The Truth About Why Do Bullies Bully
Everyone has heard of bullying by now and the horrifying results from it happening all over the world. What is a bully? A bully is someone who is physically or verbally abusive to someone else or has repeatedly shown hostility or aggression to control or manipulate someone. Over three million children are victims of bullying every year and 30% of adolescents from 12 to 18 years old say they have been bullied at school.
A report from the Center for Disease Control (CDC) found that one in three students are (suggestion: is) bullied in school annually. We have all seen the heart breaking consequences of bullying, which can be as simple as missing school or getting bad grades, to school shootings and suicide. But, where do bullies come from? Are they born that way?
Why Do Bullies Bully?
Is it possible that some people are just bullies from birth? This issue has been debated by experts and the media for many years and the majority of professionals believe that bullies are made and not born. In fact, most bullies are victims of bullies themselves. Over 60% of those who bully others, are either physically, mentally, or sexually abused by their parents or someone else in their household. Also, according to the American Psychological Association (APA), these behaviours are learned before the child turns five years old. If the natural aggression in toddlers is not handled as it should be, they learn that they can get what they want by being aggressive and it just gets worse from there.
Are You or Someone You Know Being Bullied?
If you are being bullied by someone, you have to tell someone. Whether you are a child or adult, bullies can be anywhere and they get worse as they get older if they have been getting away with it. Talk to a teacher or parent if you are a child. If you are an adult and the bullying is happening at work, talk to your human resources office or your boss. It is illegal to harass someone so if it continues you can contact the police department and they will help you.
Long-term Consequences of Bullying
The long-term results from being bullied can be devastating and debilitating. For example, children who are bullied at school often skip school, become withdrawn, and tend to be aggressive to their younger siblings or other relatives or friends. Over time, bullying can cause anxiety and severe depression. If you feel you are being bullied or someone you know may be experiencing it, you can talk to a professional online or by phone for more information and advice.
In fact, there are over 2,000 licensed therapists and counsellors on BetterHelp that are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and you do not even need an appointment. Also, if you would rather talk to someone in person, they will find a professional in your area that you can see. So, do not wait until something bad happens, talk to someone and get some help.