How to Make The 7 Rules Of Life Work For You

By Joy Youell|Updated April 14, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Aaron Horn, LMFT

Life is complicated, but you can make it a bit easier by following these simple tips. The 7 Rules of Life can remind you where to focus and invest your energy, so you can enjoy life more. Sometimes, it can be challenging to follow them, but it is always beneficial. Here are some tips for making the 7 rules of life work for you.

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The 7 Rules of Life

Consider these rules to find more contentment and satisfaction with yourself and in your relationships:

  1. Make peace with your past, so it won't disturb your present.
  2. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  3. Time heals almost everything. Give it time.
  4. No one is in charge of your happiness except for you.
  5. Don't compare your life to others, and don't judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  6. Stop thinking too much. It's all right if you don't know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it.
  7. You don't own all the problems in the world.

Tailor the Rules to Your Life

These simple pieces of advice can be applied to every circumstance in your life. Letting go of burdensome ideas and unnecessary responsibilities is the first step toward health and freedom. Overcoming offenses and being patient with yourself are vital forms of self-care. Here are some ways to apply these helpful rules to your daily life.

1: Make Peace with Your Past

The past can affect your present in unhelpful ways. An important aspect of mental health is continuously looking ahead to a bright future full of opportunities. The past is unchangeable. As you keep moving forward each day, you must intentionally move beyond the past. Here are some important components of that journey:

  • Forgive other people for offenses or past mistakes.
  • Forgive yourself for missteps.
  • Let painful memories fade by choosing different thoughts.
  • Accept what has happened in your life.
  • Make fresh commitments each day.

2: Move Past What Other People Think

This applies to rules #2, #4, and #5. You can never know another person's thoughts. Don't fall into the trap of always worrying how others will react. Instead, be true to yourself, so you can attract the kind of people who truly belong in your life. Do what makes you happy and the right people will stick around. Then, offer others the same courtesy.

3: Time and Healing

This advice is for rules #3 and #6. Often, you just need to let things sit. Life may seem difficult right now, but by following rule #1 and not dwelling on the past, you can move forward to find happiness. Acknowledge your suffering, but don't let it take over. When you don't know the right answer or the right thing to do, you can pay attention to what makes you feel better and what makes you feel worse.

4: Smile, or Don't

This may seem a bit contrary, but you don't have to force yourself to be happy all of the time. Absolutely allow yourself to feel your emotions as they are. Happiness is not about burying your feelings. It's about acknowledging them and giving them their appropriate place. Find a balance by not dwelling on problems. Instead, look at them objectively to take away their power and step toward happiness.

5: Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparison is the thief of joy. Measuring your worth or wellbeing against other people is a useless activity that ends in despair. Every day is an opportunity to celebrate who you are and what you have. Choosing contentment and focusing on the good in your life are powerful ways to overcome habits of comparison.

6: Control Your Thoughts

It's important that you feel empowered to dwell on the right ideas. Rehearsing negative interactions, revisiting the past in your mind, and repeating negative ideas are all unhelpful behaviors. Learning to change your thoughts is an important tool. Hone it, and practice whenever you're struggling with unhelpful thoughts.

7: Let Go of Unnecessary Responsibilities

There are things within your control and things outside your control. When people or circumstances are outside of your control, it is important to not hold them too tightly. Imbalanced responsibilities will make you unhappy. Accepting the right level of responsibility will help you function within your limits.

Make These Rules Work For You

When you can follow these rules, you will find your tension and worries melting away. If you're having trouble letting go or need to talk to someone, consider a professional therapist to help you figure out where you're getting stuck. BetterHelp's unique platform can provide counselors who are only a click away. This convenient process will match you with a highly-qualified mental health professional who can help you integrate these important rules into your life. Below are reviews of some BetterHelp counselors, from people experiences a variety of issues in life.

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Counselor Reviews

"Amy is caring, understanding, practical and wise. She listens without judgement and helps me to see other perspectives. I value how working with her has increased my self awareness and mindfulness as I continue my journey."

"Nicolas is very down to earth and relatable. Empathetic and understanding, but sets clear goals for self improvement. I love my sessions with him and when things are difficult I know I can go to hunch for clarity to get me through a situation and to help me cope."


These 7 Rules of Life can work for you. They can help you decrease stress and increase happiness. It's important that you value your wellbeing. You are important, and you deserve to be happy. Take the first step.

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