The Help I Needed With A Big Life Decision – Ryan

By: Nicola Kirkpatrick

Updated May 28, 2020

Medically Reviewed By: Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC

BetterHelp and my counselor, Sheilah, have helped me navigate through a tough decision making process regarding my career path. Life had opened two huge windows of opportunity for me, and I needed advice as I was having difficulty knowing what it was that I really wanted. I couldn't find anyone who could understand my predicament and view it from an impartial perspective, so I was delighted to come across BetterHelp on my Facebook page.

My first experience with counseling was in high school, when I was seeking support and guidance for family, friends, and school related issues. I initially had fears about sharing my feelings with others, but soon found that keeping my emotions bottled up inside was detrimental to my health. So I decided to take that first big step and open up to someone. Because I was in high school at the time, it was much more convenient to see someone face-to-face than it is with my busy schedule now.

So when I signed up for BetterHelp more recently, I was relieved to find it offered the support I needed from a counselor, but also the convenience of checking in whenever I was available. I have a hectic weekly schedule, so I could not manage to schedule face-to-face counseling appointments anymore. Dealing with a unique career based issue, I was also delighted to find that BetterHelp pairs its members with counselors specifically chosen for them based on the nature of the problems they are facing.

I have now been working with Sheilah on BetterHelp for about 4 weeks, and can confidently say that I am a lot less anxious about my career path now than when I first signed up. I had been growing restless the weeks prior to signing up, and I am so much better off now than I was before. Sheilah helped me understand that whenever making big life decisions, sometimes you just have to listen to your heart and follow it. I learned that life doesn't stop for anyone. While you can sit there and think for days about what you really want from life, time will continue to move forward -- even if you haven't. I also learned that my mentality plays a huge role in the decisions I make. By maintaining a positive outlook, I can better make the choices that are better for myself without feeling the regret of the opportunity cost.

The biggest achievement I've made as a result of my counseling with BetterHelp is developing a renewed strength in my faith. Not a lot of people understand the importance that faith has in one's life, but my counselor provided me with that affirmation of faith that I needed to move forward. Whether it be in yourself, in others, or in God, having that aspect of faith in your life is just as important as having food to eat, water to drink, and air to breathe. Thanks to BetterHelp, my faith is stronger than it ever was, and life is looking very good!