What Is Splitting Psychology?

By William Drake|Updated October 4, 2022

Splitting is a psychological concept that may seem foreign at first. But there’s a good chance you know someone who has done it. You probably have done it yourself without even realizing it. In this post, we will discuss what splitting is, why people do it, its history, and how you can cope with someone who splits.

Confused About The Definition Of Splitting Psychology?

What Is Splitting?

Splitting is better known as black and white thinking. It's when someone views aspects of their lives in a false dichotomy. Everything is either good or bad. You're either for a person or against them. Everything is either just or unjust. Life is divided into two parts. Many people split some things. Some will split everything they believe. The person who splits tends to look at only the positive or negative of someone or something-- and it helps when using the splitting defense mechanism.

Why Do People Do It?

Everyone splits to a certain degree. At first, it may seem a bit silly. Why can't people be more nuanced and realize that not everything is divided into black and white extremes? While the process might sound ridiculous, it is an essential mental function that allows our minds to operate the way they do. To understand why, we can’t simply realize that life is filled with gray areas of experience. We need to appreciate just how many ambiguous people, events, and things we experience throughout life. Morality, actions, and motivations are not always good or bad in entirety. It can be overwhelming for many people to constantly grapple with minutiae. Instead, we tend to make sense of the information by grouping it. This process helps us organize information, but you can see where it can become troublesome.

Why Splitting Can Be Bad

Dividing life into categories can be useful, but without critically examining the information you've split, it can lead to poor decision making, missed opportunities, or other negative outcomes. For example, if you think a specific concept is bad, you may not take the time to learn more about it. If you studied it more, perhaps you would see another viewpoint or be able to realize that your point of view is not much different. Also, splitting may throw our attitudes to the extremities of group opinion. For example, someone may make a negative generalization about a group of people because of the violent actions of a few. It's necessary to address issues, such as crime, when they arise. But that single incident should not form the entirety of your understanding of the community.

History Of Splitting

Splitting was first looked at in the late 1800s by Pierre Janet. He believed there were two selves, the normal and the secondary. Other psychologists began to describe it and expand upon it. One such psychologist was Sigmund Freud. Freud thought that splitting was a defense mechanism used to help protect the ego. Someone's ego may be damaged if they realized their opposing viewpoint is more nuanced than just being bad or undesirable. While their ego is protected by being the hero of the story and the other split the villains, it distorts how reality is. Life is rarely good vs. evil, but instead shades of gray piling on other shades.

Some Examples

Here are some examples of splitting.

  • This is an infamous example known to everyone. If you have a two-party system, people may split the parties. One party is trying to do everything they can to help the people, and the other is trying to undo what the opposing party is trying to accomplish.
  • With a split mentality, you may believe that your religion is the right way while the other religions are opposing you. Many do not believe that nearly every religion has its purpose.
  • Authority, in general, can be viewed by splitting. There are some who think that all authority is out to get them and should be opposed. Then, there are others who think that authority should always be obeyed and is in the right. Others may look at both the good and the bad aspects of authority and accept them.
  • Thinking that everyone who doesn't care for you is against you is another example of splitting. Not everyone in society is going to accept you, but not all are your enemies. However, it can be difficult for you to realize this when you split.

How To Know If Someone Is Splitting

It's quite easy to know if someone is splitting a concept. Here are a few signs.

  • The person thinks in absolutes or divides concepts into two opposing camps.
  • This person believes that everyone is either good or bad. There is no room for moral ambiguty
  • They believe that someone with a different viewpoint is against them. They also don't entertain the viewpoint or look into it.
  • Someone who splits can easily turn. They can turn into your best friend who idolizes you. But if you do something they don't like, they may turn you into public enemy number one.
  • They may think that, by making fun of those who think differently, they are somehow improving their self-esteem.
  • Someone who splits can change their mind over issues with a drop of the hat. Usually, it takes some time for someone to change their mind. But someone who divides concepts may sometimes switch their opinions or allegiances easily.
  • They can't keep a relationship, be it a friendship or a romantic partner. This is because if a friend or partner disagrees with them, they are automatically their enemy.
  • They may change moods easily. They may view their mood as either being happy or sad, calm or angry.
  • Someone who splits may present themselves differently depending on the circumstances.

Confused About The Definition Of Splitting Psychology?

Who Splits?

Splitting can happen at any age, but it's commonly associated with younger people. Teens and young adults may split slightly more often. This may be because they are trying to figure themselves out. Trauma or significant events may cause an increase in splitting behavior as well. It can happen at any age. Older people can split, especially when it comes to cherished beliefs like politics and religion. Personality disorders can also elicit splitting.

How People Split To Justify Their Actions

Perhaps the biggest use for psychological splitting is to justify actions that are often perceived as unjustifiable or unreasonable. Someone may do spiteful actions or cause harm because they believe the person receiving it deserves it. In the splitting mind, the ends justify the means. Someone may use splitting to make it appear that they are always right. Many do not like to be wrong about events, and splitting helps them reconcile the outcome with their belief.

Elsewhere, psychopaths can use splitting to create a narrative where they are the victim. Someone who creates mass murder may use a "woe is me" story to justify their actions, even if there is no justification for it. This can apply to anyone committing the crime. People who do bad things can always split the situation to cast themselves as the victim.

Treating Splitting

As we said before, most people split in some way or another. There is probably something in your life that you have divided into an either-or situation without even realizing it. The best way to treat yourself if you are splitting is to become more self-aware.

Once you realize you've split something, look at it critically. Study all sides of the issue and listen to both points. Be open-minded. This can help you realize that most things in life can't be divided into good or bad. We aren't saying you have to always be in the middle of a situation, but perhaps take time to look at the other side.

Seeing in shades of gray can be challenging. The world is rarely black and white. Sure, some actions are bad no matter what. But when it comes to people's actions and motivations, they are often quite complex. You can learn more by looking at the other side and realizing the true beauty of this world. Not everything is divided into black and white. Sometimes, there are many viewpoints on one issue alone, and the people spouting those viewpoints are not purely good or bad.

Assistance Is Available

With that said, changing how you look at life can be difficult. A counselor can help you turn your thinking around and let you see life in ways you haven't before. Additionally, you may have a friend, partner, or coworker who splits. It can be difficult to constantly be the enemy one minute and the savior the next. Someone at BetterHelp can aid you in dealing with these people.

If you believe that splitting behavior—either yours or from someone you know—is having a negative impact on your life, you may want to seek guidance from a licensed mental health professional. While some specialized forms of treatment are still being developed for remote delivery, there is strong consensus in the psychological community that the vast majority of mental illness can be addressed with online counseling.

Consider speaking to a counselor and discover how you can improve. There’s no need to sit in traffic or take time out of your day to drive to an appointment. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors, from people experiencing similar issues.

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Splitting is taxing for the person experiences it and the people who witness their behavior. If you are on either side, help is at your fingertips. Take the first step.

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