How Taking Anger Management Classes Can Help You Take Control Of Your Life
Updated June 12, 2019
Reviewer Sonya Bruner
Do you notice that you have difficulty with anger? Maybe you're quick to get angry at even the slightest thing. Maybe you are slow to anger, but when you do get mad, it becomes a battlefield. Maybe you just struggle to have meaningful disagreements with your family members. If any of these things sound like you, then taking anger management classes may be the best thing for you and your family. It may allow you to achieve better harmony between yourself and the people that you love, which will improve your quality of life.
What Is Anger Management?
First of all, let's look at anger management itself. Many of us picture scenes from old movies where someone gets angry and turns red, with steam coming out of their ears, right before they start beating on something with a hammer. But that's not really what anger management entails. Yes, some people who seek out anger management have a very serious problem, and they may react strongly and even aggressively when they are angry. Others may experience lesser emotions (but we'll talk about the different types of anger in a minute).
Anger management is a type of program or class where you learn more about your anger. You'll learn how to handle that anger all the way from beginning to end, as well. That means you learn how to recognize what things cause you to feel angry. You'll learn about how to recognize the signs that you're getting angry. You'll even learn what to do to calm yourself down, which is going to be different for each person. For some, listening to music may be an excellent way to calm down. For others, it may be reading a book or taking a walk. The important thing is finding what works for you. Finally, you'll learn how to make productive decisions about the situation and how to interact with your family, friends and everyone else in your life in a more positive way.
Do I Have An Anger Problem?
Answer a question about whether or not you have an actual problem is difficult, but the simplest way to do it is to look at how your anger affects your life. Is your anger getting in the way of you having the happy, healthy life and relationships that you want to have? If the answer is yes then you have a 'problem,' but it can be treated. You don't need to spend the rest of your life feeling this way. Anger becomes a problem also when it hurts the people around you in some way or when it causes you to act out violently.
It's important to note that anger is a perfectly normal emotion. When you feel that someone has treated you badly, it's completely normal to be angry. It's completely normal to be angry when something doesn't go the way you want it to or the way you think it should. When anger becomes a problem, however, and a treatable medical condition, is when it starts to interfere with your life and the lives of those around you. That's when you want to look into the anger management programs and classes around you.
Symptoms And Signs Of Anger Problems
Do you have problems with anger? If any of the following questions seem to resonate with you it may be time to seek out a professional to get help:
- Do you punch objects to make yourself feel better?
- Do you react violently or quickly to even minor problems?
- Do you have difficulty calming yourself when you start to feel angry?
- Do you tend to break items when you are arguing with someone?
- Do you seem to have the same argument with people again and again?
- Do you get frustrated with the way you are acting when you are arguing?
- Do you regret what happened immediately after an argument?
- Do you accuse your loved ones of disrespecting you when they aren't?
Any of these could be a sign that you're experiencing anger problems yourself. Emotions, including:
- Lack of sleep
- Social isolation
Can all occur as a result of anger management problems as well and they should be looked at by a professional if you're thinking about getting help. Your doctor or mental health professional will be able to help you better understand yourself and your situation.
Possible Calm Down, Cool Down Ideas
As we already mentioned, calming down when you feel angry is a very personal thing. It's going to require you to do a little work to find something that helps and may even require a little trial and error. The best thing is to think about what makes you feel the most calm and try that when you start to get angry. If that doesn't work, keep trying until something sticks. A mental health professional will be able to help you consider different options and think of brand new things to try.
- Read a book
- Take a long walk
- Meditate or practice deep breathing exercises
- Count to 10
Why Do I Have Anger Problems?
Some things could cause anger problems. For many, there is a cause rooted in their childhood. These are individuals who have extremely low self-esteem, which is generally caused when they do not trust the people around them, or they have experienced abuse. As a result, they may act out angrily to keep people at a distance, to keep themselves from getting hurt again or for any other reason. Even if they don't fully understand it, being angry has become a defense mechanism and a way that their body protects them.
Underlying mental health issues can also cause anger problems. These could be things like depression and anxiety, even if the individual doesn't realize they have these problems. If anger seems to come out of nowhere or the individual never seemed to have anger problems before but now does it may be important to check out mental health disorders as a cause. Another area to rule out if anger problems seem to start randomly are brain injuries. An injury to specific areas of the brain can cause a change in personality as well, and this type of anger problem needs to be treated differently.
Where To Get Mental Health Treatment
If you're looking for mental health help, it's important to look at all of your options. You've probably considered the traditional form of treatment from a therapist or psychiatrist in your area, but have you thought about getting online to get the help you need? It's just as easy (or even easier) for you to get online and find a professional that can set you on the right path and help you get all the same therapy you would get any other way. All you have to do is know where to look because online therapy is becoming the latest and greatest invention.
Anger management and anger therapy can be embarrassing for a lot of people. You don't want everyone to know what's going on and how it's affecting your family, but walking into a therapists office lets them know something is happening. By attending your therapy online, you never have to worry about those people seeing into your business again. Instead, you can just log on from your computer anywhere with an internet connection. That means you can sit in your favorite chair, relax on the couch or hang out at the hotel while you're on a business trip. No matter what, you can log in and have your session.
BetterHelp is one of the top places that you can get the help you're looking for and that you'll be able to reach out to a mental health professional. The service is entirely online and can connect you with therapists located throughout the country. That way you know you're getting someone high quality and that you're going to have plenty of options. No more being limited by physical proximity. Your options for a therapist are practically limitless. With BetterHelp you also get access to articles and information about different mental health problems and everything you would expect from a traditional, in-person, therapy session.
Keep in mind that getting help is always your best option. If you are struggling with anger problems, it's highly unlikely that you will be able to resolve them on your own. Getting a mental health professional to put you on the right track is going to make the experience a lot easier for you and may even help you get there faster. Remember, however, this is a marathon rather than a sprint. You'll have to put in some hard work to get where you want to go, and you'll have to be willing and able to push yourself even when it seems hard. There are friends and family who want you to get better though, and they're rooting for you along the way.