I Need Help Knowing How To Stop Being So Emotional

By Toni Hoy|Updated August 1, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Dr. Sonya Bruner, PsyD

Struggling To Regulate Your Emotions?

Everyone has emotions and having a strong emotional reaction is normal sometimes, such as when you lose someone you love or when you have a fight with your best friend. However, some people have trouble managing their emotions and may start crying at inopportune times, or getting very angry if someone looks at them the wrong way. Your emotions may seem out of control for a good reason. It may be something going on in your life or a physical problem.

Causes of Emotional Instability

Sometimes, emotional volatility may be due to a medical issue that needs to be taken care of and other times, it may be a mental health disorder that is the problem. It could just be something simple like a vitamin deficiency or a hormone imbalance or maybe you just have not been getting enough sleep. The following are some of the main reasons you may be having trouble managing your emotions. Or why you might feel like you have no emotions.


Of course, everyone has some amount of stress in their lives but having a great deal of stress or constant stress is a sure set-up for an emotional breakdown. For example, if you have a lot of stress every day at work and you have no way to deal with it, you may just break down and cry or start yelling at the next person who looks at you the "wrong way". You may not be able to get rid of that stress but you can learn how to deal with it. There are counselors online that you can talk to about your stress and help you find ways to deal with it.

Medical Conditions

Some types of medical conditions can cause you to become more emotional than usual. Some of these conditions include:

  • Vitamin deficiency
  • Parkinson's disease
  • Hormonal imbalance
  • Stroke
  • Heart disease
  • Cancer
  • Pseudobulbar affect (PBA)
  • Hypoglycemia
  • Multiple sclerosis (MS)


Depression is one of the most common mental disorders in the United States. In fact, more than 16 million Americans have had at least one depressive episode in the past year. Some of the symptoms of depression include:

  • Extreme fatigue
  • Unexplained sadness that lasts longer than two weeks
  • Memory loss
  • Inability to concentrate
  • Lack of interest in favorite activities
  • Chronic pain
  • Feeling hopeless or miserable
  • Moving or talking slower than usual
  • Eating more or less than usual
  • Weight loss or gain
  • Sleeping more or less than usual
  • Suicidal thoughts

Other Mental Disorders

There are other mental health conditions that can cause your emotions to feel unmanageable such as:

  • Anxiety disorder
  • Bipolar disorder
  • Histrionic personality disorder
  • Borderline personality disorder
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

What You Can Do About It

Struggling To Regulate Your Emotions?

If you believe you may be suffering from one of these conditions or just have no idea what is wrong, talk to your physician. He or she can check you for any signs of physical problems that may be causing your extreme emotions. If your doctor does not find any medical condition that may be the culprit, you may need to see a mental health care provider such as a psychiatrist or psychologist.

However, you may just need to talk to someone like a counselor or therapist, which you can do online. There are many websites that offer mental health care online such as BetterHelp.com, which has over 2,000 licensed professionals available. You do not have to make an appointment. Just go online and answer a few questions and they will hook you up with someone to talk to right away.

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