The articles in this section will help you learn about how bullying affects seriously affects people, gain a better understanding of the victim’s perspective as well as the bully’s, and learn positive coping strategies to fight back against a bully. This section will help you to become more confident in how to handle a bully and what to do to support someone who is being bullied.
People associate bullying as an issue that affects children, but in reality, people of all ages can be bullied. Bullying is when someone takes advantage of another person and makes them feel belittled, afraid, or humiliated. Bullies often have low self-esteem themselves and are taking their pain out on others. If you are a victim of bullying, you might start to feeling depressed, and find it difficult to advocate for yourself enough to get out of the situation. You might not fully understand that you didn’t do anything wrong. You didn’t bring bullying on yourself.
Bullies are intuitive. They have a sense as to who they can manipulate and torture for their own gain. They intentionally seek out those who have something unique or special about them. For example, they might target a boy who wears different-colored glasses or a girl who reads books about science instead of playing with Barbies like her peers. They seek out people with differences so that they can make fun of those attributes. Bullies don’t need to be people who are physically strong or abusive, but they can be. Either way, they are almost always insecure and want to dominate others to gain control over something. Sometimes, they have a bad home life or other life circumstances that make them feel out of control or angry. Since they can’t control some aspect of their own lives and they don’t have a healthy way to express their emotions, they find someone to victimize to take it out on instead.
When we hear about bullying, it often pertains to kids or the school system. However, bullying can happen to anyone. It can take place at work, in friendships, or romantic relationships as well. Bullying can happen anywhere, but it almost always occurs when there is someone who wants to take their pain or their perceived deficits out on others. Bullies frequently use intimidation tactics to get what they want. Victims of bullying are never to blame. No one deserves to be bullied. It is up to the person that is being bullied to realize that they are not the problem and that they do not deserve this unfair treatment. Bullies are adept at what they do and are highly manipulative. It’s because of this that it can be hard for a victim of bullying to realize that the poor treatment that they are experiencing is not their fault.
Asking for Help
Bullies try to make their victims feel helpless. Victims of bullying might keep it to themselves. Sometimes, this is because they feel that there is no one to go to that they can talk to about the abuse. And that’s the thing, bullying is abuse. The victims might believe they’re a burden and that they’re bothering someone if they reached out for help. They may truly believe that they can’t escape the bullying, but that’s where they’re wrong. Bullies try hard to make their victims believe that no one cares about them. It takes courage and faith to reach out and know that there is someone who does care.
Bullying is Real
People do care, but it takes a leap of faith for a person who is being bullied to find help. When children reach out for help in escaping bullies, it’s critical that adults believe them. Too often, grownups don’t listen, and children continue to endure abuse from a bully It can be tough to navigate bullying issues in the school system because, unfortunately, there are many instances where adults fail to protect students. When a child is being bullied, adults don’t always understand why it is so hard for them to speak up and might ask why they didn’t speak up sooner. Acknowledge that bullies often push people into hiding, so coming forward is an act of courage no matter when a victim does it. Victim blaming is blaming is a significant issue in our society. Once someone does speak up, no matter when that occurs, let them know that they are brave for doing so and take them seriously.
Someone that has been bullied can benefit from talking to an online therapist or counselor. BetterHelp has an extensive network of mental health professionals that can help you understand that you are not alone and that you do not deserve to be abused. Bullies abuse others because of their issues, and it is crucial to speak up for yourself. Therapy is a safe place to speak up and reach out. A mental health professional can help you develop a plan to stick up for yourself and get out of the situation where you are being bullied. They are equipped to assist you in working through your experiences and build coping skills. Once you acknowledge that someone is mistreating you, you do not have to tolerate that abuse anymore. Browse BetterHelps database and find a counselor who can help you learn to advocate for yourself. Online counseling can help you learn tools to stick up for yourself. You can explore how to confront being bullied, and start healing.