Do you ever have a brief moment where you are out with your friends enjoying a lunch or sitting in a meeting at work and you feel out of touch with what's happening around you? Or you draw a total blank hours later when trying to remember what was discussed at the meeting? Or you drove home but don't remember actually doing the drive itself?
Some of this may feel familiar to you and that's completely normal. Occurrences such as these are a mild and common form of dissociation experienced by most people at least once in their life. In these situations, you probably felt out of touch because you weren't paying attention, you were bored, you were thinking of other things, or your mind was wandering. In the case of psychological dissociation, it's not just a matter of daydreaming and getting lost in your own thoughts for a bit, but rather it is a severe and chronic medical condition where the individual is detached from reality.
Dissociation is defined (in the simplest way) as the process whereby an individual feels disconnected or begins to disconnect from their memories, emotions, thoughts, feelings and even their identity.
It is a coping mechanism and technique often used when someone is experiencing the trauma of some sort and the only way they can escape or face the pain and horror and live through their ordeal is by separating their mental self from their physical self. In essence, the person shuts down emotionally, removing themselves from any feelings or memories of the event itself. What's left is just the physical shell of the individual and it can make them believe the trauma is happening to someone else, not them. Dissociating from something makes it hard to remember what they have gone through months or years later, or it may come back piecemeal in flashes.
The process of dissociation can be a symptom for various dissociative disorders. The three main types of dissociative disorders recognized by mental health professionals and listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) are dissociative identity disorder, dissociative amnesia, and depersonalization disorder.
The Three Types Of Dissociative Disorders
The main symptom of this disorder is the presence of several different identities within one individual. These identities alternate and change places depending on the situation at hand. Generally, each identity has its own unique characteristics and voices. DID often develops as a coping mechanism for living through violent, traumatic and distressing events. For example, a girl who was repeatedly abused as a child and was unable to defend herself or who was left helpless to stop it, may develop the identity of a tough, aggressive persona, or someone who could have stepped in and protected her from the abuse as a child. Similarly, this can also happen if a child is a witness to violence or abuse, powerless to do anything about it as a child. They may go on to develop the identity of a protector who is not powerless.
The personalities do not shift on demand but occur involuntarily and suddenly, and this can cause significant confusion and distress in the individual's life and have a great impact on the people around them.
In order to have a diagnosis of DID, two or more unique and separate identities (different behavior, personality, memories, and mannerisms) have to be present. DID is the most serious and severe of three dissociative disorders and typically someone living with DID will also have dissociative amnesia.
When someone experiences dissociative amnesia, they have trouble remembering things about themselves. This is different than someone who just happened to forget something. With dissociative amnesia, the person may have difficulty remembering a period of time or event from their life, a specific part of the event, or in some rare cases, forget their identity and life entirely.
Dissociative amnesia also comes about as a result of a specific traumatic event or occurrence. An episode of amnesia can last anywhere from a few minutes to days. In some extreme and rare cases, amnesia can last for years. There are no warning signs to an episode, and they can occur suddenly. It is not uncommon for the individual to have several episodes in their lifetime.
This disorder makes the individual feel detached from the world and the reality surrounding them. They constantly feel like they're looking in on their life from the outside. They watch themselves going to work, doing the dishes or spending time with their children, but none of these feel real to them. While their physical body is carrying out the actions, emotionally they are detached and removed from the situation. The symptoms can last for a few minutes or longer, and can happen at any time and come back through the course of a lifetime.
Up to 75% of people experience a depersonalization/derealization episode in their lifetimes. Only 2%, however, experience chronic episodes.
Although each type of dissociative disorder has specific symptoms, some general signs and symptoms to watch out for which may be exhibited by someone living with a dissociative disorder are:
Like many mental health illnesses, the individual who is going through the mental health issue may not realize there is a problem. They may chalk up their symptoms to stress or other things going on in their life or fail to understand that something is wrong. Often, family, friends or loved ones detect the first signs of something being wrong. If this is the case, it is very important that family and loved ones approach the topic of mental health in a sensitive, gentle manner while encouraging the individual to seek help.
Diagnosis And Treatment
If you're questioning whether you may be experiencing a dissociative disorder but you're unsure of how to approach it or what to base it on, something like an online screening might be a good start. You can then take the results as a discussion point to your family doctor.
Unfortunately, there is no scientific way of diagnosing dissociation, and no blood tests, x-rays, or screenings can determine or confirm a diagnosis. The doctor you see will make their diagnosis of dissociative disorder based on the symptoms you are experiencing, along with your family and personal history. Physical tests like blood tests or an MRI will be carried out in order to make sure some other factor like a brain tumor or burst blood vessel is not at play. Once your physical health is ruled out, the doctor will likely refer you to a mental health specialist. They will then conduct a complete evaluation and focus on your emotional and psychological health.
Once a diagnosis has been made identifying what type of dissociative disorder (if any) is present, together you and your doctor can look at treatment options and plans. Treating and managing dissociative disorders involves psychotherapy like CBT, cognitive-behavioral therapy, and DBT, dialectical behavioral therapy, as well as medications like anti-depressants. A combination of both may be used depending on the circumstance and the patient. Unfortunately, while there is no way to permanently cure a dissociative disorder, treatment and commitment to your treatment plan can help you manage the symptoms and make you feel better.
So why is it so important to get help? You may feel that aside from a few minor interruptions in your life when you experience an episode of dissociation, your life is fine, so why bother getting help? The reality is even if you feel great most of the time if you are living with a dissociative disorder, without treatment your symptoms may worsen, and complications may arise affecting your personal, social, and professional life.
You might start experiencing other mental issues such as depression or anxiety, other disorders might creep up, you may turn to drugs or alcohol in order to cope with your episodes, and it may develop into an addiction.
BetterHelp Is There
There are a significant number of studies pointing to online therapy as a beneficial method of helping individuals who are seeking to address dissociation-related mental health issues, such as trauma. In one study, published in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, researchers looked at the effectiveness of online cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT) in treating symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Cognitive-behavioral therapy is a widely accepted form of treatment that helps individuals replace negative, intrusive thoughts underlying unwanted behaviors and emotions, so that potentially triggering situations can be better managed. There is also evidence that cognitive therapy can help treat dissociative symptoms such as depression and anxiety.
As discussed above, if you or someone you love is living with a dissociative disorder, online therapy platforms can provide useful tools for managing your symptoms. BetterHelp provides access to thousands of mental health professionals, from all over the US (and beyond)—not just those therapists who happen to operate in your area. With more options, you’ll have a better chance of connecting with a counselor who knows how to help you address your specific issues. Also, you’ll have the option of participating in therapy completely anonymously by simply selecting a “nickname” when you register, if you prefer. The mental health professionals at BetterHelp can help you work through trauma and dissociation. Read below for counselor reviews, from those who have experienced similar issues.
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If you are having any doubts, starting to question your symptoms, or wondering whether you may have a dissociative disorder, it is imperative that you speak to a doctor or a mental health professional as soon as possible.
You might find it difficult to approach someone for help or wonder how you can even open the door to have that conversation. Like with most things in life, the more knowledge you acquire and the more you talk about something, the easier it becomes to accept and understand. If you're not comfortable talking to family or someone you know right away, there are plenty of resources where you can get help, counseling, and information from professional therapists who are experts in their field and who will listen without judgment.
Remember that mental health issues are more common than we think, and they are nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. In fact, the smartest thing you can do is recognize the need for help and seek treatment so that you can be armed with the right tools and knowledge to lead your best life.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs):
What happens when you dissociate?
Dissociation refers to an individual disconnecting from their thoughts, emotions, memories, or sensations. It is a protective function that serves as a way to escape into one’s mind. Symptoms of dissociation include blanking out, daydreaming, memory loss, feeling numb or disconnected from emotions, feelings of detachment and losing touch with reality.
Dissociation happens in varying degrees, from tuning out during a boring meeting, to feeling numb in a certain situation due to past trauma, to clinical disorders such as dissociative identity disorder or depersonalization disorder that require professional treatment.
What is an example of dissociation?
Examples of everyday dissociation include daydreaming during an uninteresting conversation. In traumatic experiences, it is common for an individual to dissociate due to the inability to tolerate the overwhelming fear or pain they are experiencing. Later on, an individual may have difficulty remembering the circumstances surrounding the traumatic event clearly.
How is dissociation treated?
Psychotherapy (also known as traditional talk therapy) is the primary treatment for dissociation. It is important to seek out a mental health professional who is experienced working with trauma. There are no specific medications for dissociative disorders, but antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications may be prescribed to treat accompanying mental health symptoms.
What does dissociate mean in psychology?
To dissociate refers to an individual disconnecting from their thoughts, emotions, memories, sensations, or even identity. In many cases, dissociating has roots in past trauma.
How do you know if someone is dissociating?
Someone who is dissociating may blank out, have glazed over eyes or seem otherwise not fully present. They may do things that are out of character, or appear to be losing touch with their sense of space, time or reality.
What triggers dissociation?
Dissociation has significant roots in trauma. For example, being in a place where a negative experience or traumatic event occurred, even many years ago, may trigger dissociation. Research has shown the presence of significant dissociative symptoms in various mental health conditions such as depression, OCD, ADHD, borderline personality disorder and substance use disorders.
What does dissociation look like in therapy?
During a therapy session, someone who is dissociating may blank out, have glazed over eyes or seem otherwise not fully present. They may do things that are out of character, or appear to be losing touch with their sense of space, time or reality.
Is dissociation a symptom of anxiety?
It is possible for dissociation to occur in the context of anxiety and anxiety disorders. An individual may experience dissociative symptoms (such as feeling numb or disconnected to one’s own body) during an overwhelming event that causes significant anxiety or after a stressful event.
What is emotional dissociation?
Emotional dissociation refers to an individual disconnecting from their thoughts or feelings. It occurs as an individual escapes into their mind to protect themself from what seems too overwhelming or stressful to tolerate.
What is shutdown dissociation?
Shutdown dissociation can be thought of as a survival response in a life-threatening situation when an individual is unable to opt to ‘fight or flight.’ The Shutdown Dissociation Scale (or Shut-D) was developed to evaluate dissociative responses initiated by reminders of past trauma.
Can you recover from dissociation?
Yes! Recovery from dissociation is possible when an individual receives appropriate treatment. If you are experiencing dissociative symptoms that are impacting daily functioning, it is crucial to seek out the support of a mental health professional.
How long does dissociation last?
The length of a dissociative episode varies between several hours or days, to weeks or months. In the case of dissociative disorders, dissociation can span for years.
Is dissociation like zoning out?
Blanking out for a few moments can be a mild symptom of dissociation. There are varying degrees in which dissociation occurs, from zoning out to more severe feelings of disconnection and detachment from self, typically rooted in trauma.
What happens to the brain when you dissociate?
Recent studies revealed that nerve cells in the posteromedial cortex of the brain start firing to initiate dissociation. Studies on mice illuminated that a specific protein type called an ion channel plays a role in the firing of these nerve cells.
Is dissociation a symptom of PTSD?
Due to the connection between dissociation and trauma, it is common for individuals with PTSD to experience dissociative symptoms.