Turning Yourself Into A Person Who Gives Happiness

By Julia Thomas|Updated April 13, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Amy Brown, MSW, LCSW, RPT-S

Do you bring happiness to other people? Do you make them feel like they are worthwhile, important and valued? Or do you struggle with making people feel like they are less important than yourself or that they should be focused more on your happiness than their own? There are many different types of people out there in the world, and each of us wants to make the people around us happy. That's what helps us to have friends and family around us, but becoming a person who gives happiness can be difficult for some.

Why Don't You Give Happiness?

First, let's take a look at why you might not be giving happiness. If you're not happy yourself, it can be extremely difficult to make other people feel happy. If you don't feel valued or important, it is difficult to help others to feel that way. Of course, there are plenty of reasons that you may feel that way in your mind, and each of them can be helped by working with your friends and family and with a mental health professional.

Do you feel less valued in your own life? Do you feel that you are failing in some way or that others don't see you as worthwhile? Do you feel down and sad all the time or most of the time? Do you feel very sad coupled with suddenly feeling very happy and excited? If you feel these things, it can be hard to help others feel any other way, and before you know it, you could be bringing people down. But it's important to note that there is hope for you.

Getting help for yourself is crucial, and understanding that your mental health is important will be the first step. Bringing people down because you are suffering from something is an unfortunate side effect, but it's not your fault. Your depression, anxiety or other mental health concerns are not your faults either. Getting help, however, can help you to overcome those things and it can help you to feel better about yourself, which can help you to make others feel better about themselves as well. It's a process, but it's going to start with helping you to feel better.

A Person That Gives Happiness

Someone who gives happiness makes others feel great just by being around them. They made other people feel valued and loved and important. You may be around some of these people right now. Even though you may feel down or upset these people manage to make you feel even a little bit of something. There's just something about those specific people in your life that you want to spend more time with them than others. These are the people that you want to be like, even if you don't know how to do it.

If you're struggling with mental health concerns, it can be extremely difficult to be this type of person for others, but if you're not, you may find it a little easier to do. Taking an interest in other people's lives, talking to them about things that are important to them, remembering details and important experiences of theirs, can all help them to feel happier being around you. When you can make anything fun, whether it's sitting at the house and doing nothing or going on a trip, you become the type of person that everyone wants to hang out with and spend more time with because you help them to enjoy themselves.

Spending time with people that you enjoy means that you start to enjoy yourself more. It means that you likely start to pick up some of their traits and you start to become more friendly, more sociable, more outgoing. Keep in mind that it's not just the sociable and outgoing people that can be fun to be around and make you feel good about yourself. Sometimes these people are quieter and reserved, but you still have a great time when you're around them. It's going to be up to you to find out who those people are in your life and work on ways to emulate them.

Of course, it doesn't always come naturally to you to be that type of person. Maybe you feel like you have to be the 'voice of reason' when people are too excitable or too flighty. Maybe you feel like they just don't understand real life. The truth is, there are times that all of us need those flighty or excitable moments and as long as no one is going to get hurt that's not a problem. If these things don't come naturally to you, however, it means that you're going to need some extra help.

Getting The Help You Need

Finding out how to be a more positive and happy person can be difficult for some, but it's possible for you to do. The key is making sure you get the help that you need, and a mental health professional can do that for you. It doesn't mean that there is something mentally 'wrong' with you if you seek out professional help and in fact, mental illness does not mean there is something 'wrong' with you either. It means that you could use a little help getting back on your feet.

If you were poor and didn't have a job, you would turn to family and friends for help, right? It wouldn't mean there was something 'wrong' with you. The same is true if you have trouble creating a positive mental image for yourself or if you're suffering from depression, anxiety or any other host of mental illnesses. You turn to a professional, like those at BetterHelp, to help you get back on your feet. It may take some time, but it's going to make you feel better in the long run, and it's going to help you to help those around you as well, which is a bonus.

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