When Marrying For Money Is Right: How To Marry Rich
Updated February 04, 2019
Reviewer Richard Jackson
There are seven billion people on this earth and country to country, state to state, city to city you will find one common factor: diversity. Yet as assorted as we are, marriage is often described as a one-size fit all arrangement. The truth is there are also many different options for marriage. The only aspect that is required by all marriages is mutual consent. If the parties involved in a marriage agree to the type of union they are forming, then it can be a successful and happy marriage, even if it doesn't fit the standard ideal of falling madly in love first. An option that is not discussed often is marrying for money, and there is no shame in learning how to marry rich.
Alternative types of marriage
One of the myths about modern marriage is that your spouse should fulfill all the various roles you need in your life, and that is simply not possible for one person to do alone. You need other people and other types of relationships with friends and family. That means a successful marriage actually requires you to determine which role or roles you intend your spouse to fill in your life and which are most important to you.
Defining these particular roles will start your marriage off the right way, with both of you knowing the expectations. Alternative marriage agreements take these expectations into account and allow partners to agree at the outset as to what each person is getting from the marriage agreement. Marrying for money, also called a safety marriage, is one such type of alternative marriage agreement. The people in these relationships may not have a whirlwind romance, but they go into the situation knowing that's not what they expect. In the end, most people who choose this type of relationship are quite happy with their decisions because what they have meets their expectations.
An Age-Old Practice
As taboo as the idea of marrying for money may seem, unions based on financial connections have been going on since the beginning of time. Kings and queens often united for the sole purpose of bringing their kingdoms together. Jane Austen's character Ms. Eliza Bennet from her classic Pride and Prejudice describes the moment of falling in love with her beau as when she saw his 'sizeable estate.'
This makes sense being that in the late 18th century, it was not uncommon that a middle-class woman had to choose if her marriage should be based on money or love. After all, women didn't work, and one way out of economic hardship was to 'marry well.' Most modern-day women would argue that we are in a different time. We can be independent of men and live our dreams, no longer forced to depend on a man and his status to carry us through life.
But does that mean it is wrong to want a marriage that is financially beneficial if that is one of our essential desires? Most certainly not, as long as honesty and transparency are an equal part of the equation.
How to marry rich
The key to a successful financially-based marriage is for each partner to be honest about why they are going into the relationship. In fact, this type of honesty is an essential part of any fruitful relationship. Certainty is important, and you should make sure that this is the type of relationship you want by analyzing your values. Ask yourself the following questions when figuring out how to marry rich and if it is the right path for you:
- What do I desire most for a marriage? (Make a list)
- When I look at other successful marriages, what do they have that I want?
- What might be a drawback or a downfall to marrying someone because of their financial status
- Do I want to have children later on and what kind of family life do I desire?
- Is long-term security my ultimate goal, even if it means I have to give up some of the positive parts of traditional marriage?
- What do I have to offer?
One thing to understand is that to marry rich; you also have to have something to offer your spouse. Because they are offering something quite valuable - financial security - marrying rich may mean you are in a position of lesser power in your marriage. What you may be asked to provide your wealthy spouse is your time toward their priorities. What if they are all about their work and have little free time/emotional connection to offer you? Is this something that you will be able to deal with.
The first step to marrying rich and keeping that marriage is to accept that you will have to provide some non-monetary value and to outline what that "something" is.
Of course, many people assume that a woman who marries rich has merely to look the part. This might be true in the beginning, but what about for the long haul? There have been many celebrity examples of rich men replacing their now middle-aged wives for shinier toys and newer models. For this reason alone, it is important to make sure the person you marry is not just a financial come up for you. You must connect in some way on a deeper level.
How to Marry Rich: Snagging a Partner
Once you accept that these are your priorities and have outlined what you desire in your future husband/wife, finding a wealthy partner is much the same as finding any other partner. But instead of looking for them in places that cater to your interests, you will make yourself known in sites that accommodate the rich. Here are some options:
- Charity events
- Golf clubs
- Pubs near high-income office areas
- Luxury spa resorts
- Movie premieres and parties
- Auction houses
- Millionaire clubs
- Matchmaking services and upscale dating websites
How to Prepare Yourself
Now that you know what you want and where you might find him or her, its time to prepare yourself. Some tips to remember when aiming to marry rich:
- If you're not already in a city where lots of wealthy people live, relocate. If you can only afford to live on the outskirts, that's fine, but if you reside in Podunk, Idaho, you're a lot less likely to snag a wealthy partner.
- Carry yourself well. Beauty is only skin deep, but let's face it, outer beauty matters. Look your best while out in public, go to the gym, and focus on self-care (physical and emotional). Dress confidently, walk confidently, BE confident.
- Be unique. There are tons of other people looking for the same thing that you are, and when you're trying to date and eventually marry the ultra-rich, competition will always be around. What is interesting about you that will set you apart and capture the attention of others?
- Focus on you. I realize this one might seem polar opposite to what you're trying to do. After all, you're trying to get a wealthy lover, not make your own But that's the thing about successful people-most want to connect with other successful people. Model quality looks and funny stories won't get you past the second date if you're not well-read, accomplished, and working on your own goals/dreams. By focusing on you and taking yourself out of 'hunter' mode, it's likely that the type of partner you desire will come to you.
- Learn all you can. The best time to prepare for a successful partnership is before you are actually Talk to couples who have been married for over 30 years, read marriage books with rave reviews, and prepare to be the partner your future spouse will need, regardless of how many dollars are in their account. To learn more about what goes into a successful marriage of any kind, you can always talk to a professional as well.