Adlerian Theory: Understanding The Individual

By Joanna Smykowski|Updated April 14, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Whitney White, MS. CMHC, NCC., LPC

Adlerian Theory Is Based On Psychologist Adler. Read About His Concepts.

Adlerian theory refers to a psychological practice built on the belief that, as unique individuals, people should be validated, connected, and made to feel significant. Adlerian therapy focuses on the entire individual, not just the parts that need improvement, and regards the personality as strongly influenced by the role one played within their family of origin, which is reflected in part by birth order.

Alfred Adler, who was an ophthalmologist before he entered psychiatry, created his theory in the early 1900s after parting ways with Sigmund Freud. Much of his theory is based on the importance of having a sense of community. According to Adler, individuals who feel that they belong will act cooperatively and form healthy, loving bonds with others. But those who feel like outcasts will act out to express that feeling of inadequacy. Thus, an essential goal is help those who feel like outsiders create community.

Alderian Theory—A Sense of Belonging

As discussed above, one of Adler’s main beliefs was that people need to feel that they belong. People are their best selves when they feel connected to and loved by those around them. This is especially important in families, which are the first communities most people belong to. When a family member feels that they are not appreciated, they will act in unhealthy ways. This may include withdrawing, competing, or giving up altogether. Feeling discouraged will increase this behavior and may cause the person to become isolated from their family.

Many times, parents will punish children’s poor behavior. This discipline may eliminate the behavior, but Adler believed that it could also lead to other forms of acting out. He maintained that "a misbehaving child is a discouraged child" and that individuals act out when they feel unloved, devalued, or unsupported. Therefore, by embracing the child fully while using appropriate discipline, the parent is more likely to see an improvement.

Understanding Unique Beliefs

Adler believed that when we take time to analyze where our personal beliefs come from and how they influence our behavioral patterns, we can start taking steps toward growth and healing. In particular, looking at the ways we seek validation and acceptance are key to understanding our behavior. The ways we look for a sense of belonging from those around us are not static. They can be changed with time, dedication, and therapy. But according to Adler, it is first necessary to understand where our beliefs come from, based on our childhood experiences.

As discussed above, children’s behavior reflects their need for validation and acceptance. When a child isn't given attention for positive behavior, they are likely to seek attention for negative behavior. They might break something or fight with their sibling to gain the parental attention they crave, even if it's negative. Their belief system then becomes internalized, and the child carries that type of behavior into adulthood.

Accepting the Individual

Adlerian theory views each person as a whole individual as opposed to just a collection of behaviors, beliefs, and influences. Adler stressed that we must study the entire individual, as this is what will give us clues as to where growth can begin. If we were to focus merely on negative behaviors, for example, then the person in question might feel that their other qualities don't have value. But when we highlight good qualities and show the person they are valued, negative behaviors and beliefs can be slowly replaced.

Just as adults improve their behavior when they are made to feel valued and appreciated, so do children. When we celebrate our children’s accomplishments and highlight their talents, they have less need to gain attention through poor behavior.

Adlerian Theory in Therapy

In therapy, Adlerian theory benefits clients by helping them understand the root of their behaviors, how they can change their view of themselves, and how they can change their view of their childhoods. This happens in four steps with a licensed therapist.

At the beginning of therapy, the therapist engages the client in developing a close relationship. They establish goals and boundaries before diving into the real work: building a foundation of trust.

Next, the therapist encourages the client to talk about their experiences, emotions, behaviors, family, upbringing, and drives. This information helps establish how the individual’s current behaviors came to be. Was there a significant life event that made them feel ashamed or guilty? Did this event push them into the shadows or cause them to become quiet to avoid feeling stupid? This assessment helps the therapist understand the current behaviors and beliefs of the client.

The third step is for the therapist to offer their insight into how past experiences may have shaped the client’s current beliefs and behaviors. It is ultimately up to the client to agree or disagree with the therapist’s interpretation.

Finally, the client is reoriented. Together, therapist and client come up with a new interpretation of the clients’ past and strategies that they can use to change their life in positive ways. This new, positive perspective can give clients the confidence they need to work toward their goals. Having shed the weight of shame, guilt, or lack of self-worth, it is easier for the client to move toward growth and fulfillment.

Adlerian Theory Is Based On Psychologist Adler. Read About His Concepts.

The ultimate goal of Adlerian therapy is to show the client that they have control over their thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. Early beliefs about inadequacy or lack of control can be transformed into new beliefs that the client does have worth and their opinions matter. Once clients are shown that old beliefs don't have to determine their current lives, they can more confidently move forward.

How Can Adlerian Therapy Help?

Adlerian therapy can help individuals gain confidence and make better decisions. It can aid clients in being independent without the fear of failure. Though failing is a part of life, constantly feeling like a failure due to an internal belief can interfere with daily living. Once that fear is addressed and overcome, it is possible to live one’s best life and form healthier relationships with others.

Ultimately, the goal of Adlerian therapy is to replace long-held negative beliefs, which leads to becoming more self-reliant, confident, and socially empowered. These achievements in turn lead to healthier decisions and relationships. Though this type of therapy takes time, replacing those beliefs can open up a host of opportunities for that person that they didn't think possible.

How It Doesn't Help. This type of therapy is not for people who expect quick results. It also doesn't cater to those who only want to be in therapy for a brief amount of time. Adlerian therapy takes effort, dedication, and commitment. While it can help the individual transform into a healthy and happy adult, it doesn't happen overnight. (And in truth, most therapy will take the same effort.)

Another limitation is that Adlerian therapy involves a deep dive into early life events. This exploration might be off-putting to those who do not wish to confront childhood memories that are painful, upsetting, or disturbing. Since it is important to establish the reasons for current behavior and thoughts, Adlerian psychotherapists insist on establishing a childhood timeline. This might not work for some individuals.

Individuals who do not wish to challenge current beliefs will also find this type of therapy to be difficult.

Where to Get Help. To take advantage of the help Adlerian therapists can offer, you can contact a licensed therapist who utilizes Adlerian theory. For child development, there are many childcare facilities available to the public that follow Adlerian theory.

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Read more about Alfred Adler and his theory in the following articles:

Good Therapy.

Alfred Adler Graduate School.

Who Can Adlerian Therapy Help?

Research shows that Adlerian therapy can successfully treat any mental disorder. It can be used on its own or in combination with other forms of therapy, including play therapy and art therapy. Adlerian therapy with a licensed therapist can help children, adolescents, or adults, and  individuals, couples, families, and other groups.

The Benefits of Online Therapy

As discussed above, Adlerian therapy with a licensed therapist can help individuals of all ages with mental disorders. But symptoms of disorders such as depression and anxiety can make it difficult to attend in-person sessions. This is where online therapy comes in. You can access BetterHelp’s platform from the comfort and privacy of your own home. In addition, online therapy offers lower pricing than in-person therapy because online therapists don’t have to pay for costs like renting an office. BetterHelp’s licensed therapists have helped people with various mental disorders. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp therapists from people experiencing similar issues.

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