What Are The Benefits Of Joining A Pregnancy Chat Room?

By: Julia Thomas

Updated May 07, 2021

Medically Reviewed By: Lauren Fawley

Pregnancy always presents physical and emotional challenges. If your pregnancy is high-risk or unplanned, the feelings you are experiencing can be even more complicated. Whatever your situation, one option for dealing with your pregnancy—along with the worries and stressors that come with it—is to join in a pregnancy chat room.

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Talk to Someone Who Understands

No one understands pregnancy as well as other pregnant mothers.Women who are pregnant or have been in the past can give you a unique perspective on the issues you may be facing. They can also form an excellent group with which you can share your joy. There are so many mixed emotions that go along with pregnancy: from excitement, overwhelming feelings of love, and anticipation; to the discomfort, frustration, worries, and pains. There are many preparations to be made and new circumstances to be worked out. Sometimes, the process can seem overwhelming. It can feel so nice to describe your experiences and get validation in a group that truly understands. Sometimes, a major life change, like becoming a mother for the first time, can create some distance between you and friends.Those closest to you might not be in the same phase of life, and it can be hard to find someone with whom you can share the experiences of pregnancy. It could be that you don't currently know anyone personally who is pregnant, and you would like to talk more about your experiences.

Find Support for Your Specific Pregnancy Issues

While you will find a lot of variation in the types of experiences other women in the chat room are having, it is likely you will also find some who are going through similar struggles as you. There will likely be some commonalities you will be able to find with someone. You may also find it helpful to provide support to someone who is now in a stage that you have moved out of.

Regardless of your relationship status, medical issues, or life situation, you will likely find someone with a similar pregnancy issue. They can provide support to you by validating your feelings and by providing encouragement and commiseration. It is a nice feeling to be able to get connected with the special community of women who are carrying a child. This can be even more important for women who are told they have to limit activity on their feet or who may not be even allowed to leave the house for a prolonged period of time. Being on bedrest can be a lonely and anxiety-provoking experience. Many find it abnormal to not be doing the normal activities of busy-life and routine. Few respond positively when they are left with too much time to worry. A chatroom can be a welcome distraction and an opportunity to focus on others for a time too.

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Learn from Others in the Chat Room

What often happens in a pregnancy chat room is that women share different ways of handling just about anything related to pregnancy. In these virtual spaces, many also discuss thepostpartumperiod as well. Women who are expecting their second or third child may also be in the chat and can serve as extremely valuable sources of information. Some groups are professionally associated and have a moderator who may introduce a specific topic for the day's group. Some topics that you might expect to cover in a pregnancy support group are: signs and symptoms of pregnancy and how to cope with them, what to expect from your body and your medical care during each trimester, signs of early labor or labor starting, what to expect from labor and delivery, planning the type of birth that you want to have, and expectations for the postpartum period (after delivery). Even taking care of a newborn and breastfeeding support can be included in these discussions.

Talk about YourFears

It is normal to feel some fear related to the painful experience of giving birth, along with the countless other unknowns that may crop up at the back of your mind. When it comes to giving birth, for example, many mothers wonder: "Will my baby be healthy? What if I have complications during labor?Will I know how to take care of my baby? And what will my body be like after I give birth?" A forum provides an opportunity to be able to express these fears and face them in a supportive environment. You will probably feel surprised at the number of women who can relate to how you are feeling. With the support of others, you will get a greater sense that you were meant for this role. You are stronger than you realize.

Remain Anonymous

You should never have to divulge your identity in a chat room. You should go by a username that you can make as generic as you like. This gives you the freedom to say things you may be too concerned to say to someone you know. You can openly discuss your fears, doubts, and frustrations without worry that someone you love will take offense or feel like they need to solve your problem for you. In this way, it can help you to be more in charge of processing your feelings. Read more about it here: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/chat/pros-and-cons-of-an-anonymous-chat-room/.

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Pregnancy Loss

Sometimes pregnancies result in a loss of pregnancy.Losing a pregnancy is an extremely difficult thing to go through, no matter what the circumstances. About one in four women experience a miscarriage.Yet, due to the way that we have historically treated miscarriage, some women still do not talk about the impact this experience. It is very important to grieve the loss of your pregnancy, whether it was a planned loss or an unplanned one. But a pregnancy support group is not the place to do this. Participating in conversations about pregnancy is likely to be painful for some time. Don’t worry: there are separate support groups available for women experiencing a loss of pregnancy.

When a Pregnancy Chat Room Isn't Enough

Chat rooms offer support for your issues, educational information, suggestions for resources, shared experiences, and companionship in times of loneliness. However, sometimes pregnant women experience mental health issues or other more serious situations related to pregnancy that would be best helped by a mental health professional. Sometimes the changes in a woman's body during pregnancy can result in depression or other mental illness that the mother has never experienced before. An online therapist, such as the ones available through BetterHelp, can help you deal with the problems that still feel too difficult to tackle on your own or in a support group setting. They can guide you as you find your own solutions to your unique pregnancy problems. And, if you like the chat room, you can always keep going back there, regardless of whether or not you spend time with a therapist regularly. There is no such thing as having too much support as you are going through this special, unique, and challenging period of your life.

A growing body of mental health experts are encouraging pregnant women to seek counseling—even if they are not yet experiencing mental illness. The reason? While there is significant attention paid to a pregnant mother’s physical health throughout their three trimesters, next to no medical expertise is lent to mental well-being. Studies have found that roughly one in seven women develop postpartum depression, for example. Of these cases, roughly 25% experience symptoms before giving birth. Mental illnesses like depression do not pop up out of nowhere. They often build over time and show warning signs well before they become a major issue. If you are concerned that you may be feeling the early signs of depression or other mental illnesses related to pregnancy, you should consider pursuing online therapy. Remote counseling has been shown to deliver—no pun intended—the same results as in-person treatment. Results aside, there are numerous factors that make online therapy more appealing to pregnant women.

With remote counseling from platforms like BetterHelp, you can consult with a licensed mental health practitioner from the comfort of your own home. If you have been advised to limit the time on your feet during pregnancy, this is the perfect option. A BetterHelp therapist will give you actionable advice on how to mitigate any symptoms that you might be facing. Many counselors, furthermore, specialize specifically in treating pregnant women. Read below about what others have to say about their experience with BetterHelp below.

“Ashleigh is a wonderful listener, is a great and thoughtful provider of resources, and I would recommend her to anyone. She has helped me work through childhood trauma, issues at work, and postpartum anxiety and depression. I wouldn’t have made it through so many obstacles without her help.”

“We have just completed our last session together and I was honestly happy but sad at the same time. Joy has not only been a great impact on my first year of motherhood, but has been an efficient, kind, and down to earth counsellor. I couldn’t have asked for a better counsellor during these past 2 months. I genuinely looked forward to our sessions together that we had weekly because she honestly felt like a friend. We were able to joke with each other when necessary as well as share common interests. She responded in such a timely manner and was there when I needed her the most. She did her best to accommodate me and my schedule to ensure that I got an appointment time that was best for me. She offered multiple resources for me, including articles, worksheets, and videos. Her efforts to help me overcome my anxieties and fears, as well as issues dealing with family members with addiction has been the help I've been longing for. Thank you, Joy.”

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