Healing For The Brokenhearted Bible Verses About Loneliness
By: Jon Jaehnig
Updated July 30, 2020
Medically Reviewed By: Juan Angel
Loneliness is a complicated emotion, difficult to express in words as it comprises so many other emotions. And the situations or events that trigger loneliness are equally diverse and complicated. And sometimes, we may even feel lonely for no apparent reason at all. We can feel lonely even amongst others-at the office, the corner coffee shop, or at a crowded party.
Where to Turn
No matter where it strikes or what form it takes, loneliness hurts. It's perhaps one of the most painful emotions we can ever experience. You may feel alone and without hope but you're never hopeless. In fact, a book you probably already own has a lot to say about loneliness. That book is the Bible.
The Scriptures on loneliness are numerous, covering a wide range of experiences. Bible verses for loneliness give hope for specific issues involving abandonment, rejection, grief, conflict, and almost every other life situation that may trigger these feelings. Examples of loneliness in the Bible show that it was experienced by Moses, King David, and especially by Jesus himself. Most importantly, these verses show that God himself intimately understands what it's like to feel lonely and that even when you feel most alone, you truly never are. Here is what the Bible has to say about loneliness in various situations.
Sometimes friends or family members can let us down, abandoning us at the moment we need them the most. No one understood this better than Joshua.
Joshua, the Old Testament hero best known for his conquest of Jericho, started out as the right hand of Moses. Moses had led the Hebrews out of slavery in Egypt, but when he died, leaving Joshua in charge, the Hebrews were still lost in the desert on their way to the promised land.
The Hebrews often rebelled against leadership, and Joshua, like Moses before him, often felt lonely and discouraged-particularly after the death of his friend and teacher. But God himself encouraged him with these words: "No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life. Just as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you or forsake you." -Joshua 1:5.
Another Biblical figure who understood the loneliness of abandonment was Paul. Paul was one of the early evangelists in the New Testament. He worked to spread the gospel among the Jews, who saw early Christians as heretics, and among the Gentiles who saw the early Christians as only the smallest and most recent of a number of competing religions.
As Paul fought persecution to spread the gospel, he found that his friends deserted him when he needed their help. But he remained strong: "No one stood by me the first time I defended myself; all deserted me. … But the Lord stayed with me and gave me strength." -2 Timothy 4:16
And Jesus's very last words to his disciples when he ascended into heaven remind us that we can never truly be abandoned, no matter how we may be feeling:
"And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age." - Matthew 28:20
The experience of rejection can bring about deep feelings of loneliness, even worthlessness. This is even more poignant if a parent rejects us. But the Bible offers comfort for this situation, too, in one of the psalms. The Psalms are a collection of poems written by and about King David. King David was one of Israel's great kings and many of the psalms are praise to God. However, King David was also a very flawed figure, so many of the psalms deal with much more difficult emotions. In Psalm 38 he writes, "My friends and companions stand aloof from my plague, and my nearest kin stands far off."
Sometimes when we are struggling, we look to friends and family members for support. Even if we can't find the support we need from those around us, God is there to support us.
"Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me." -Psalm 27:10
So what do we do when we are feeling this way? The prophet Samuel reminded the people of Israel that God would never reject them, even if everyone else did. Samuel was a prophet and most prophets of the Bible live itinerant and destitute lives. Samuel, however, remained strong.
"For the sake of his great name the LORD will not reject his people, because the LORD was pleased to make you his own." -1 Samuel 12:22
These verses are great reminders that even when those nearest and dearest to us reject us, we are still not alone. God truly loves us like the best kind of parent-unconditionally.
Conflict and Adversity
Fights, arguments, and disputes of any kind can be isolating. They put distance between friends, coworkers, family members, and others we care about. Even lonelier are some of the internal conflicts we face, as we fight mental illness, addiction, and painful memories. Grappling with inner demons can leave us feeling very alone. Deuteronomy deals with feelings of conflict and adversity often.
Deuteronomy is attributed to Moses during the Exile Period. This follows the Exodus period in which Moses led the Hebrews out of slavery in Egypt. However, because they turned their backs on God, they were made to wander in the desert for forty years before reaching the promised land. This was a tense period in which the Hebrews blamed Moses for guiding them into the desert and Moses blamed the Hebrews for losing faith in God. However, Moses remained a faithful leader, regularly encouraging the Hebrews to show strength. In Deuteronomy 31:6, Moses tells the Hebrews, "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."
The book of Romans, and many others of St. Paul's epistles, deal with similar feelings. St. Paul is sometimes called "the last apostle." St. Paul never met Jesus in person but believed he was called to spread the gospel to the Gentiles. As a result, he was often rejected by the Gentiles who saw his religion as strange and demanding, and he was often spurned by the original apostles who questioned his authority, intentions, and teachings. St. Paul often addressed these feelings but continued to rely on his faith in God as a source of strength. In Romans 38-39, St. Paul makes it clear that no matter what kind of conflict we face, God is on our side:
"For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Grief and Loss
The loss of a loved one leaves a huge hole in our lives and causes loneliness like no other.
The loss of a parent or a spouse are so painful that the Bible has some verses that directly address the loneliness of orphans and widows, and by extension, widowers.
In Psalm 68:5-6, King David writes, "A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land."
The Psalms also address the reflections of our own mortality that we can feel after the loss of a loved one as in Psalm 23:4 when King David writes, "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me."
With any loss, God provides the ultimate comfort. In 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, St. Paul writes, "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God."
A new job. A new city. Children moving out and leaving the nest. Growing older. All such transitions are a natural part of life, but they can leave us feeling bereft of those we used to rely on, and thus deeply lonely.
Jeremiah, another Old Testament prophet, assures us that God is always present in these transitions. In 29:11, he writes, "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope."
In Joshua 1:9, God reminds Joshua of his presence during scary and difficult transitions, saying, "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."
And a similar reminder is in Isaiah 43:1-4 reads, "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior."
Solomon, another Old Testament King of Israel, was known for his wisdom. The opening of the third chapter of the book of Ecclesiastes, commonly attributed to him, reads "For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven. A time to live and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to sow."
Fear about the Future
There is nothing lonelier than those hours in the middle of the night when we lie awake worrying about tomorrow. We may be afraid about the state of our finances, our health, our children's well-being. And our fears make us feel very alone. But the Bible does hold comfort for those dark hours.
The Old Testament Prophet Isaiah writes, "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand" (Isaiah 41:10).
St. Paul, in his letter to the Philippians, writes "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7).
These verses reflect the intimacy and omnipresence of God. St. Peter, one of the leaders of the early church, recommends that you cast "all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7).
There's also the fact that worrying about the future seldom helps us to thrive when the future catches up with us. As Jesus says at the end of Mathew chapter 6, "Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Let the day's own trouble be sufficient for the day."
Jesus: The Ultimate Example of Loneliness
God himself, in the person of Jesus, experienced loneliness in all its most painful forms. But rather than avoiding it, he sought out loneliness and desolation, even though those around him often resisted his efforts.
In many instances in the gospels, Jesus seems exhausted by his ministry. The gospel writer Mathew records that "...he withdrew from there in a boat to a desolate place by himself. But when the crowds heard it, they followed him on foot from the towns" (Matthew 14:13).
Jesus knew well the pain of desertion and rejection from those closest to him. But he also gave us an example of how to move through that pain. In John 16:32, Jesus tells his apostles, "Behold, the hour is coming, indeed it has come, when you will be scattered, each to his own home, and will leave me alone. Yet I am not alone, for the Father is with me."
But the most painful moment for Jesus and one which we can all relate to was when he felt that even God had left him alone when he was dying on the cross. The gospel writer Mathew records that "About the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, "Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?" that is, 'My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?'" (Matthew 27:46).
We might use these words as ultimate proof that even Jesus despaired in times of loneliness. However, this is not the end of the story.
Biblical scholars know that Jesus was simply quoting the beginning of Psalm 22. Like other Psalms, this one starts in despair but ends on a note of triumph: "Posterity will serve him; future generations will be told about the Lord. They will proclaim his righteousness, declaring to a people yet unborn: He has done it!" Jesus knew that those moments of ultimate loneliness and pain on the cross would result in victory. The loneliness was necessary to achieve a greater end, namely his resurrection, ascension, and the spread of the gospel message.
If you are in a season of loneliness, put your trust in God. Sometimes our loneliest times are a necessary rite of passage to the seasons of reward and victory he has in store for us.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What is a good Bible verse for loneliness?
A good Bible verse about loneliness is Deuteronomy 31:6. It lets you know that you should be courageous and know you are not alone, since the Lord God is always with you. There are other encouraging Bible verses as well that include Psalms 23:4 which states “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” There are verses all over the Bible that can offer you comfort and let you know that God is faithful and is there for those that need him and believe in him. He will give you rest and watches over the brokenhearted and binds their wounds. He is also with you when you are facing persecution or famine, which can be severe situations.
Does God care that I am lonely?
Yes, there is evidence throughout the word of God that lets you know that God cares if you are lonely. When it comes to loneliness, Bible has many verses that can offer solace in a time of need. One of these is Matthew 11: 28, where Jesus Christ states that he will “give you rest” if you are “lowly in heart.” You can also see Isaiah 43:2, where even when you “pass through the waters”, you will not be alone. God will not leave you not forsake you, and cares that you are alone. Every believer should know that God and Christ Jesus want them to know they are not alone in the world and find comfort in knowing that. When you are feeling loneliness, you may want to check out a verse of the day to help keep your spirits up. In other words when it comes to loneliness, Bible verses may be able to aid you in feeling better about your situation.
What does Psalms 46 say?
The main idea being stated in Psalms 46 is that God is always with you. Even when times are tough, or through famine or nakedness, you will be able to count on Jesus Christ, God, and the holy spirit. They may be able to get you through times that seem insurmountable. This is also mentioned in other Bible verses, Bible scriptures, or whatever you want to call them. Another one is Matthew 28:16, where Christ Jesus tells how he’s teaching them to observe laws, so that you will be protected at all times. This is how you will know that the Lord God will not leave you not forsake you. When it says he is teaching them to observe laws or commandments, these are essentially the rules that the Lord your God wants you to live by.
What does the Bible say about community?
There are instances where community is discussed in the Bible, such as in Romans 12. You are instructed to work together with others in a fair manner and not to think that you are better than someone else. The love of money is considered to be wicked, so do your best to not covet things in this world. Sometimes it is misquoted, and people say that money is the root of all evil, but it is really the love of money that is. Instead, you can work with others to get things completed and when you need support or help. If you take part in Bible study with others, for instance, you may be able to find people that are interested in the same things you are, such as a mutual love of Christ, and make friends with them. This is a sense of community.
What is the cause of loneliness?
There are a few reasons you may be feeling lonely. One is that you don’t have anyone to talk to or hang out with and you want to spend time with someone. Another reason could be because you have recently moved or made a big life change and you are now isolated from people you care about. No matter the reason you are lonely, you should do your best to reach out to people you care about and keep in touch with them. Remember that he is with you through famine or nakedness, so he will be with you as you go through loneliness.
What to do when you get lonely?
When you feel lonely, you may want to call up your loved ones and talk to them. You might be able to set up a coffee date or a meet up, so that you can see people that mean something to you. You may also reach out to them on social media, if that’s the only option. You can even seek out professional support through the use of a therapist, if you want to talk about your loneliness and how to remedy the situation. Moreover, you may want to check out Bible verses, Bible websites, or types of Bible study, if this is something you are interested in. Remember that the Bible says he will give you rest, heals the brokenhearted, and binds up their wounds, which means you can be healthy.
What does the Bible say about giving back to the community?
The Bible wants you to give back to your community and help others that need help. For instance, it states in Psalms 68 that he leads out the prisoners and them that have shackles, so even people that have been in bondage or in prison should be taken care of. He doesn’t want anyone to be alone when it comes to experiencing persecution or famine. When you pass through the waters and experience the love of Christ, you should know that you are part of something bigger. At the same time, you will have to keep reading Bible verses, Bible lessons, and continue to be a good person.
What did Jesus tell the rich man?
In Matthew 19, Jesus Christ told the rich man about the commandments he needed to follow in order to follow Christ. You may be familiar with the 10 commandments, which include not lying, murdering, honoring father and my mother, and having no other gods. He also told him that he should sell his possessions if he wanted to follow him. The man wasn’t willing to make these changes, so Christ Jesus subsequently explained that it is hard for a rich man to get into heaven. One reason for this is because the love of money is considered to be the root of all evil.
The Bible can be a great source of guidance and comfort. Although the Bible holds many important teachings, having the help of another person who understands specific mental issues and has helped people in the past can be of benefit as well.
One option is to look for help from an online therapist or counselor. Through platforms like BetterHelp, you can meet with a licensed and professional counselor over the internet for a relationship that is more flexible and more affordable than meeting with a counselor or therapist in person. Consider the following reviews from BetterHelp users experiencing similar issues.
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Everyone feels alone sometimes, and that's okay as long as you understand how to work through your emotions in healthy and constructive ways.
Hopefully, some of the scripture passages above will help you on your way. If you need further help, however, reach out to a therapist at BetterHelp. Take the first step away from loneliness today.