Human Variation: We All Deal With Things Differently
For some, their perceived inability to love, or at least their pattern of maladaptive behavior in relationships, can stem from the relationships that they experienced early in life with parents and others. Early relationships are very important in our psychosocial development, and can leave lasting imprints on the ways in which we interact with the world as adults.
There are many ways that we can show others that we care for them. Across the globe, humans come together in random ways, coexisting to survive, creating families and communities in the meantime.
Perception is different for everyone, involving all the ways in which we become aware of people, things, events or ideas. Judgement is the factor involving how we come to conclusions about the sensory data that we've perceived. It reasonably follows that people vary on both of these measures, differing in their interests, motivations, values and skills.
Human beings have certain categories of things that they need to be fulfilled, such as needs for safety and development. We are forever torn between the struggle to survive and chasing fulfillment and meaning. Caught between needs for safety and growth, it can be too easy to get stuck in a mindset where we fail to pursue our dreams or well-being out of fear of failure or of the unknown.
We all deal with things differently than the next person, with variance found in many different small personality characteristics that have been generalized as comprising types. There is no best personality type. Understanding the various elements and potential types of personality can provide insight about yourself and others.
By working to understand and to appreciate differences between how you and others deal with things, you may find a powerful catalyst for personal development. Putting words to things like this may seem like a simple act, but it is one with resounding consequences.
Wrapping Your Head Around it
There comes a time where we can't solve our own problems without the help of an outside perspective. While for many, this can come in the form of a trusted friend, family member or teacher, it can sometimes be most apposite to consult a trained expert. BetterHelp is a resource aimed at connecting appropriate mental health professionals to those in need of restructuring their life. We are a world community, all with different strengths and weaknesses, capable of picking up the slack in the different areas where others lack. Those uniquely gifted with insight and trained in methodology to address these problems that we all face are a resource worth tapping into.