What To Do When You’re Feeling Neglected
Feeling neglected is one of the most disheartening feelings in the world. In many cases, it is even worse than being disliked because it is simply a person's passive response to your existence. The person who is neglecting you is saying, "You're not important enough to me to waste my energy on."
Neglect can creep into a relationship as the years go by. When two people are together for an extended length of time, it is completely normal for them to take the other's presence for granted. The other person is always there, they stop dressing up for each other, they favor going out with their friends as opposed to spending time together. It's completely natural for relationships to go down that route, and unfortunately, it's the main reason why relationships end.
How to address the issues of feeling neglected
It is important to step back and take a look at the situation as a whole. Don't simply assume that because your partner is disinterested in you that it's entirely their problem. That won't benefit either of you. Instead, first take a look at your own actions to make sure there is nothing you could have done to cause this. If you have done something wrong, it was likely to have been caused inadvertently by yourself. It happens all the time. We say convoluted things which our partner misinterprets and it evolves into a huge problem instead of being taken as the misunderstanding it should have been. Such problems are simply a breakdown of communication.
As evident in the previous point, communication is the backbone to a healthy relationship. Without it we are working with inaccurate beliefs about each other, making it entirely possible for hostility to present itself. Sit your partner down and ask them outright. When they are confronted with the repercussions of their actions they are more likely to be honest about what's upsetting them.
Even though they're your significant other, you can't directly control their actions. There is a limit to how much influence you can have over a person, and if your efforts are still resulting in their indifference towards you then try to not let them affect your day-to-day goings on, however that hard might be. Their neglect will continue regardless of whether you enjoy your day at work or not, so you might as well enjoy your life outside of your partner as much as possible.
Look at things through their eyes
It is possible that your partner's neglect is not related to you in any way. Their disregard for you may just be a byproduct of another issue they're currently dealing with. Maybe they're feeling under the weather mentally or physically, or they may be busy with work, or suffering with a family problem.
Before you decide to take drastic measures and end your relationship, consider all of the above and take the necessary steps to address the problems at hand. There is a very good chance you will be able to build a stronger bond with your partner as a result. If you are still feeling neglected after attempting to resolve your issues, it is useful to seek professional help guidance in order to uncover the underlying issues in your relationship.