I now know that I am capable of doing anything - Sara

Medically reviewed by Nikki Ciletti
Updated January 25, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Many people who have never tried therapy may wonder how therapy can benefit them. This was the case for Sara, who before trying online therapy with BetterHelp had always managed to move on from challenges with help from her friends. But when she encountered a situation that she couldn’t move on from on her own, she decided it was time for professional treatment. Since then, she's seen growth and improvement in several areas of her life. 

Stories like Sara's are common among many individuals trying therapy for the first time. Keep reading to see how her therapy sessions changed her idea of what counseling could offer and how it’s helping her grow her self-confidence. 

Sara's story

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Sara's experiences before BetterHelp 

"Before joining BetterHelp, I had never received any type of counseling. There have been times in my past when I experienced depressing feelings due to bad experiences with certain people or situations. However, I had always managed to eventually pick myself up and move on with the help of my friends," Sara explained. 

“I've also always had a high level of discomfort speaking to 'strangers' (which is what a counselor would be to me) about my issues face-to-face. I had never come to a point where I felt the urgent need to confess my feelings to someone I wasn’t familiar with.

“However, for the first time ever, I was not able to come out of a really depressing situation by myself. I was feeling really bad and saw no other solution than to actually talk to an expert about my issues because the feelings surpassed anything I was able to handle myself or with the help of those around me. 

“I came across an ad for BetterHelp and decided it was time to speak to an expert. Knowing that BetterHelp was really inexpensive, and that I didn't have to face the person or leave the comfort of my own home to go to therapy were definitely pros."

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Sara’s growth and changes with BetterHelp

"I had been depressed and lost, coming out of a relationship, and I didn't know how to handle life. I was having panic attacks about how my future would look like regarding my financial independence," Sara continued. 

"Since I began working with my counselor, I have improved on taking things with much less pressure and stress, or at least I try to. It is always going to be hard for me to take things with ease since I am simply not that kind of person," explained Sara. "I still haven't figured everything out, yet with the counseling, I have gotten to a point where I realize how to take it one step after another. I try not to worry as much about it, which is something I still struggle with at times, but it has been getting progressively better."

"I have to reflect on what I have already accomplished in life and be proud of it, knowing I can only learn through my past mistakes and take them into consideration for the near future. Stressing myself out about things is only going to give me anxiety and is not going to contribute to my current problem-solving.

"My counselor helped me by discussing my current situation and thinking about it in a different way than I was on my own. Thinking about it more objectively and seeing it from a different, more reasonable point of view helped me a lot. Even just discussing my problems out loud made me realize how I was going about some things the wrong way."

Sara's biggest achievement

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"My biggest achievement is just being less stressed about certain situations and taking them with more of a sense of ease. I now know that I am capable of doing anything and that the right time will come for everything when I put effort into it. And even if it doesn't, everything happens for a reason," Sara concluded.

Setting goals in online therapy 

One of the common misperceptions about therapy is that you must have a serious mental illness or be in a state of crisis to seek therapy. However, therapy can be a helpful resource for working on an array of issues in your life, such as developing better communication and interpersonal skills, improving your self-esteem and self-acceptance, and learning to change self-defeating habits and behaviors. 

Whatever your goals are for therapy, online and in-person therapy have been shown to be equally effective for most patients. In one study of goal setting between patients and online therapists, it was found that when patients collaborated with their therapist to set goals, they were more likely to achieve them than those who set goals independently.  

Online therapy may offer unique benefits for people who have difficulties attending in-person sessions. For example, patients can attend online sessions from anywhere they have a stable internet connection and smart device. You can also choose to have conversations with your therapist via voice calls, video calls, or in-app messaging. This last option is available even between scheduled sessions, which can be helpful for checking in with your therapist about your weekly progress. 

Takeaway

Sara found a sense of self-confidence from her therapy sessions — she says she now knows that she can do anything, and she's seeing continued progress with her counselor. If you are curious about how therapy can support your mental health, self-confidence, and personal growth, consider reaching out to an online therapist through BetterHelp’s brief intake questionnaire.
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