I Love My Children: Why This Is A Love Like No Other

Medically reviewed by Elizabeth Erban, LMFT, IMH-E
Updated July 18, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Parenting is often one of the most rewarding and challenging experiences in life. Whether it's your first time being a parent, or you've been doing it for years, your love for your children is likely irreplaceable. This love can be a source of strength and comfort, but it can also come with feelings of frustration, guilt, and overwhelm. Offering support to parents can be important in helping them to thrive and parent their children well. Parents who engage with tools like self-care and online therapy may also find that they’re better able to meet their own and their children’s needs.

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Parental love can be complicated

What is a parent's love for their children?

A parent's love for their children can be one of the most genuine sources of unconditional love, and it’s often a source of boundless joy and comfort. A parent's love for their children is frequently an ever-evolving and complex emotion. Parents may feel immense pride watching their children grow and succeed, but they also might feel incredible empathy when things don't go according to plan. This is likely a bond that no other person could break.

Why is it important to understand a parent's love for their children?

Understanding a parent's love for their children can be essential for everyone, regardless of whether they have children of their own. It can be ideal for parents to be aware of how their love might affect their children and the family dynamic. It may help them cultivate a healthier relationship with their children and look for signs of something that might be wrong. It can also help people in other relationships with the family, such as grandparents, stepparents, or close friends, to understand where they stand and how they might best support the family.

Why is a parent's love for their children so strong?

There may be several reasons why a parent's love for their children is often so strong. First, it could be biologically driven. When a parent holds their newborn baby, they typically experience a flood of hormones that create a strong attachment and bond with their child. This bond may be further reinforced as the parent sees their child grow and develop.

Second, parents' love for their children is frequently deeply rooted in their own experiences and values. Many parents want to provide their children with the love, support, and opportunities they may not have had.

Finally, a parent's love for their children may be driven by the desire to create a better world. By raising kind, empathetic, and responsible children, parents often hope to positively impact society and leave a legacy of love and compassion.

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How do you support a parent's love for their children?

Supporting a parent's love for their children can be very meaningful.

Here are a few ways you may support a parent:

  • Listen to them and provide emotional support.
  • Take an interest in their child(ren) and talk about the joy of their successes.
  • Offer practical help, like babysitting or running errands.
  • Offer to give advice or provide parenting resources.
  • Show your appreciation for the hard work they put into being a parent.
  • Talk about your own experiences and stories with them when it's appropriate.

By understanding parents' intense bonds with their children, you can better appreciate and support family relationships. With a bit of love and understanding, you may create a more supportive environment for everyone.

Common obstacles to overcome when supporting a parent's love for their children

Although supportive relationships are generally ideal for families, some common obstacles could hinder the connection. Here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • Respect personal boundaries: Everyone's relationships with their children tend to be unique, and it can be best to respect the parent's wishes when offering advice or assistance.
  • Avoid judgment: Most parents are doing their best and typically need support rather than criticism. Therefore, it can be best to keep all negative comments out of the conversation.
  • Understand individual needs: Every family can be different, and the parents may need various types of support. Listening to what they say they need is often the best way to help.
  • Be patient: It might take some time for parents to trust and accept help; therefore, you might try to be patient and understanding.

The importance of self-care as a parent

Self-care can be a crucial part of parenting, as it can help parents manage stress, stay physically and mentally healthy, and care for their own needs. Practicing self-care can help parents clear their minds and provide their children with the best version of themselves. You may do this by taking time to do something that brings you joy, enjoying a short break from parenting duties and responsibilities, or allowing yourself to take a nap or meditate when needed. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can also be a form of self-care that can help you be the best version of yourself for your children. Ultimately, parents normally need to make sure to take care of themselves so they can be there for their children physically and emotionally.

Parental love can be complicated

Benefits of online therapy

Online therapy can be an excellent resource for parents to understand the intensity of their love for their children and how best to manage it. Working with a therapist can provide guidance and support on parenting through difficult situations, such as trauma or mental health issues. It may allow parents to explore their own emotions regarding their past experiences and how these shape their relationships with their children.

Attending therapy online can also mean less stress, as there’s generally no need to leave the house or hire a babysitter for the duration of the session.

If you are experiencing trauma, support is available. Please see our Get Help Now page for more resources.

Effectiveness of online therapy

As this study explains, online therapy generally has the same rate of efficacy as traditional in-office therapy. Both of these options can be excellent choices for parents seeking professional guidance with mental health, parenting, and relationship challenges. Please don’t hesitate to reach out and get the help you deserve.


The intensity of a parent's love for their children may be one of the greatest gifts they give. Understanding the strength of this bond could be the first step in creating a more supportive environment for all families. To support this bond between parent and their child, it may be helpful to offer emotional support, take an interest in the child(ren), and show appreciation for the hard work done by parents. Additionally, self-care and online therapy are tools that may help parents better understand and manage their intense love for their children.

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