Is there someone in your life that you’re attracted to, but you’re not sure if they feel the same? Are you looking for signs – but not sure if you’re reading them right? It might be frustrating for you to not know quite where you stand. However, there might be body language cues that your person of interest is exhibiting that can help you to learn more about their possible intentions.
In fact, many find that learning how to read body language and understanding subtle signs and cues might tell you more than you think. Read on to learn more about male body language and possible interest cues.
Signs That May Indicate They Like You
If you meet someone via a dating app, or a friend set the two of you up, then there is generally an understanding from the beginning that there might be mutual interest between you both. In this context, there may not be any confusion around intentions for most.
However, if you know someone in a different capacity and you’re not entirely sure what their intentions are toward you, communication in general can feel a little bit complicated.
Maybe you met them at work, so you knew them professionally before there was any possibility of romance between you. Or, perhaps you knew them from childhood and the two of you were platonic friends before you began to look at them differently.
There are lots of other scenarios where you can’t be quite sure if a person could ever think of you as more than a colleague or a friend.
Here are a few signs you can look for as you begin your evaluation process:
They Angle Their Body Towards You
Body language might not always be on someone’s mind. If your person of interest feels casual about your relationship with them, they may not always sit as though they are fully engaged with you.
You might think about it this way: If you’re fully invested in a TV you’re watching, you might square yourself up in such a way that the screen is centered in your field of vision. It can be a subconscious thing that people tend to do that allows someone to zero in on the object that has fully captured their attention. If you have your TV on for background noise, by contrast, then you might not be looking directly at it.
This can be similar to interactions that might occur between you and the person you might like. If they feel casual about you, then they might not have their focus locked in on you consistently. If they are romantically interested, however, they may be angling their face, chest and shoulders so that you are directly in front of them and they are paying attention to you.
This alone might signal to you that nothing else around the two of you seems to be as important to them as you are in that moment and context.
They Lean Into You
If someone is interested in what you have to say and has an attraction towards you, they may lean in to you slightly. People generally lean in toward things that they like, and they might lean away from things that repel them.
It may not be something that’s going to be obvious in most cases—but you can still watch for it. They might even ask you to repeat yourself sometimes as an excuse to move closer to you and move into your personal space.
They Smile A Lot
If someone often smiles when they are in your presence, that alone might be a potential indicator that they like being around you. However, the kind of smile also might matter.
If a person smiles at you often with a broad, ear-to-ear grin, they may be making it known that they’re into you. They might like the way you make them feel and what you have to say.
They Tell You With Their Eyes
Along with smiling, you might also take note of their eye movements. When they see you, their eyebrows might rise on instinct to signal their joy to see you, possibly coming along with a smile.
If the person you’re interested in cannot take their eyes away from you but doesn’t look at other people like that, then that’s another way for you to know that you may have their full attention and interest.
They Mirror Your Movements
If someone is attracted to you, another body language cue that can occur is imitation of your movements. Again, this might be subtle.
For example: If the two of you are sitting in a booth at a restaurant and you touch your face, tilt back slightly, or laugh, you might choose to look to see if they do something similar—though they will probably not be aware of it.
They Groom Themselves When You Come Closer
If you’re across the room from the person that you like and you start moving in their direction, you can try to notice if they smooth their hair back, straighten their shirt or do anything else to adjust their appearance.
As humans, we generally try to look our best around someone we like. Self-grooming can be a good sign that they are trying to impress you and want to look their best around you.
They Initiate Physical Contact
Not all physical contact is romantic—but some can be. You might ask yourself: Are they initiating physical contact they haven’t before, such as sitting closer than normal? This sudden physical contact can be a sign that they are into you as well.
Are You Afraid Of Rejection?
Talking about how you feel to a person you like can make you feel nervous—and that can be normal. The fear of rejection – even if you anticipate rejection without actually being rejected – can cause feelings of jealousy, loneliness, shame, sadness, embarrassment and nervousness. However, this doesn’t have to stop you from taking a chance.
How Can Online Therapy Help Those Experiencing Social Nervousness?
Seeking help when you’re experiencing social nervousness or relationship-related uncertainty can feel overwhelming. However, it can be a helpful first step for many in defining what they need and want out of a fulfilling relationship—romantic or otherwise.
Many might find that online therapy provides a more approachable therapeutic experience that can lower barriers to treatment. This can be due to a number of reasons, such as the physical distance between themselves and the therapist, the empowering methods of connecting and the flexibility that virtual therapy can provide.
Users can connect online through phone, chat or video call with licensed therapists multiple times a week when they need support.
Is Online Therapy Effective?
A meta-analysis of studies found data that suggests that cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) is considered by many to be the “gold standard” in helping patients address both anxiety disorders and depression.
CBT can help patients by identifying the possible root(s) of their anxiety disorder or depression, as well as false or negative thoughts and beliefs—then teaching them how to reframe those thoughts in a more positive and accurate manner.
Other studies have found that CBT is generally effective in helping patients maintain lower anxiety levels a year later.
With the growth of online therapy, such as through BetterHelp, many find that it’s easier than ever to connect with a professional counselor.
Online therapy has been clinically suggested to be just as effective as in-person therapy in many situations involving anxiety. For example, in one study of patients living with social anxiety, for example, participants were treated through the use of videoconferencing and found improvements in their quality of life. Improvements were also found in those experiencing depression.
The study pointed to the effectiveness of successfully delivering cognitive-behavior therapy through videoconferencing, concluding that it can be equal to or better than face-to-face therapy for many.
Commonly Asked Questions On This Topic Found Below:
How do you tell if a man is attracted to you but hiding it?
One way to know if a man is attracted to you but hiding it is by paying attention to open body language signs that he likes you. For example, if he likes you but doesn’t want you to know it, he might:
- Lock eyes with you or hold eye contact for longer than other guys and he may follow you with his eyes across the room. He might also raise his eyebrows when you’re talking, which is a body language sin that he’s paying attention while you speak. Some people say that if his eyes dart quickly between your eyes and your mouth and lips, he’s probably interested in you.
- Visual voyaging. Building upon the previous sign, this is when he does a quick scan of your whole face, hair, and body thinking you won’t notice. If he’s really into you, you probably won’t see him looking at other women this way.
- Pupil dilation. This might be hard to see, but science shows that our pupil size increases when we’re looking at someone we’re attracted to. So, if you happen to be sitting very closely together making eye contact and you pay close attention, watch if his pupils get bigger. This can be a good sign that he’s interested.
- Leg positioning. Pay close attention to his legs: if they are crossed and you notice his top leg lightly touch yours while you’re sitting next to each other or casually talking, this can be a typical male body language sign of attraction during social interactions.
- Fixing his hair. If you notice that he’ll fix or touch his hair every time that you walk in but won’t do it when he sees another woman, this is a sign that he’s secretly attracted to you.
- He’ll lick his lips when you’re talking. This is a typical body language sign stereotype from TV and movies, but it does hold up scientifically. When you’re attracted to someone your mouth produces extra saliva, which makes you more likely to lick your lips. So, if you catch him licking his lips, even if he’s not trying to act flirty, this is his body’s way of showing you that he likes you.
How to tell if a guy likes you or your body?
It can be hard to tell if a guy likes you for more than just your body, especially when you’re getting to know each other. Luckily, while everyone is different, there are some tell-tale signs that many guys will show when they’re really attracted to someone:
- He tells you directly that he’s interested in a future with you
- He asks if he can meet your friends and family and wants you to meet his
- He always has time for you
- He’ll list everything he likes everything about you beyond your body
- He looks nervous around you, for example, he touches the visible dip area between his neck and collarbone when you’re around
- He’s a gentleman
- He’s not seeing other women
- He says ‘I love you’
How do you know if someone secretly loves you?
Certain body language, like licking his lips, moving his legs closer to you, asking about other men in your life, and raising his eyebrows while you talk, can clue you in about someone secretly liking you. Another way of knowing is asking them directly, or, if you like them too, telling them that you’re attracted to them and watch his reaction.
What are signs of attraction?
There are two types of signs of attraction: physical or body language signs and behavioral signs.
Body language signs that he’s interested in you can include:
- Lightly grazing your skin as you talk with each other
- He’ll stand next or close to you whenever possible
- Angling his body towards you
- Keeps continuous eye contact
- He smiles when he sees you
Behavioral signs that he’s attracted to you might include:
- He shows no interest in other women and doesn’t hide that you are the only woman in his life romantically
- He is interested in the things that you like
- He asks a lot of questions about you and your life
- He moves physical and emotional barriers to have more space to be with you
What are the physical signs of love?
Body language signs can look different in a man and a woman. When women are in love, they may start feeling more comfortable being vulnerable and opening up about their insecurities and emotions. This is also true for men, who are more likely to show their true selves to someone they are attracted to and tend to be the first to say ‘I love you’ in relationships. Other signs of being in love or deeply attracted to someone for both men and women include:
- Feeling extremely happy or euphoric when you’re with them or thinking about them
- Prioritize being together
- Making sacrifices to be with each other
- Accepting the for who they are
- Not being afraid to put in the work
- Thinking about the future together
Can you sense if someone is thinking of you?
Not really. While some people say that it is possible to tell if someone’s thinking of you if you tune in with your emotions very deeply, there’s no scientific evidence that his is true.
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