Rollo May

Updated November 30, 2022 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Sometimes, popular clichés just don't cut it when it comes to mental health. Regarding depression, individuals can grapple with deep philosophical questions that can't be resolved with trite truisms. In these moments, Rollo May's quotes can help by reconciling existential psychology and the individual human experience.

Can Existential Theory Help You Find Meaning?

Early Life And Influences

Rollo Reese May was born in 1909. He had a difficult childhood, which would later influence the important psychological developments he’s now credited with. Not only did his parents divorce, but his sister suffered from schizophrenia and psychosis. These early experiences played a defining role in what would eventually become his view on human behavior. 

May’s educational path evolved with him, as he moved through different life experiences. For example, he began at Michigan State University, earning a bachelor's degree in English, which he later completed at Oberlin College. Then, he taught English for three years in Greece where he developed an interest in theology.

Faith And Illness

Upon his return to the United States and in search of a new life, he was ordained as a minister and worked in the church for several years. It was around this time that May was diagnosed with tuberculosis. As was the custom at that time, May recovered at a sanatorium over the course of 18 months.

This life-threatening illness and the long recovery process strengthened May's interest in philosophy and psychology. In fact, it was after the time spent in the sanatorium, that May developed a strong interest in anxiety since he had had an opportunity to observe it firsthand, not only with his own experience of anxiety, but with those around him.

Achievements And Relevance

Once he fully recovered, May returned to the academic world and furthered his educational career by earning a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Teachers College at Columbia University in 1949.

May went on to found both Saybrook University and a research center in San Francisco. He also taught at many top schools throughout the United States and wrote many seminal books, which are still considered relevant today.

Rollo May is considered "the father of existential psychotherapy" in the US, but what exactly is existential psychotherapy or psychology? Understanding this may make  Rollo May’s quotes much more meaningful.

What Is Existential Psychology?

To best understand existential psychology, it's helpful to know what existentialism is and the social context from which it came.

Leading up to the 20th century, psychology had embraced science and all its objectivity, and in so doing, had rejected philosophy almost entirely. May recognized how science essentially isolated facts and observed: "them from an allegedly detached base." This included mental illness.

For example, Freud and his followers "sought to bring a scientific methodology to the study of the mind and mental processes, including psychological disorders and psychotherapy”. History would later prove that his methods and theories (many of which heavily influenced society at that time) were not at all scientific. As Sartre noted, psychology in a strict Freudian sense didn't go further than "describing mere patterns of desires and tendencies". According to May, Western thought had been dominated by the split between subject and object ever since the Renaissance, and this seeped into everything from industrialism and urbanism to medicine.

Existential Philosophy Sees The Human Person As An Entire Being

For May, existentialist philosophy is a resistance to rationalism and idealism that reduces a person to just another object to be scrutinized: someone who can be controlled, calculated, dissected and divided into disparate parts. 

To May, the human being wasn't merely a sum of their parts, but a being that was constantly in the state of becoming and always existing. This was a big step away from earlier psychological practices, and it returned humanity and empathy to the individual.

May’s existentialism offered a much-needed bridge between the scientifically abstract and the reality for people seeking treatment through psychotherapy.

Is There A Place For Existential Philosophy In Scientific Psychology And Psychotherapy?

Some academics opposed the introduction of philosophy into psychology because they feared it would make this science less concrete. However, May believed that philosophy and science should go hand-in-hand. 

In an age where science had become fixated on analyzing, codifying, and treating conditions, May saw that it served the field of science, but not necessarily the individual.  According to May,  psychology and psychotherapy should put the individual first.

To May, the goal of psychoanalysis is to help the individual become the best version of themselves and to pursue authenticity and freedom, even if that meant going against society's standards. And while this can push someone out of their comfort zone, May thought it better and healthier than doing the opposite.

For example, he worried that forcing an individual to live according to society's boundaries and expectations doesn’t always allow them to live an authentic life. Instead, he thought, it's a sure way to repression and self-censorship. In fact, May said, "Every human being must have a point at which he stands against culture, where he says, 'This is me and the world be damned!'"

How Does Existential Philosophy Enrich Psychoanalysis?

May promoted the idea that psychoanalysis and existentialism can be used together to observe the individual in his social context, rather than viewing the person (and their mental illness) as a detached object, unaffected by their world.

In a way, existentialism arose at a critical time in history, when personhood was being fragmented, and when Western culture was at the peak of separating and dehumanizing. Rollo May's theory, along with other leading philosophers, including Martin Heidegger, Franz Kafka, and Jean-Paul Sartre, offered an escape from this fracture by replacing it with wholeness, through existentialism. 

In today's day and age, it's easy to take this holistic mindset for granted. Buddhism, Hinduism, Ayurvedic practices, yoga, and Eastern spirituality abound. In the early 20th century, though, these were new and revolutionary belief systems, making May a man ahead of his time.

As you can see, Rollo May isn't merely an inspirational writer. Instead, his quotes illustrate the belief that the human person and his own unique human experience should be front and center of any healing.

You and your deepest concerns are at the heart of his teachings, and they are what drove him to alter psychotherapy to better support individuals who seek answers in times of depression and suffering.

Before May, psychoanalysis leaned more on the apathetic side, making it easy to objectify individuals with mental illness. But this wasn't good enough for May. He believed it was crucial for people to rediscover how to care for one another.

Normally, we think of anxiety as a negative experience to treat and overcome. But Rollo May saw it as an entryway into true personal freedom. For him, "anxiety is essential to an individual's growth …this is a way that humans enact their freedom to live a life of dignity…to live life to the fullest".

In fact, May believed that the only way to become fully human was to make free choices and then commit to them. He saw psychotherapy as playing a vital role in empowering individuals to do just that.

Rollo May Quotes Provide Insight Into Life's Pressing Questions

The individual, and their own unique experiences of suffering, depression, and anxiety are invaluable in the healing and recovery process. Rollo May's many notable works have repeated these beliefs again and again.

The following selection of Rollo May quotes highlights his theory and can serve as a reminder that an individual's own unique experience is both valid and valuable. Instead of offering commentary on each quote, we'd like to encourage the reader to reflect on them and to draw  own conclusions. May you find inspiration and powerful food for thought in the words of this seminal thinker.

May's Quotes On Depression

  • "Depression is the inability to construct a future."

  • "We are more apt to feel depressed by the perpetually smiling individual than the one who is honestly sad. If we admit our depression openly and freely, those around us get from it an experience of freedom rather than the depression itself."

  • "Hate is not the opposite of love; apathy is."

May's Quotes On Creativity

Can Existential Theory Help You Find Meaning?

  • "Freedom is man's capacity to take a hand in his development. We can mold ourselves."

  • "The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice; it is conformity."

  • "If you do not express your original ideas, if you do not listen to your being, you will have betrayed yourself."

  • "Creativity arises out of the tension between spontaneity and limitations, the latter (like the river banks) forcing the spontaneity into the various forms which are essential to the work of art or poem."

Rollo May Quotes On Suffering

  • "One does not become fully human."

  • "Suffering is nature's way of indicating a mistaken attitude or way of behavior, and to the nonegocentric person, every moment of suffering is the opportunity for growth. People should rejoice in suffering, strange as it sounds, for this is a sign of the availability of energy to transform their characters."

  • "Many people suffer from the fear of finding oneself alone, and so they don't find themselves at all."

Rollo May was a scholar, therapist, author and above all, a man who believed in the potential of every human being. According to May, no matter what mental conditions an individual struggles with, there is always courage and strength within to begin again and experience freedom.

Takeaway

Whether suffering is truly meaningful or just a symptom of a larger mental health condition, talking to a therapist can help. Individuals experiencing depression or anxiety can have trouble keeping appointments with mental health professionals, though, especially in-person. Online counseling is a more convenient alternative for seeking help during difficult times. 

During the recent Covid-19 crisis, the demand for internet-based counseling increased dramatically. This has given researchers an unprecedented opportunity to study its effects. One study pointed to the effectiveness of remote cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to treat symptoms of anxiety and depression. 

The experienced counselors at BetterHelp are professionally trained in CBT and other proven therapeutic methods. Most people are matched with a therapist within 24 to 48 hours of signing up, and you can talk to your counselor from the comfort of your own home. 

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