How I’ve Learned To Use Mindfulness To Get Through A Breakup And Be A Better Person – Ghita

By: Nicola Kirkpatrick

Updated May 28, 2020

Medically Reviewed By: Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC

I recently found myself in the middle of an especially difficult time in my life where I was dealing with a breakup and having to move out of the country due to some visa issues. I knew I needed to talk to someone, but couldn't afford to go to in-person counseling as I stopped working and therefore lost my insurance coverage. I began looking for a more affordable way to access counseling, and came across BetterHelp through an online search.

I had done a few years of in-person counseling during college in the past, and while I had an awesome therapist, sometimes I had to wait a week, sometimes two, to be able to talk to my therapist. So, I was excited to find BetterHelp because they offer unlimited messages back and forth with a licensed therapist and offered a free week trial, where I got to see just how awesome it really is!

I've now been working with my BetterHelp counselor, Aiko, for about two months and have found her to be an extreme source of comfort and support. Whenever I need to talk about anything, I log on and pour my heart out. Aiko always responds with insightful and helpful advice.

One thing Aiko and I have been working on is mindfulness. I've struggled with controlling my emotions, but Aiko has explained how to be mindful of my emotions and how to choose which ones to delve into and which ones to shut off. I'm now more mindful, more open-minded and less judgmental. When I have issues with people, I am sometimes quick to see it from my perspective alone. I have tended to make it about me. I'm now more and more aware of this and am working to remedy it on a case by case basis with Aiko's help.

Aiko has also helped talk me through my breakup and the emotions I was feeling during it. She helped me be a better communicator with my ex, which was especially important in developing closure. Though I'm not over the break up yet, I'm way more accepting of the loss of the relationship than I was when Aiko and I started working together. I am a lot more in tune with myself and concerned with my own well-being.

The biggest achievement I've made is, truly, fighting for myself. Through working with Aiko and taking the time to discuss various issues with her, I've become a bigger advocate for myself, and I'm so proud of that. I am immensely thankful to Aiko for all her support and to BetterHelp for providing a more modernized platform for therapy.