When You Need Some Questions To Ask Someone You Just Met
Updated September 21, 2018
It is common to have some fears when meeting new people. In fact, almost everyone has felt a little bit apprehensive when talking to someone for the first time. However, if you are extremely afraid of talking to people, you may have social anxiety disorder. This does not include just feeling nervous or shy sometimes when around strangers. Social anxiety disorder is a serious fear of everyday social situations such as just going to school or work. It may be causing you to miss school or work so much that it affects your grades or risks your job.
Signs of Social Anxiety Disorder
This kind of anxiety is so common that approximately 15 million adults in the United States have the disorder and many have been affected negatively for more than 10 years. Some of the most common signs of social anxiety disorder are:
- Going out of your way to avoid talking to people
- Rapid heart rate when anticipating or in social environments
- Feeling sick or nauseous
- Self-consciousness when talking to people
- Feeling like others are laughing at you or making fun of you
- Afraid of being judged
- Not making eye contact
- Avoiding speaking in front of others, playing sports, eating in front of others, making presentations, and speaking to adults
Meeting New People
If you are interested in learning how to talk to new people, there are ways to do that without making yourself feel embarrassed or silly. It can be a bit tricky to ask someone questions that are not too invasive or personal, especially if you are someone who has social anxiety disorder. Believe it or not, talking to people will get easier with practice. It is good to open up about yourself a little bit, too. You cannot just ask someone questions without answering some questions of your own so do not ask anything that you are not willing to answer yourself. Here are some suggestions for "ice breaker" questions:
- If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?
- What is your earliest memory?
- What was your most embarrassing moment?
- Would you rather have 10 million dollars or world peace?
- Have you ever been arrested?
- Would you rather be able to fly or be invisible?
- If you had to change your name, what would it be?
- What do you like best about yourself?
- Math or reading?
- Walking or running?
- Staying in or going out?
- Describe yourself in five words.
- What are three things that make you really happy? Why?
Now that you have prepared yourself, be sure you know what your answer to these questions would be. That is a good self-assessment exercise. Your own answers to some of these questions might actually surprise you. Once you are ready, practice asking questions at home with your family or close friends. You can find out a lot about them and by the time you have done this several times, you will be much more comfortable doing it.
If you worry excessively about talking to people or you have more than two of the symptoms of social anxiety disorder, you should talk to a professional about your feelings. There are many websites with professional consultants that can help you such as BetterHelp.com. Betterhelp has over 2,000 licensed counselors and therapists online. It is very easy to get started on the website, and via Betterhelp.com, you will hear from a counselor within 24 hours.