aware of it, considering the connection might be so strong and powerful.

How Long Does A Twin Flame Last?

Unlike soul mates, twin flame relationships do not necessarily last a lifetime. Operating under the notion that the two of you are literally two halves of a single soul, your connection will be enduring, but your relationship may not be. For some, the relationship with your twin flame is designed to teach you something, or elevate you to a higher place in your life. Twin flames might come along right as you need them, and step into your life in a time of great conflict or great change, and can help you ease the transition into a new way of living, or a new way of being. Twin flames do last forever, though, even if you are not together.

In romantic connections, twin flames can stand the test of time and can be incredible partners.

Because the two of you will have a powerful connection, you may find that creating trust and intimacy is far easier in these relationships than in another relationship you may come across. That kind of fast, magnetic attraction and trust is difficult to let go of, so twin flames may do whatever it takes to make sure they retain their relationship.

Twin flames can also last a lifetime in friendship and other relationships. Twin flames can make close, intimate friends, and may understand you and your motivations more than anyone else seems capable of. Twin flame friendships, then, are often held onto and treasured, as it is difficult to find friendships where both parties are willing to go through the mud with one another and come out the other side dirty, but still caring for one another.

Why Reject It?

It is important to note that a twin flame is what is considered to literally be your other half. This means that despite an intense connection, you might feel the impulse to get away from or reject your twin flame if you do not have a deep and abiding love for yourself. All too often, people are quick to dislike the negative traits they possess mirrored in those around them. This will be magnified in your twin flame, as the two of you are two halves of one whole, and will more thoroughly possess one another's traits.

This is part of what makes twin flames so important to some; these connections are designed to help you grow and become a better version of yourself. If you reject yourself, it reveals work you have to do in order to lead a better, more fulfilled life. Self-love is at the core of human beings and connection, as failing to love yourself will severely limit your ability to forge close, trusting, intimate relationships of all kinds; you will be too afraid to share everything with a partner if you are holding onto self-doubt or self-loathing.

Twin Flames:

The Purpose

What is the purpose of your flame? Because twin flame relationships elevate you and push you to grow, these relationships are considered pivotal to the growth and progression of the human race as a whole and are encouraged and supported by numerous spiritual leaders. Trying to find your twin flame-and being able to maintain the relationship-requires a lot of maturity on the part of both partners, and will be both the most rewarding relationship you will ever have-and the most difficult.

Twin flames are supposed to be examples of how love should look, which is what is most important to encourage the development of love and spiritual transcendence of the flame in the world. Twin flames may take numerous lifetimes to finally come together and stay together in a strong, mature relationship, but if this is achieved, a flame bond is the thing that will influence and inspire everyone around them.

What Is A Twin Flame?

Love And Growth

Twin flames are similar to soul mates, in that they afford you a powerful connection and a feeling as though you are not alone in the world. They differ from soul mates, however, in that twin flames are said to be enduring, passing through various lifetimes and changes. Twin flames are not simple connections or connections that pass in and out, but go on forever. Twin flame connections are forged from spiritual bonds, as twin flames are said to literally be two halves of a single soul that must eventually be reunited.

Your Twin Flame Helps You To Grow

While a therapist might be able to help you work through your past and any trauma you might have to experience health and growth for your own sake, the proponents of twin flames suggest that this form of growth and striving toward health is actually an integral part of working toward reuniting with your twin flame. Because twin flames can trigger a radical change in their communities or even the world, the thing they must have is some semblance of mental and spiritual health. The responsibility of acting as agents of change is vast, and the challenges that arise with a twin flame pairing require patience, maturity, and determination-many things that can be lacking in people who are not emotionally, mentally, or spiritually healthy. A twin flame is not merely a connection, but a way of returning to the core of who you are.

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