How To Deal With Loneliness: 7 Tips To Try

Updated August 16, 2022by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Have you ever felt all alone in the world? We all experience loneliness and it isn't easy. When you're going through a difficult time and feel there's no one to turn to for support, it's hard to figure out healthy coping and improve your mood and help your mind. But those who are feeling isolated or alone should know there are always people who care about their wellbeing. Learning to address your feeling of loneliness can also be a step in helping you address other mental health issues that you may be facing. The United States is facing a big problem surrounding isolation, loneliness, and related challenges. One study found that out of young people in the United States, 25% don’t have any friends they confide in. This is a problem that needs to be addressed to help the mental health of the country. Online therapy is there to help, providing convenient, affordable, and discreet access to a licensed therapist where you can see the benefits of different types of therapies from the comfort of your home.

Want To Overcome The Feelings And Effects Of Loneliness?

How Do I Cope?

Humans are social creatures by nature and in our lives. You long to connect with others and you want to be loved, of course. It's normal to want to have someone you can love in return, even if it eventually ends in divorce, the risk is worth it. Learning about dealing with feeling lonely isn't simple, but there's much you can do that can regain that feeling of value and belonging. There are effective ways you can cope with loneliness, and professional treatment is available if you're in need. This article will cover tools for coping with, and moving past this feeling.

First, it's important to note that even if you feel lonely right now, you're not alone. Millions of people are going through similar struggles. It's estimated that nearly 40% of all Americans feel "serious loneliness" — and Covid-19 has likely increased those feelings for many. Even those who appear connected and popular can feel isolated from others.

 Managing It

Many people successfully overcome feelings of loneliness through therapy, and those who have signed up for online therapy at BetterHelp find it a valuable resource for combating the symptoms that come with feeling lonely. These therapy sessions help people change the way they look at the world, and open up to new possibilities. Some may also benefit from antidepressant drugs prescribed by a doctor to treat associated depression issues so they can take control of the changes they want to make in their life. Regardless of whether or not you're a good candidate for medication, or what mode of therapy works best for you, it's important to seek treatment when you're feeling down. You're not alone in this fight.

People sometimes ask these questions about loneliness:

What is the main cause?

Loneliness commonly stems from limited social interaction with others like events or activities or lack of emotional intimacy in one’s relationships. There are various reasons that a person may experience feelings of loneliness, from the loss of a significant relationship or moving to a new area to living with a physical or mental health condition that presents barriers to forming or maintaining social connections. Some individuals may feel lonely even when surrounded by other people, due to feeling unable to be seen as their authentic selves. These same individuals end up feeling sad, depressed, and worthless when they have either been rejected or forgotten by those they know or their families and uncared for by new people. 

Is there a cure?

There is no simple answer for how to cure loneliness. Feeling lonely is a universal human emotion, therefore it’s unlikely that one will stop feeling lonely indefinitely. However, there are strategies that can help an individual to increase their feelings of social connectedness so they can stop feeling anxious about these feelings. Establishing meaningful relationships can help to prevent the harmful effects on mental and physical health that may be linked to chronic loneliness. Some of which include feeling hopeless, helpless, worthless, invisible, or uncared for/unloved when they may just be misunderstood. 

How do you fight it?

Strategies that may help an individual overcome loneliness include;

  • Looking for opportunities to connect with others who share common interests so you aren't friendless– this may look like attending meetup groups, signing up for classes at a gym or community center, leveraging creativity and joining an art group, getting involved with volunteer work or at a place of worship, or support groups related to mental wellness or navigating a particular challenge you may be facing.
  • Reaching out to friends or family members you haven’t connected with in a while to catch up or make plans to get together so you don't feel invisible
  • Considering the people you already have in your social network that you might want to get to know better and take a step towards deepening the connection
  • Adopting a pet that can provide a sense of companionship so you feel less neglected and are given additional responsibility 
  • Engaging in self care that supports your mental and physical well-being such as meditation or putting new food on your cooking menu at home

If feelings of loneliness are severe and causing significant distress, reach out for further support from health care providers or mental health professionals. Through mental health treatment, adults can explore the truth behind what may be contributing to loneliness, develop strategies for coping with these feelings and take steps to build the meaningful connections they desire. Say you are a woman who turns to alcohol when you are lonely, online therapy can help you find better ways to cope with isolating events such as a pandemic or illness and other things that leave one feeling alone. 

For additional resources on overcoming loneliness and social isolation, click here.

The 7 Tips for Navigating Loneliness

Below we're suggesting seven methods of dealing with feeling lonely, all of which will be helpful in their own ways. Consider which methods might be most useful to you.

  1. Accept That It Is Normal. Just knowing that others around the globe are experiencing the same feelings of loneliness can be helpful. As mentioned earlier, 40% of people will experience loneliness at some point in time. That number may seem high-after all, the internet and social networking makes it easier than ever to connect. But this feeling is subjective. It's possible to feel lonely even if you have a loved one, significant other, children, or lots of friends.

So if you're looking for an answer on coping with this loneliness in your own life, just realize there are millions of others feeling the same way. This normal emotion is one that almost everyone experiences at some point, and it's something that you can overcome. 

  1. Recognize the Effects So You Can Combat Them. Loneliness can be felt. Studies show that loneliness can make you feel colder than those around you, can increase cholesterol and blood pressure, change your diet and exercise routines affecting your energy levels and brain functioning, and can even stop your immune system from functioning properly. Loneliness can also disrupt your sleep. Because it puts your body on 'high alert,' it can make you more prone to sleep problems. Insomnia and lack of true rest can both be a result of loneliness. Loneliness leads to self-destructive habits. Drug abuse, gambling habits, and other self-destructive actions have all been linked with loneliness. Finding a cure for loneliness can prevent these habits from developing in the first place. It can also be important for addressing suicide prevention. If you’re struggling with thoughts of suicide, contact a national helpline like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.

Can I Manage Loneliness and Depression?

Lastly, loneliness can affect your mental health. As it increases, so does depression. One of the main signs of depression is no longer wanting to do things you used to enjoy, including spending time with your friends. If you think your feelings of loneliness may be a small part of a bigger problem, you should consider seeking support from your doctor or a mental health professional. They can help you to explore treatment options, identify local treatment facilities, and determine the next steps to take.

3. Seek Professional Help. Meeting with a mental health professional is one of the most helpful steps you can take in overcoming loneliness and the underlying issues that may be there. A therapist can help you explore the factors behind your feelings. Other issues surrounding your emotions can be addressed in treatment as well. For example, if you've recently lost a family member or close friend, you may be experiencing both loneliness and grief. Having an experienced professional support you through the healing process can make all the difference.

Sometimes, you might even feel lonely because of your location. Military members who are deployed or spouses who are separated from family and friends often experience a sense of loneliness that seems unsolvable. You may struggle with meeting new people. If you are in an area where you have few resources and treatment facilities, seeking professional help might seem impossible. It can be the same for those suffering from depression. In situations like this, a program like BetterHelp can be beneficial. BetterHelp is unique because counseling takes place through an online platform that you can access from any place you feel comfortable. And many people find the BetterHelp program a lot more convenient and affordable than in-person counseling.

  1. Nurture Existing Relationships. Loneliness can make us pull away from our relationships, even when we desire them the most. By nurturing the relationships you already have, you can put yourself on a path of learning how to cope with feeling this way. When the people you once loved or connected with feel distant, it can be hard to take the first step towards fortifying those bonds. Here are some ideas for connecting again:
  • Schedule time each day (or week) for calling or visiting a friend.
  • Invite someone out for lunch.
  • Start up conversations with neighbors when you can.
  • Use social media for reconnecting with those you've lost touch with due to time or distance.
  • Join a group or club with interests you share.
  • Looking into support groups in your area that focus on specific areas of interest or current challenges you may be facing
  1. Practice Positive Self-Talk. You might be asking how getting rid of negative self-talk has impacts loneliness, but the two go hand-in-hand. Talking positively about yourself and your life can change the outcome of each day, as you listen to these thoughts and they become reality.

Make an effort towards catching these thoughts and replace them with a positive message instead. The process of positive self-talk takes practice, but it can be part of a simple cure for loneliness. If you decide to seek out online therapy, then you'll learn all about these positive self-talk techniques. It's a good way for combating negative feelings and it can significantly improve your life.

  1. Find a Hobby. Boredom adds weight on top of loneliness. If you're already struggling with feelings of being lonely or social isolation, the cure isn't watching Netflix by yourself every night. Instead, find something to occupy your time. Make sure that what you choose has some social aspect to it. Taking pictures in the park and joining a gardening group through Meetup are both good options. Doing a jigsaw puzzle alone in your apartment, not so much. Take some time to explore hobby options and then get out there. The "getting out there" part is usually the hardest.

What Hobbies Will Help You To Manage Your Emotions?

Hobbies that you do by yourself can still be fun, but attempt ones that get you out more. You might love watching movies or playing video games alone, but sometimes this isn't the right answer when dealingwith feeling lonely. Do your best with picking out some fun new hobbies that will place you in social situations. It could wind up being the push that you need to improve your social life and it can be a cure for loneliness.

Want To Overcome The Feelings And Effects Of Loneliness?

  1. Find Volunteer Opportunities. One way to combat loneliness is by putting yourself in places where you can meet new people. That's why people go to places like bars and clubs, right? But sometimes just going out into public places doesn't do the trick, especially for people whose experience is worsened by issues like shyness or social anxiety. By volunteering, you're not only putting yourself in a place where you can meet people, but you'll also be focused on a task. This can help prevent feelings of awkwardness that might arise if you don't have a particular purpose. It can also give you something to look forward to if you're struggling with finding meaning in your life.

Another great thing about volunteering is the people you meet are likely to share your interests. For example, if you love animals, you might consider volunteering at a local shelter. This is a place where you're sure to meet other dog or cat people that you can connect with. It'll be much easier to connect if you're with others who like the same things you do. Not sure where to start? Ask around locally or use an online platform like Create the Good or Volunteer Match.

What are Other Options for Dealing with Loneliness?

Outside of the ideas above, if you’re struggling with feeling lonely and don’t have friends and family that you can connect with, you may benefit from joining a support group.

Using BetterHelp To Make A Difference

Signing up for online therapy at BetterHelp is something that can make a difference in your life. Signup is easy, and the matching process is personalized so that you're paired with the perfect counselor for you. Depending on when you sign up, you might qualify for a free trial that will help you decide if counseling can help you cope with your loneliness. These professionals understand what you're going through and can teach you the best coping methods, even if your loneliness stems from serious life events such as being abused.

It is in your power to reach out to an online therapist today without even having to leave your house if you are looking for anything along the lines of mental health resources or support. These therapists are available to speak to you at any time and there are many different therapy options available, all of which are within your rights no matter what you are going through. Don't wait to contact a therapist if you're in need. These compassionate professionals will be happy to help you with your loneliness and any other struggles you might be going through. For additional information, hundreds of articles on our company services, the eduction level of our therapists (some of which have a phd), and videos visit or follow us on social media apps for relevant news. Take a look at some BetterHelp counselor reviews from our page to see feedback (without a survey) on how they have helped others in your situation.

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"Peter is very caring. He is a good listener and gives me good tools todeal with my problems. I feel supported and less alone. I highly recommend him as a counselor. He has helped me through very difficult times."

"I have a lot of high stressors happening in my life right now, it has been extremely beneficial to have someone from the outside looking in to help me see what I do not and be able to have someone helping guide me through it. I appreciate being able to have a constant conversation and send a message when it is most convenient. I have a busy life right now and knowing I have someone to talk too (if I need too) every day has made me feel less alone and capable of achieving my goals."

Conclusion On This Topic

If you try these tips and are still having trouble overcoming your loneliness or struggling with your mental health, seek the advice of a trusted friend or family member. Using your voice to ask for the things you needcan help you moved past these temporary feelings and into the life you deserve. Loneliness does not have to be a permanent feeling. You can get help and move on to happier days.

Don't hesitate to reach out to an online therapist if you're in need. They'll be happy to assist you and you'll always have someone to turn to when you're feeling blue. The biggest mistake that you could make is to assume that you need to face this battle alone. There are always going to be people who want to help. And if you feel lonely and have thoughts of suicide seek help immediately. There are national helplines and content out there like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline you can call at 1-800-273-8255 or you can go directly to an emergency room.

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