What do the Holy Bible and the Scriptures say about feeling alone and loneliness in this life? What are some specific Bible verses that focus on loneliness?
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Loneliness is a complicated emotion, difficult to express in words as it comprises so many other emotions. And the situations or events that trigger isolation are equally diverse and complicated. And sometimes, we may even feel alone for no apparent reason at all. We can feel alone even amongst others — at the office, the corner coffee shop, or at a crowded party.
No matter where it strikes or what form it takes, isolation hurts. It's perhaps one of the most painful emotions we can ever experience. You may feel alone and without hope but you're never hopeless. In fact, a book you probably already own has a lot to say about feeling alone. That book is the Bible.
The Scriptures on desolation are numerous, covering a wide range of experiences. Bible verses for loneliness give hope for specific issues involving abandonment, rejection, grief, conflict, and almost every other life situation that may trigger these feelings. Examples of isolation show that it was experienced by Moses, King David, and especially by Jesus himself. Most importantly, these verses show that Christ, God and God’s love intimately understand what it's like to feel alone, and that even when you feel most alone, you truly never are. Here is what loneliness bible verses and scripture quotations have to say concerning desolation and God’s love in various situations.
Sometimes friends or family members can let us down, abandoning us at the moment we need them the most. No one understood this better than Joshua.
Joshua, the Old Testament hero best known for his conquest of Jericho, started out as the right hand of Moses. Moses had led the Hebrews out of slavery in Egypt, but when he died, leaving Joshua in charge of the whole land, the Hebrews were still lost in the desert on their way to the promised land, their holy dwelling place.
The Hebrews often rebelled against leadership, and Joshua, like Moses before him, often felt alone and discouraged-particularly after the death of his friend and teacher. But God in his holy, heavenly kingdom encouraged his right hand with these words: "No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life. Just as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you nor forsake you." -Joshua 1:5.
Another Biblical figure and righteous right hand to the everlasting god who understood the desolation of abandonment was Paul. Paul was right hand to Christ, and one of the early evangelists in the New Testament. He worked until the very end to spread the gospel of Christ among the Jews, who saw early Christians as heretics, and among all the Gentiles who saw the early Christians as only the smallest and most recent of a number of competing religions.
As Paul fought persecution to spread the gospel of Christ, he found that his friends deserted him when he needed their help. But he remained strong: "No one stood by me the first time I defended myself; all deserted me. … But the Lord stayed with me and gave me strength." -2 Timothy 4:16
And the very last words from Jesus Christ to his disciples when he ascended into the holy habitation of heaven remind us that we can never truly be abandoned right up until the very end, no matter how we may be feeling:
"And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age." - Matthew 28:20
The experience of rejection can bring about deep feelings of loneliness, even worthlessness. This is even more poignant if a parent rejects us. But the Bible offers comfort for this situation, too, in one of the psalms. King David was one of Israel's great kings and many of the psalms are praise to God and the father’s house where the lord stood and prayers night would reach from earth. However, King David was also a very flawed figure, so many of the psalms deal with much more difficult emotions. In Psalm 38 he writes, "My friends and companions stand aloof from my plague, and my nearest kin stands far off."
Even if we can't find the support we need from those around us, God is there to support us.
"Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me." -Psalm 27:10
So what do we do when we are feeling this way? The prophet Samuel reminded the people of Israel that God would never reject them, even if everyone else did. Samuel was a prophet and most prophets of the Bible live itinerant and destitute lives. Samuel, however, remained strong.
"For the sake of his great name the LORD will not reject his people, because the LORD was pleased to make you his own." -1 Samuel 12:22
These verses are great reminders that even when those nearest and dearest to us reject us, we are still not alone. God truly loves us like the best kind of parent-unconditionally.
Fights, arguments, and disputes of any kind can be isolating. They put distance between friends, coworkers, family members, and others we care about. Even lonelier are some of the internal conflicts we face, as we fight mental illness, addiction, and painful memories. Grappling with inner demons can leave us feeling very alone. Deuteronomy deals with feelings of conflict and adversity often.
Deuteronomy is attributed to Moses during the Exile Period. This follows the Exodus period in which Moses led the Hebrews out of slavery in Egypt. However, because they turned their backs on God, they were made to wander in the sun scorched land of the desert for forty years before reaching the promised land. This was a tense period in which the Hebrews blamed Moses for guiding them into the desert and Moses blamed the Hebrews for losing faith in God. However, Moses remained a faithful leader, regularly encouraging the Hebrews to show strength. In Deuteronomy 31:6, Moses tells the Hebrews, "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."
The book of Romans, and many others of St. Paul's epistles, deal with similar feelings. St. Paul is sometimes called "the last apostle." St. Paul never met Jesus Christ in person but believed he was called to spread the gospel to the Gentiles. As a result, he was often rejected by the Gentiles who saw his religion as strange and demanding, and he was often spurned by the original apostles who questioned his authority, intentions, and teachings. St. Paul often addressed these feelings but continued to rely on his faith in God at his right hand and Christ as a source of strength. To him, Christianity was a house of worship the rebellious live and the rebellious dwell to follow Christ, for we are all sinners. In Romans 38-39, St. Paul makes it clear that no matter what kind of conflict we face, God is on our side:
"For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
To face death or the loss of a loved one leaves a huge hole in our lives and causes loneliness like no other. But with some faith, you will hopefully be convinced that neither death nor life, “neither the present or future,” and neither angels nor demons” can separate you from love during this time of grief. Hopefully death shall trouble us less, and not separate us from the love we were created for.
The loss of a parent or a spouse are so painful that the Bible has some verses that directly address the loneliness of orphans and widows, and by extension, widowers.
In Psalm 68:5-6, King David writes, "A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun scorched land."
The Psalms also address the reflections of our own mortality that we can feel after the loss of a loved one. To face death is a difficult thing, and in Psalm 23:4 King David dared to do so: "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me."
With any loss, God provides the ultimate comfort. In 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, St. Paul writes, "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God."
A new job. A new city. Many friends moving away. Nursing child into a young adult, then the child moving out and leaving the nest. A new marriage bed. Growing older. An end of the age of all that is known and comfortable; such things present a major challenge. But both man and woman forget that all these things shall trouble them only if they forget that transition is a natural part of life. Change can leave us feeling bereft of those we used to rely on, and thus deeply alone.
Jeremiah, another Old Testament prophet, assures us that God is always present in these transitions. In 29:11, he writes, "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope."
In Joshua 1:9, God reminds Joshua of his presence during scary and difficult transitions, saying, "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."
And a similar reminder is in Isaiah 43:1-4 reads, "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior."
Solomon, another Old Testament King of Israel, was known for his wisdom. The opening of the third chapter of the book of Ecclesiastes, commonly attributed to him, reads "For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven. A time to live and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to sow."
There is nothing lonelier than those hours in the middle of the night when we lie awake worrying about tomorrow. We may be afraid about the state of our finances, our health, our children's well-being. And our fears make us feel very alone. But the Bible does hold comfort for those dark hours.
The Old Testament Prophet Isaiah writes, "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand" (Isaiah 41:10).
St. Paul, in his letter to the Philippians, writes "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7).
These verses reflect the intimacy and omnipresence of God. St. Peter, one of the leaders of the early church, recommends that you cast "all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7).
There's also the fact that worrying about the future seldom helps us to thrive when the future catches up with us. As Jesus says at the end of Mathew chapter 6, "Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Let the day's own trouble be sufficient for the day."
God himself, in the person of Jesus, experienced isolation in all its most painful forms. But rather than avoiding it, he sought out isolation and desolation, even though those around him often resisted his efforts.
In many instances in the gospels, Jesus seems exhausted by his ministry. The gospel writer Mathew records that "...he withdrew from there in a boat to a desolate place by himself. But when the crowds heard it, they followed him on foot from the towns" (Matthew 14:13).
Jesus knew well the pain of desertion and rejection from those closest to him. But he also gave us an example of how to move through that pain. In John 16:32, Jesus tells his apostles, "Behold, the hour is coming, indeed it has come, when you will be scattered, each to his own home, and will leave me alone. Yet I am not alone, for the Father is with me."
But the most painful moment for Jesus and one which we can all relate to was when he felt that even God had left him alone when he was dying on the cross. The gospel writer Mathew records that "About the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, "Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?" that is, 'My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?'" (Matthew 27:46).
We might use these words as ultimate proof that even Jesus despaired in times of hardship. However, this is not the end of the story.
Biblical scholars know that Jesus was simply quoting the beginning of Psalm 22. Like other Psalms, this one starts in despair but ends on a note of triumph: "Posterity will serve him; future generations will be told about the Lord. They will proclaim his righteousness, declaring to a people yet unborn: He has done it!" Jesus knew that those moments of ultimate isolation and pain on the cross would result in victory. The desolation was necessary to achieve a greater end, namely his resurrection, ascension, and the spread of the gospel message.
If you are in a season of loneliness, your first defense can be to put your trust in God. Sometimes our loneliest times are a necessary rite of passage to the seasons of reward and victory he has in store for us.
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Everyone feels alone sometimes, and that's okay as long as you understand how to work through your emotions in healthy and constructive ways.
Hopefully, some of the scripture passages above will help you on your way. If you need further help, however, reach out to a therapist at BetterHelp. Take the first step away from isolation today.
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Isaiah 41:10, which says, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” is a good Bible verse for when you feel lonely. Another comforting Bible verse for when you are feeling lonely comes from 1 Corinthians 10:13, which reads, “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
The Bible references many instances of God assuring his followers that they will never be alone or lonely, whether or single or married, as long as they have faith in the Lord. Jesus himself says that being single can be a good thing “for those to whom it has been given” (Matthew 19:11). Also in the New Testament, Paul states that we each have our own “gift from God” (1 Corinthians 7:7) that is special and can be used of service to the world, whether we marry or not.
Psalms 27 of David starts out by saying, “The LORD is my light and my salvation-- whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life-- of whom shall I be afraid?” The Psalm ends with David praying in fear for God to imbue him with strength and safety.
It is absolutely alright to be single forever. Many verses in the New Testament speak to this very thing, saying that it’s better to be single than miserably married. In fact, many of the holiest people in Christian history were single forever, dedicating their entire lives to service or a religious vocation. But if we remain single, we must make sure we don’t feel like we’re living a second-rate life by comparing ourselves to those who are married. We need to find the beauty in being alone, and realize that with God as our support, we need not ever truly feel lonely.
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