About Me

Whatever difficulty brought you here I believe I can help. My approach to counseling focuses on what you want your life to look like. Together we will explore the differences between the life you want and the life you have. I will encourage, support and listen to you as you tell me about your struggles. I will trust and respect what you have to say without judgment. Together we will evaluate how your relationships can improve and you can better meet your needs. Whether you are dealing with stress, anxiety, anger, or depression we will come up with behaviors that will be more fulfilling for you and the people around you.

My approach is a form or Cognitive Behavioral therapy called "Reality Therapy". It focuses on what you as the client want and evaluating how to get it. Reality therapy places a high importance on relationships and the role they play in our overall happiness. Relationships can be another person, group of people, or a role/organization like a job. Past experiences are important in shaping who you are but what you do in the present and future is the focus for change. I also have some training in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy(DBT) and use this model to help people cope with strong emotions. Most importantly, If you work with me I can teach you the knowledge and skills to improve your overall happiness for the rest of your life.
I look forward to working with you! -John


Specialties

  • Relationship issues
  • Family conflicts
  • Parenting issues
  • Anger management
  • Self esteem
Also experienced in:
Stress, Anxiety , Addictions , Trauma and abuse , Intimacy-related issues , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder , Depression , Coping with life changes , Compassion fatigue , ADHD

Clinical approaches:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Gottman Method, Mindfulness Therapy

Years of Experience: 6

Services Offered


  • Messaging

  • Live Chat

  • Phone

  • Video

Licensing

LMSW #6801092609 (Expires: 2022-04-01)


Reviews

Written by G.R. on Jun 01, 2021 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, family conflicts, parenting issues, coping with life changes, and coaching

John was very professional and empathetic, listening to everything I had to say and providing solid advice! 10/10 would have him again

Written by A.V. on Mar 22, 2021 after counseling with John for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, and adhd

Straight ti the point, gives it to you as it is. Helped me with various subjects. Would definitely recommend

Written by N.I. on Feb 26, 2021 after counseling with John for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, and intimacy-related issues

Great counselor. Very knowledgeable and shares great documents to help with my journey. Strongly recommend.

Written by S.T. on Feb 20, 2021 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety

John is a great councillor for anyone going through the traumas mentioned in his profile page. He keeps things very professional and he poses to be trustworthy.

Written by A.N. on Jan 26, 2021 after counseling with John for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, and anger management

Very helpful counsellor - takes quite a very solutions- oriented approach and offers many practical methods of self improvement, including helpful resources, concepts and some scientific explanation which I found personally very helpful and grounding. Many of his methods which I believe could be used by everyone and will certainly be aiming to put into practice many of Johns suggestions for the long term.

Written by T.A. on Oct 22, 2020 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, and career difficulties

He is strategic, intelligent and confident. I enjoy his counselling approach very much.

Written by C.H. on Oct 20, 2020 after counseling with John for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, and adhd

When I was in a place, completely overwhelmed by uncertainty and misdirection. Looking for meaning behind whom I am and what purpose I should be striving for. John Aren's was there to lend that hand.
His advice aided me understanding my fundermental principles in life, and truly helped me to understand myself! My personality and so forth.
Listening, and responding without judgment. Being only but honest speaking the clear truth to what misunderstanding i was facing so I could understand.
He's definitely helped me over the last 2 or 3 months! He's been a great aid.

Written by O.L. on Sep 03, 2020 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, and grief

John has a very practical approach to therapy and clearly appreciates the theory behind the practices he shares. If you want a more 'scientific' approach to your problems, he is certainly an excellent choice.

Written by R.E. on Aug 16, 2020 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, self esteem, career difficulties, and coping with life changes

John is a brilliant counsellor. Really knows what he’s talking about and I really feel like I can trust him and his approach.

John is very intuitive. And knew there was a deeper root where all of my anxiety stemmed from without me even mentioning it first. Really looking forward to doing more work with him

Written by A.N. on Aug 05, 2020 after counseling with John for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, parenting issues, and coping with life changes

To say that John was incredibly helpful would be a gross understatement of his abilities. As someone who was new to video therapy, but not new to the process itself, I was skeptical for a number of reasons. Initially, I feared that having a counselor that was the opposite gender would provide somewhat a barrier in understanding. This could not have been more wrong! I spent four sessions with John and each felt like it was so different from the last in that I had experienced so much growth. The geographical and gender divide did not hinder my experience in any capacity. He was able to send me worksheets and put things into perspective that made personal growth and maturity come easily. John's ability to put family dilemmas and relationships into a calm, objective perspective was phenomenal. Although I know that change had to come from within, John played a large role in saving my relationship with my mom. For that reason, I will forever be thankful for this experience.

Written by S.T. on Jun 03, 2020 after counseling with John for 2 months on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and adhd

I was about to give up on Betterhelp when I decided to give it one final shot. I entered my first meeting with John very skeptical of how it would go. However, I have been pleasantly surprised throughout our meetings. John is a good listener, easy to talk to, and provides great insights that have helped me connect my problems to the solutions I have been searching after. I highly recommend him!

Written by C.H. on May 26, 2020 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, and stress, anxiety

He is helping me out. I am very fortunate to have him reply to me and give me helpful tasks and exercises to assist me through this challenge.

Written by K.A. on Apr 29, 2020 after counseling with John for 1 year and 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, self esteem, career difficulties, and coping with life changes

John Arnes is really a great therapist. John takes the time to address your concerns and counseling needs. I have worked with John now for 15 months and I continue to learn new techniques to address my anxiety issues along with my BPD.
I highly recommend John to anyone needing any counseling at this time or in the future.

Written by M.A. on Mar 26, 2020 after counseling with John for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, and self esteem

I was highly skeptical about beginning online therapy and questioned how much help it would really be to me. In the few months since I started working with John, I feel like I'm well on my way to having my life back. I have a past filled with different traumas, experiences & very dark, sometimes suicidal, mental health. I was at a point where I didn't believe I could feel happiness again and was accepting that I would always be depressed, angry, anxious and lack the self control required to live a peaceful life.
Flash forward to today and I can confidently say that is no longer my reality. While I have no shame in acknowledging that my journey is far from over, I feel leaps and bounds ahead of where I was when I started. Because of the support and encouragement John has given me I now have more good days than bad, more focus and peace in my life. I no longer feel the need to obsessively control everything in my life, I no longer feel like everyone is out to get me and I no longer feel like my current situation is my forever situation. I'm learning to love myself again and I'm becoming my biggest fan and best friend.
I feel very fortunate to have been matched with John and grateful to BetterHelp for matching me with someone who has truly been able to help me understand my healing, my past and how I can come out the other side stronger and happier. I will forever be grateful to John for the difference he has already made to my quality of life.

Written by P.U. on Mar 09, 2020 after counseling with John for 6 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, self esteem, and compassion fatigue

John is a thoughtful and respectful counselor. I've always felt listened during our therapy sessions. He offers help in many different ways, through chatting and also by providing exercises, videos and books. My experience with John was really helpful and allowed me to become stronger, more mindful and more confident.

Written by H.O. on Mar 08, 2020 after counseling with John for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, family conflicts, and coping with life changes

My husband and I had two counseling calls with John Arens. He helped us get started enforcing boundaries with dysfunctional family members. We are very grateful for his easy-going temperament and his insightful comments and advice.

Written by L.E. on Nov 12, 2019 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, parenting issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue

John has been an incredible support to me during recent upheavals in my life. He listened, without judgement, and offered practical steps to help me better understand the situation at hand and identify my feelings.
John’s provision of resource has been amazing - helping me work through this period with actionable worksheets and reading recommendations, helping me identify why I may be feeling like I am and how I can work through those feelings and situations. At all times, John has been really responsive, his responses are thorough and he is fully engaged in our conversation.
John’s guidance has been a great source of strength for me of late, I am eternally grateful. I have no doubt in my mind that this work is helping me to become the best version of myself that I can, and John has played a massive role in facilitating that.

Written by C.H. on Aug 29, 2019 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, and family conflicts

John is really helpful and understanding and provides really good suggestions and insights. I would recommend him to anyone considering using BetterHelp.

Written by C.H. on Jun 17, 2019 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues

John thus far has been great. He has been helping me through a difficult time in my life. I am learning, through John's guidance, how to be more expressive and understand that I am truly only responsible for me. That regardless the outcome I will work on making myself better through this process and find a happier place to be at in my life.

Written by E.R. on May 10, 2019 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, parenting issues, and career difficulties

John has been attentive and understanding throughout my counseling experience and has offered thoughtful insight, suggestions and expertise. His responses show me how well he listens to what I say and he often prompts me with questions or worksheets to help me work through my problems. I would highly recommend John and appreciate his support.

Written by O.M. on Apr 12, 2019 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, coping with life changes, and adhd

Great counselor, truly gifted and connects with the people who come to him, i.e. myself.

Written by I.V. on Mar 30, 2019 after counseling with John for 6 days on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem

John is really an amazing person. He helped me a lot already in just a few days. He gave me good advises and opinions in order for me to look at my problems from a different angle. I was able to open up to him quite easily, which for me is a struggle. He never judged me or made me feel uncomfortable at any point of our conversations. Thank you John.

Written by R.O. on Mar 21, 2019 after counseling with John for 5 days on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, self esteem, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, and coaching

Totally understanding, calm, and guides you through meditation which is highly helpful. He is an attentive listener and knows how to handle your problems while giving you the advise you would want to hear. He is generous in his advice and helpful tips!!Totally worth it. I highly recommend Jhon Arens!!!

Written by L.A. on Dec 31, 2018 after counseling with John for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes

I would have to say John Arens is great at what he does. He truly takes the time to not only understanding what's going on but also to help you figure out the next steps. He always responds within a timely manner. As well as gives great exercises to help understand what your going through and things that can be done to change toward a better you. I would highly recommend him to anyone who is in need of guidance. I have to say this has been truly a positive experience and I look forward to becoming the person I know I can be with his guidance.