Are There Signs: How To Know If Your Girlfriend Is Cheating

By Patricia Oelze

Updated December 10, 2018

Reviewer Erika Schad, LCP, CWLC

In an ideal relationship, neither partner would cheat, but it happens. There is a feeling that leads to the theory that something is wrong. Yet, there must be a distinct way to determine whether you are correct, besides the direct confrontation. How can you know if your girlfriend is cheating?


How to Know if Your Girlfriend is Cheating

There are many signs that reveal that your girlfriend is cheating, as was mentioned in the article "15 Signs That She Is Cheating". One of the more obvious ones is her attitude towards you. If she stops caring about your relationship as if she does not react to you being late to a date, it could mean she is more invested in another relationship.

Likewise, if she is not committing to any plans, is busy, and is secretive about her schedule, she may be spending her time with someone else.

If you are direct about your suspicions, watch how she reacts. Your girlfriend may cheat on you if she is avoiding your questions or is acting defensively. Her excuses may include that she has the right to some privacy (even though she is expecting a lot of privacy) and she wishes to remain independent or not committed to you.


One of the most significant signs is her eye movements. Pay attention to where her focus lies when you are out in public. When she is scanning the room, this means she is worried that she will get caught because the person she is cheating with could be anywhere in the vicinity.

In addition, she may cheat on you if she does not look at you when you are revealing your feelings towards her. This represents her avoidance to commit to you.

What To Do If You Discover She Is Cheating

Once you are confident that your girlfriend is cheating on you, it is up to you to decide how to proceed. If you care little about building a long-lasting relationship, remaining in a casual relationship may not be the end of the world.


If you want to work on your relationship, you and your girlfriend could consider couples counseling, which you can receive at BetterHelp, on online therapy platform. Individual therapy sessions are also available through this platform, should you wish to break away from the relationship.

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