Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What Does It Mean When Someone Says They Are Broken?
We all may feel broken at some point in our lives. When someone feels broken, they are likely feeling emotionally overwhelmed and like they are out of gas to keep moving forward. In many cases, when someone feels broken, this is a sign of a bigger issue at hand.
What Does It Mean To Be Emotionally Damaged?
“Emotionally damaged” is a term that is often used to describe how someone feels after going through emotional hurt. After hurt and pain, a person may find it difficult to trust others, may feel on edge or easily angered, and may try to distance themselves from others in hopes of not being hurt again. However, this does not mean that these things indicate that you are emotionally “damaged.” Instead, if you notice these signs, it may be time to seek support.
How Do You Know If You Are Emotionally Damaged?
People respond to emotional hurt differently. What causes one person to feel emotionally overwhelmed or wounded may have minimal effect on someone else. If you find yourself keeping people at a distance, comparing new friendships or love interests to previous relationships, if you are easily angered or offended by someone you are close to, or if you compare yourself to others constantly, hurt from previous connections could be impacting your current life. It’s important to understand that past damaged relationships do not mean that you can’t have normal relationships. Reaching out for help and learning to best navigate the events that have caused you to feel emotionally hurt is the first step in overcoming the impact and building healthy, strong relationships.
Why Do I Cry So Easily?
Crying is a natural emotional response to feelings. Sadness or hurt feelings may cause you to cry. Some people cry when they are happy, hence the expression “tears of joy.” Hormonal imbalances and stress may also cause some people to cry more than usual. If you find that you cry easily and it has become a significant worry for you, it may be necessary to talk to someone who can help you try to determine what leads to this. It’s important to understand that crying is not always a bad thing, and in fact can be quite healthy. However, if you are worried about how often you cry, or if it seems disruptive, you may need to talk to a counselor or therapist to help you work through your concerns.
How Do I Heal Myself Mentally?
It is possible to heal emotionally. In and of itself, acknowledging that you feel hurt can be an important initial step. It may also be a good idea to make an appointment with your primary care provider to rule out any underlying medical conditions that may be causing feelings of mental strain. Also, seeking the help of a mental health professional, such as a counselor, may be helpful in learning ways to address feelings, behaviors, and symptoms moving forward. Depression, anxiety, or other mental illness can cause one to feel emotionally strained, as they can affect people’s lives in diverse ways. Although you can heal, it may be necessary to have the help of a professional as you navigate through the healing process. Remember to practice self-care, learn to say “no” to people and situations that don’t promote a healthy state of mind, and get plenty of sleep, in addition to other types of necessary self-care, as all of these contribute to emotional well-being.
Is It Possible To Have No Emotions At All?
Emotional detachment is an inability or unwillingness to connect with other people on an emotional level. While some people purposefully detach from people or situations that make them feel stressed or otherwise distressed, others may experience emotional detachment as a result of not learning how to develop healthy relationships or to prevent experiencing emotional trauma or pain. It isn’t always bad, but if you are always detached emotionally, a therapist or counselor can help.
How Can You Tell If Someone Is Emotionally Damaged?
Emotional scars - which typically refer to inner or emotional hurt - aren’t as easy to see as physical scars on the outside. Someone facing emotional challenges many times may exhibit symptoms of anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, or depression. Remember when you feel broken, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you are. Instead, feeling broken is a sign that you need to reach out for help and support to get through a challenging period in your life, and is an opportunity to grow and heal.
Can Two Broken Souls Heal Together?
When you’re feeling broken, it may not even dawn on you that your spouse, friend, or partner is feeling the same way. Two broken souls can heal with the proper support, intervention, therapy, and commitment to change, so long as you aren’t trying to change one another or rely on this one other person entirely for support. No one person can, or should, be relied on to fill our metaphorical cup. With that being said, it is possible to heal together. Remember, when you feel broken, this is usually a sign that you need outside intervention to resolve challenging issues. If a relationship feels broken and everyone involved is safe and dedicated, repair can be very possible.
Can You Love Someone Who Is Broken?
Just because someone seems to feel negative emotions more often than not doesn’t mean that they aren’t deserving of love or goodness. Have you ever felt broken? The thing you often crave the most is love, acceptance, and support as a reminder of your worth and value. It’s important to remember that feeling broken doesn’t mean that someone actually is broken. In some scenarios, you can only do what you can do, and it may be up to the other person to make actionable steps and ask for or accept help. Ultimately, no one can be helped or fully loved until they decide to help and love themselves.
How Many Heartbreaks Can A Person Take?
Surprisingly, most of us are more resilient than we think. There isn’t a certain “number” of heartbreaks a person can take. The most important part of overcoming heartbreaks is to allow yourself to feel (and process) the pain so that the hurt doesn’t become a part of you in unhealthy ways.
How Long Does A Broken Heart Last?
A broken heart can last for years or heal relatively quickly. This is all dependent on the person, time committed to the relationship and healing from said relationship, and the circumstances behind the heartbreak. People who take part in guided therapy with a licensed therapy provider will likely recover faster than those trying to heal on their own. Regardless of pace, support can help you get over the bumps.
Can Someone Who Feels Like “A Broken Person” Be Fixed?
A person who feels broken can heal with the proper support, guidance, and commitment. Popular psychotherapy methodologies like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CB)T teach people new ways of thinking and behaving that can make it easier to cope with the uncomfortable circumstances of life. For many people, identifying what “feeling broken” means is the first step; is there a behavior you aren’t sure how to modify? What about an emotion or an ongoing maladaptive thought? What does it mean to you? It can also help to think about what would be more ideal. Whether you have answers to these questions or not right now, seeing a mental health professional can help you form a new path and get to a healthier, more positive spot.
How Do You Love Yourself?
If you experience tribulation in loving yourself, may you understand that saying, “It’s easy to move on” is not accurate. However, it is possible to learn to love yourself and to overcome feelings of brokenness or lack of self-worth. Talk to a licensed therapy provider to learn how to recover from past hurts, childhood trauma, and other traumatic experiences that may play a role or could be holding you back in your mind. They can also help you discuss insecurities, societal issues, and so on, that may affect the way you feel about yourself. Therapy can help you feel more confident moving forward in your interactions with others, yourself, and other parts of life.
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