Why Intellectualization Is Not Always Healthy
By: Alisen Boada
Updated July 12, 2021
Medically Reviewed By: Dr. Angel Faith
Do emotions seem like obstacles when you are under pressure? Do you shut them out in favor of being rational and intellectual? You may be using intellectualization to help deal with the stress of a situation. Intellectualization can be great for getting through immediate trouble or giving yourself time to process certain events. However, if you find that you never step out of intellectualization, you may be unknowingly trying to avoid dealing with your emotions even during day-to-day conflicts. Unresolved emotional pain can turn into ongoing mental health issues like anxiety and depression but learning to face uncomfortable feelings gives us the chance to move on healthily.
But awareness of our emotions doesn't make us weak or any less rational or intellectual. In fact, learning how to hold difficult feelings actually improves our ability to work through them. It may seem counterintuitive at first, but studies show that accepting our emotions can help us recover from negative experiences more quickly and become more intellectual about similar situations. We might not purposefully set out to avoid our emotions, but exploring why you may use intellectualization and noticing when it happens are powerful steps in learning to process emotions more skillfully.
Intellectualization and rational problem-solving alone is not a defense mechanism, but when we constantly use it to get out of dealing with painful emotions, we can deny ourselves the chance to heal from them. There are many ways we might intellectualize away our feelings. It can look like endlessly researching the details of a major illness to avoid the anxiety and sadness of the experience. Or you might list the benefits of being single again instead of facing the pain of rejection after a breakup. It can also be busying yourself with funeral arrangements to the point where you have no time to grieve.
Unlike other defense mechanisms, intellectualization can make it seem are though we are dealing with the reality of a situation. For example, using intellectualization is sometimes confused with a defense mechanism called rationalization. Both attempt to use logic to work around our emotions, but while rationalizing bends facts to justify our desires, behaviors, or emotions, using intellectualization involves looking at facts objectively to distance ourselves from emotions.
In this way, using intellectualization appears to be based on the truth, just not all of it. Logic has a necessary role in dealing with life, but our emotional experience is also essential as we navigate the world. Like physical pain, emotional distress alerts us to something within ourselves that needs our attention. Emotions can't be qualified as good or bad, nor can they be defined as something you're permitted to experience or not. They are simply your response to living through something. It's how we choose to handle an emotion that determines how it will affect our lives.
What Can I Do Instead?
Intellectualization can be a useful defense mechanism for keeping yourself together when action is needed in tough moments. If, however, you find that you can't stop it, it's worth exploring other ways to manage your emotions without completely shutting them down. Being fully mindful of our experiences, learning to identify our emotions, and finding support from the people in our lives can help us change our go-to patterns.
Emotional Clarity. When you're used to using intellectualization, there seems to be little difference between how we think about a feeling versus how we experience one. Telling yourself, "I'm just tired" or to be "intellectual" as a stand-in for sadness or frustration muddies your ability to know what you're actually feeling. Being able to clearly communicate an emotion, even if it's only to yourself, can help show you how to relieve it. Different emotions call for different responses. Working out which emotions are truly behind catch-all labels like "stress" (for example, anxiety or grief) improves our ability to handle them.
Healthy Emotional Regulation
BetterHelp Can Support You
The counselors on BetterHelp can give you tools and guidance for exploring new ways of handling emotions without using intellectualization. Defense mechanisms such as intellectualization are often rooted in very painful experiences. It can take time, patience, and practice to change the lifelong emotional habits such as intellectualizing that we've used to survive bad situations. Having a remote, affordable expert to support you in the comfort of your home and at a time that best suits you allows you to move at your own pace. A counselor will help you to learn new coping strategies to overcome intellectualization and work through difficulties that may arise along the way. Read the reviews below to learn how BetterHelp counselors have helped people in similar situations.
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Rational problem-solving, intellectualizing, and emotional awareness are all equally valuable for a healthy life. Using intellectualization can give you the time and space you may need to keep going during a painful situation, so you can process your feelings afterward. However, too much intellectualization can also be an unhelpful defense mechanism when overutilized. Learning to tend to our emotions skillfully builds our overall resilience and supports long-term mental wellness. Take the first step to overcoming intellectualization today.
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