Starting Off On The Right Foot: Pre Marriage Counseling
Updated December 07, 2018
Reviewer Richard Jackson
Marriage is supposed to be for life. Some people never enjoy the privilege, while others marry two, three or more times. What is the difference between a relationship which will stand the test of time, and one that starts out well but becomes ever more brittle over the years? While there are a variety of answers to this question, one thing that's beyond doubt is that most couples starting out on their new life together can benefit from pre marriage counseling.
It is fundamentally difficult to know another person well. This is one of the life secrets many people embarking on the adventure of marriage don't know, and the truth is that love is often just not enough to compensate for the space that separates everyone, whether we choose to acknowledge this or not.
Benefits of Pre Marriage Counseling
"Fools rush in" as the saying goes but doing so can lead to a situation where relationship counseling is required to resolve problems that needn't have occurred in the first place. Avoiding this backward approach is one reason why many couples opt to go for pre-marriage counseling. Much like signing a prenuptial agreement, it does not mean that you expect things to go wrong, but that you are taking an adult view of the major step you're about to take.
Rather than trying to improve your marriage once things have already started to head south, it makes sense to forestall any issues that may arise later with a short course of couples' counseling before the big day. You need not wait until there is something creating distance between the two of you; talking about expectations, hopes and things that bother either of you is something couples with a healthy relationship do often.
Get to Know Your Partner Better
Even though you may currently be blindly in love, both of you should remember that marriage is a thing of many dimensions - financial, familial, sexual and emotional. Making sure that you and your future spouse are on the same page regarding all of these is perhaps the best way to maintain and improve your marriage.
It may seem difficult to discuss such very personal matters in front of someone you know, perhaps even the priest or rabbi who will be performing the ceremony. Fortunately, there is an easy solution: anonymous online relationship counseling provided by experienced and accredited therapists specializing in the field. Though you may want to believe that your love will conquer all, allowing a professional to point out some of the hazards your relationship will be facing can help to lay the groundwork for a truly durable marriage.
Finding your happily ever after is rarely a question of pure luck, nor is it something you do one time and can then forget about. Building a happy marriage takes effort, compromise andthe knowledge necessary to make it work. Mistakes, once made, can be very difficult to reverse, so consider attempting pre marriage couples therapy to avoid the worst, most common pitfalls.