What To Do When Childhood Trauma Holds You Back

By: Sarah Fader

Updated August 04, 2020

Medically Reviewed By: Melinda Santa

Many people have not had ideal childhoods and have experienced traumatic events in their early life. If you've experienced childhood trauma or sexual abuse, you are not alone. Your psychological trauma is real, and your feelings are valid. There are helpful resources and tools for you to learn how to cope with your childhood trauma, and move forward toward a fulfilling and productive life.

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What Happens When You Don't Heal from Childhood Trauma?

According to the National Center for Mental Health Promotion and Youth Violence Prevention, 26% of children in the United States will either witness or be involved in a traumatic event or sexual abuse before they turn four-years-old. Many of us have experienced traumatic events as children that led to us experiencing long-term traumatic stress as adults. When children experience physical abuse and neglect, those situations are not only challenging but traumatic, it can be excruciating and hard to cope.

It's not easy to face the pain you experienced as a result of childhood trauma or sexual abuse, but it's necessary. If you've been avoiding your painful childhood memories, you may be experiencing nightmares or flashbacks as a result of unresolved traumatic stress. You might be having panic attacks as a result of your childhood trauma. You may be prone to episodes of depression because you can't seem to let go of the traumatic events that happened to you as a child.

You may be suffering from the effects of traumatic stress if memories of physical or sexual abuse or other childhood trauma types starts interfering with your everyday functioning; that's when you need to confront these issues. You may notice that you're lashing out at people in interpersonal relationships as a result of undiagnosed post-traumatic stress disorder and you don't know why. As you dig deeper, you discover that the wounds from childhood are still affecting you, and you're rehashing your psychological trauma as an adult.

Your childhood trauma wounds won't begin to heal until you can openly address the associated medical trauma related to unresolved issues with childhood physical or sexual abuse. You may feel shame or guilt because of what happened to you as a survivor of childhood domestic violence. These are natural feelings to have, but they won't help you get past the events.

For you to start healing from the wounds of childhood, you need to face your past and mitigate the effects of child traumatic stress. You don't have to do this alone there is help available at your local department of health via their mental health services division that manages responsible for behavioral health.

One of the best ways to start addressing psychological trauma from childhood is by going to therapy. When you work with a trauma specialist who understands the essence of positive psychology, whether that's online or in your local area (face to face meeting), you have a person who cares about what you've experienced. You can go with online therapy, if that's what with make you feel comfortable. Online therapists are experienced in counseling people who have experienced many types of childhood trauma. They want you to heal. Therapists provide trauma-informed care for recovering victims of child abuse and neglect. When you visit a therapist they will conduct a trauma assessment to determine if you're suffering from the effects of mental health related issues like post-traumatic stress disorder. Your therapist will discuss different options for therapy including options like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) that focus on healing by learning to recognize and eliminate damaging behaviors.

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BetterHelp Wants You to Heal from Your Past

At BetterHelp, the licensed online counselors have worked with people who have experienced childhood trauma and helped them work through their painful memories by providing trauma-informed care. After talking through the wounds of childhood abuse, clients have found it easier to live fulfilling lives.

If you prefer traditional, face-to-face therapy, speaking with a licensed mental health professional is an effective method for recovering from childhood trauma, in order to prevent later issues with substance abuse and mental health.

Unhealed psychological trauma can often turn into complex trauma without the benefit of mental health services intervention. In some cases, children and adolescents have experienced psychological trauma by witnessing a loved one's abuse. Even as a witness children are still susceptible to the effects of traumatic stress due to the social-emotional effects of vicarious abuse. Vicarious abuse occurs when a child can suffer similar effects as the victim by witnessing sexual abuse, physical abuse, and familial substance abuse. Children who grew up witnessing community violence like gang violence, violence between family members, or other group violence may exhibit the same symptoms of childhood abuse and neglect as if they had experienced the abuse directly.

According to the International Society for Traumatic Stress, early intervention is the key to protecting child welfare and to prevent instances of witnessing partner violence or sexual assault from affecting children later in life. A treatment assessment will likely indicate that treatment for vicarious trauma is necessary to mitigate the PTSD symptom of anxiety.

People who witness or experience high-levels of psychological trauma as children are prone to develop anxiety related disorders as adults.

In relation to the fight or flight approach. You didn't choose what happened to you, but you no longer have to run from the pain.  When you work with a counselor at BetterHelp, you are making a conscious decision to get help with your traumatic childhood and relief. You can talk about how your trauma is hurting you and stop letting it hold you back.

You might not realize how detrimental your traumatic childhood is until you enter online therapy. But once you do, your therapist can support you in doing the emotional work to heal. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors.

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Start by Understanding Childhood Trauma

There's a difference between having a bad childhood memory and experiencing psychological trauma. If you've witnessed partner violence, sexual assault, or other types of childhood trauma, completing a trauma assessment with trauma and mental health professional can give you an idea of how and where to start healing.

Not all negative experiences are traumatic. If you can understand what childhood trauma is, you may find out why you don't feel good and why you behave the way you do now. If you realize that you have none of the symptoms nor the background of real childhood trauma, understanding what it is can make you a more compassionate person.

Either way, the first step to understanding childhood trauma is to learn the definition. Learning about your family's past can also provide insight into understanding one's trauma.

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What Is Considered Childhood Trauma?

To be traumatic, an event not only has to be negative, but it also has to be painful. When children have experienced childhood trauma generally develop issues later in life as a result if left untreated. Trauma is so impactful that it is beyond your ability to cope in healthy ways. Continuing education and support is critical to healing all trauma types.

While traumas of all kinds fit this description, the most harmful are the traumas that are dealt out intentionally in interpersonal relationships. Childhood traumas include:

  • Physical abuse- When someone in authority over you hurts you in any tangible way, including cuts, bruises, scratches, burns, broken bones, or loss of consciousness. Physical injury is often the result of physical abuse, sexual abuse often leaves deep emotional scars when this type of, abuse occurs.
  • Emotional abuse- When the abuser intentionally causes injury to your dignity or psychological integrity. Some examples are threats, scapegoating, confining you to a closet or tying you to a chair, shaming, or forcing you to cause yourself pain.
  • Emotional neglect- If your abuser failed to nurture you or give you the affection you need and your memories of childhood may revolve around feeling left out, or not having your basic needs met. In cases of emotional neglect, child feels devalued and unloved which can have lasting effects through adulthood.
  • Sexual abuse- Childhood sexual assault has occurred if you were subjected to unwanted sexual touching or activity by a caregiver or other adult. Sexual assault usually happens with someone known or close to the family. (Children who have witnessed sexual abuse can also suffer vicarious trauma as a result.)
  • Physical neglect- If your caregiver failed to provide you with the physical resources you needed when you were growing up, this is considered physical neglect. Physical neglect can be unintentional as a side effect of partner violence. Children who witnessed close siblings, relatives, or friends being deprived of critical day-to-day needs such as food, clothing, or shelter may feel helpless and suffer vicarious trauma as a result.
  • Natural Disasters- Living through a natural disaster such as a fire, a flood, a tornado or hurricane, or even a drought can affect a child's trauma and mental health. However, if the adults in charge of you handled it well, the traumatic effects of it would be minimized.
  • Loss of Caregiver- When a child loses their parent or another caregiver, the effects can be devastating. (This is especially true if they've ended up in foster care as a result.) Even the youngest children feel the impact, though some adults assume they're too young to understand what has happened. While it's true they may not understand, it is this very inability to understand that causes them more trauma and distress.

Trauma does not discriminate and can happen to anyone. People can heal from childhood trauma by attending therapy and follow strict practice guidelines and treatment guidelines to see lasting results.

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How Childhood Trauma Affects Your Brain

Childhood may leave a mark on your body as well as your mind. When the trauma is severe and prolonged, it also affects the structure of the child's brain. During childhood, your brain is busy growing and developing. When trauma disrupts this process, the results can be profoundly damaging. Early childhood trauma can limit early brain development that can have life-long lasting effects on the child regardless of the trauma types that he or she has experienced.

Blocked Neural Pathways

Neurons make up the networks in the brain that link together to regulate your brain function. The earlier the childhood trauma happened, the more the brain's development is altered. The purpose of brain development is to enhance your ability to survive.

However, when you grow up in a traumatizing environment, your brain develops in a way to help you survive in that environment. The neural pathways that work in that dysfunctional environment become overdeveloped, while other pathways aren't as well-developed as they would generally be. Early childhood trauma disrupts the proper formation of these pathways, while trauma that happens later in life changes the way the pathways are refined.

Since the traumatizing environment is so different from most of the situations you'll face later in life; you may have problems adapting to those new situations. Some people can't cope outside of such an environment, so they end up seeking the same type of dysfunctional relationships that caused the trauma.

Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adults

The effects of childhood trauma on adults can be severe and far-reaching. Trauma in childhood can change your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and may negatively impact your physical health long after the trauma is over. And this may require a special attention from a trauma specialist who has sound knowledge in positive psychology

  1. Damage to the Self

One of the earliest tasks of childhood development is forming a healthy self-concept. Throughout your life, you think and behave about the self-concept you've established. When you experience childhood trauma, especially prolonged trauma, your self-concept is malformed and altered. Developing a more positive outlook and self-esteem can assist in altering your view of self. Learning positive affirmations as well as learning to love yourself through it all is important, and (along with other similar methods like cognitive-behavioral therapy) can actually alter your brain in a positive way.

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  1. Thinking of Yourself as a Victim

If you suffered childhood trauma due to a natural disaster or the loss of a parent or caregiver, it was probably hard for you to understand why that happened to you. As a child, you may have assumed that god or the universe was against you. You may have falsely learned that events that happened to you were some form of cosmic punishment.

Even more, if you were abused or neglected, you may have seen yourself only regarding that abuse or neglect. Your identity was formed in that victim role, and you may have a tough time thinking yourself as someone who has power over their own life.

  1. Passive-Aggressive Behavior

As a survivor of childhood trauma, you may have a lot of anger that you don't know how to handle. Typically, people with childhood trauma express their anger in passive-aggressive ways. They don't want to openly show their anger because they fear what would happen if they did. Instead, they strike out with sarcasm that they can later call a joke, or with intentional mistakes, they can then claim were innocent.

  1. Self-Abandonment (Being Passive)

One of the most harmful effects of childhood trauma is the total abandonment of the self. Rather than having an opinion, expressing a need, or telling people what they want, they hide these things in an attempt to keep the peace. Later, passivity becomes a long-standing pattern. You abandon yourself and accept whatever is given to you by the people in your life.

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Effects on Physical and Mental Health

Another way to look at the impact of childhood trauma on adults is the types of physical and mental problems people who have had those experiences tend to develop.

  1. Attachment Disorders

Children traumatized between the ages of 6 months and three years are prone to having trouble forming healthy attachments to others. Psychologists refer to the resulting disorder as reactive attachment disorder (RAD). RAD affects your ability to create adequate social relationships and affects your mood and behavior. You may have trouble trusting anyone.

  1. Poor Physical Health

When people have been traumatized early in life, they often have health problems later on that can be traced to the traumatizing events.

  1. Poor Emotional Regulation

Emotional regulation means the ability to recognize, name, and deal with feelings. After experiencing childhood trauma, you may have a hard time knowing, understanding, and managing your emotions.

  1. The Altered States of Consciousness

When childhood trauma happens, mainly if it goes on for a long time, children may easily fall into a dissociative state. Because they are children, people may not recognize these states as altered states of consciousness. Years later, these people may return to altered states of consciousness during stressful times.

  1. Lowered Cognitive Ability

When children are systematically abused or neglected, they may develop cognitive problems. Some examples are poor verbal skills, memory problems, problems focusing, or concentration, unable to create adequate cognitive skills or specific learning disabilities.

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  1. Inconsistent Self-Concept

People who suffered childhood trauma may have an inconsistent self-concept. They don't know how to interpret the thoughts and feelings they have about themselves or distinguish their thoughts and feelings from what others say about them. They may see themselves as competent with one group of people but utterly incompetent with others.

  1. Poor Behavioral Control

People who experience childhood trauma may become impulsive adults. They have a hard time controlling their behavior and tend to do what they feel at the present moment without thinking of the consequences they'll face later on.

Find out If You Suffered Childhood Trauma

If you're like most people, you know you had some unpleasant experiences in your childhood. Everybody does. The question is: Were my experiences truly traumatic? Another question you need the answer to is: Did I suffer traumas I don't remember now? Once you answer these questions for yourself, you can move on to healing childhood trauma and building a life you can enjoy. Do you notice any of the following symptoms in yourself? Survivors of childhood trauma may exhibit both physical and emotional symptoms. Physical symptoms include:

- Not making eye contact

- A chronic feeling of exhaustion

- Anxiety and panic attacks

- Shallow breathing

- Chronic back pain

- Hypervigilance

- Feeling unable to move or having little ability to sit still

- Bodily numbness

- Poor health

- Fainting or dizziness

- Dry mouth

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Emotional symptoms of having had childhood trauma include:

- Easily startled

- Trust issues

- Getting into the same type of relationship as the traumatizing one

- Changing yourself to suit your environment

- Being afraid people won't like you or will reject you

- Becoming dependent on others

- Feeling of powerlessness

- Feeling helpless and hopeless

- Taking too much or too little control

- Feeling inadequate

- Avoiding failure at the cost of abandoning your aspirations

Examine Your Childhood Memories

You may be able to remember things that happened to you as a child that you now know were abuse, neglect, or some other form of a traumatic event. It may help to try journaling as a way to get in touch with your childhood experiences and the feelings that accompanied them at the time. If you choose to start therapy, later on, these notes can help you get started.

Talk to Relatives

Adults who have suffered trauma as children may not remember accurate details of the traumatizing events. Or, they might have forgotten what happened altogether. If your past seems like a big question mark, talk to relatives you trust who can help by filling in the parts you don't remember. Although everyone has their perspective, a relative may be able to fill in the details you need to identify and understand the trauma.

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Take a Trauma Assessment

The Childhood Trauma Questionnaire is a tool that mental health professionals use to identify the types and severity of child abuse and neglect. The questionnaire has been studied thoroughly in scientific research projects and has proven highly effective. It's a self-report test, meaning that you answer questions about yourself, rating each response from "Never True" to "Very Often True."

ACES Study (Adverse Childhood Experiences). If you want to take a test at home, consider the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES) Test. Know your ACE score here and learn what it does and doesn't mean.

Talk to a Counselor

If your exploration reveals signs, symptoms, or details of childhood trauma, a counselor can help you find out if you did suffer a childhood trauma. Furthermore, they can help you deal with the feelings you have about it and teach you ways to overcome its effects on your life. Licensed counselors at BetterHelp.com can provide online therapy to help you evaluate and overcome childhood trauma.

Find Healing

A trauma specialist such as a therapist can listen to your story, help you discover how childhood trauma still affects you, and teach you new ways to think about what happened. You can also get help in support groups and by developing healthy relationships with family and friends. They can assist your effort in healing from trauma:

In Support Groups

Many people start trying to address childhood traumas in support groups. Being with people who have been through similar things can help you feel comfortable and healthier. If others in the group have already dealt with the problems caused by their trauma, they may provide information and resources to help you continue your journey to healing from trauma.

In Therapy

While support groups can be helpful, individual therapy gives you the chance to examine the specific trauma you experienced and learn to overcome it in ways that are best suited to you. Another reason to pursue a course of therapy for childhood trauma is that it allows you to interact with a professional who has the education, training, and experience that will help you most.

Healthy Relationships with Family and Friends

As your understanding grows and you begin to process, cope with, and move away from the problems that have held you back, you can learn to have healthier relationships with those close to you. Your therapist can support you as you learn better ways to interact with the people you want in your life. They can teach you to communicate more openly, directly, and effectively.

They can also teach you some stress management techniques that can make these encounters more comfortable for you. Then, with healthy relationships in place, you may have a stronger support system than ever before.

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Learn How to Move Beyond the Trauma

Moving beyond the effects of childhood trauma may mean that you have to change both your thoughts and behaviors. As you do, your feelings may change as well. Through all these changes, you may feel vulnerable in a way you haven't since you were a child. However, with the support of a mental health professional, you can make the changes that can improve your life dramatically.

If you know or suspect you suffered trauma during your childhood, get help as soon as possible. Counselors are available at BetterHelp.com, and you can sign up for online counseling in just a few minutes. The sooner you get the help you need, the sooner you can begin to heal and start the journey toward the healthy, happy life you deserve.

According to the International Society for Traumatic Stress, exposure to acute stress for extended periods of time can lead to a common PTSD symptom of exhaustion coupled with anxiety. Acute stress disorder is a common ailment for many people in the United States as they deal with the anticipation of new stressful events, while still in the process of recovering from recent stressful events that occurred.

It's critical that mental health professionals and abuse victims work together to comply with stringent mental health practice guidelines imparted by the mental health services administration. In an effort to support abuse prevention and education. Clients who are serious about healing childhood trauma should follow mental health treatment guidelines to increase the chances of success.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ's)

What is considered childhood trauma?

Childhood trauma is considered as any incident that negatively impacts a child's growth and development. According to the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, traumatic is the cause of childhood trauma as it relates to childhood abuse.

What are the effects of childhood trauma?

Effects of early childhood trauma include the development of acute stress disorder, complex trauma, other related mental health concerns, and higher rates of substance abuse, as reported by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. (SAMHSA)

Can childhood trauma affect you later in life?

Yes. Early childhood trauma can have effects that carry over into adulthood. Traumatic stress studies show some adults who have experienced early childhood trauma develop mental health issues like acute stress disorder as a result of traumatic stress and complex trauma.

Does childhood trauma ever go away?

Traumatic stress studies show that childhood trauma can be mitigated with a strategic plan and following strict treatment guidelines. Unfortunately, while the symptoms of childhood trauma or the complex trauma that can develop can be mitigated, they are rarely forgotten. Memories of childhood abuse can be with you for a lifetime.

Do I suffer from childhood trauma?

If you witnessed or were a victim of physical abuse, substance abuse, or other childhood abuse in early childhood, the likelihood that you suffer from issues with childhood trauma is very high. Speak with a mental health professional to request a diagnostic and assessment to learn the answer.

What are the long term effects of childhood trauma?

According to the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, children who have experienced or witnessed early childhood trauma, including domestic and partner violence, are likely to develop traumatic stress and PTSD symptoms as a result of witnessing early violence.

When childhood trauma goes untreated and unaddressed, it could lead to very unhealthy situations. It is highly unhealthy for your mental health when there's something that worries you, and you don't try procuring a solution. So many things can happen in the long run when there's a case of childhood trauma. For instance, it can cause chronic inflammation and permanent hormonal changes that may last a lifetime.

Moreover, it can further get worse by altering your DNA structure and cell replication. Just by holding on to childhood trauma, it may lead to further illnesses. Some examples are cancer, stroke, heart disease, and diabetes. Childhood trauma may further lead to dissociation. This is something often seen in children with histories of complex trauma.

When children witness or experience a certain event that they find overwhelming, they may choose to mentally separate or dissociate from the experience. Sometimes, they may feel as though they are detached from their bodies, and they are somewhere else, in reality, watching the entire experience. Some other long term effects are the reactions he may set off or the behavior he may have towards certain things. You may call his reactions or behavior a constant stress response.

How trauma in childhood affects the brain?

Witnessing or being a victim of abuse in early childhood can cause child trauma. The effects of acute stress on the brain may cause impairment or stalling of early brain development, according to the United States Department of Public Health.

How does childhood trauma affect mental health?

According to the United States Department of Public Health, being a party to, or witnessing community violence, domestic violence or other traumatic stressors can cause a child to develop stress-related disorders like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and anxiety.

How can childhood trauma affect development?

Early childhood physical abuse can affect the early brain development of young children. This delay in brain development may cause children to have issues later in life socially. Children who have experienced early childhood trauma may become abusive themselves, or continue to abuse themselves by succumbing to substance abuse.

How do you overcome childhood trauma?

To begin to recover from childhood trauma, you have to be committed to your own resilence and recovery. In other words, you have to believe you can. When treating trauma, you must adhere to strict therapy practice guidelines and develop a strategic plan with your therapist to learn how to cope with the lasting effects of childhood trauma.

What are the signs of trauma in a child?

According to the Department of Public Health, some of the signs child trauma in children and adolescents include lack of interest in activities, drastic changes in behavior, failure to make eye-contact, bedwetting, the development of mental health issues like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and any other behavior that seems out of character for your child.

Does childhood trauma affect memory?

Yes. Childhood trauma can affect memory and brain development as a child's brain is naturally wired to defend itself. A child who witnesses or experiences early physical abuse or substance abuse may have both emotional traumas that translates into medical trauma when a child experiences memory loss or blackouts.

What is childhood emotional trauma?

Childhood emotional trauma has occurred when a child experiences a painful event emotionally or physically. For example, a child who witnessed community violence, substance abuse, or physical abuse at an early age may develop an incorrect emotional perception that this is just how life is and become emotionally stunted in their development.

Can a 5-year-old remember a traumatic event?

There has been some debate about the age that we begin to remember traumatic experiences. Human beings begin to recall memories between the ages of 5 and 6 years old. If children are a witness to or victim of community violence at this age, they can remember the event and may experience medical trauma as a result. Children who have experienced trauma at early age should be connected with mental health services to prevent the emergence of substance abuse or physical abuse in adulthood.

What Therapy is Best for Childhood Trauma?

There are different forms of therapy that can be used effectively for the treatment of childhood trauma. One special form that may be considered as the best therapy for trauma treatment is Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).  Apparently, it's a unique way of dealing with childhood trauma. On several occasions, childhood trauma is caused by traumatic events involving domestic violence, abuse, or neglect, and it often results in symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, and anxiety.

Young people or children who have experienced a single occurrence or repeated episodes of psychological trauma by being violated or abused may be introduced to trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT), one of the forms of cognitive-behavioral therapy.

Trauma-focused cognitive behavior therapy is a form of trauma treatment for emotional and mental challenges faced by adolescents, adults, children, and families. TF-CBT may help younger children or children to overcome the outcomes of their past traumatic experience of violence, abuse, or grief with trauma symptoms of post-traumatic stress and mood swings

Another form of therapy is Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR). Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing refer to a special form of psychotherapy treatment to relieve traumatic memory distress. EMDR therapy helps people having problems with traumatic memories and other adverse life experiences. EMDR therapy, as a fairly-new type of psychotherapy, is used for the treatment of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

There are several ways to help overcome childhood trauma. Out of many ways, a very significant one is making use of therapy. There are also different types of therapy that are normally utilized in helping a person overcome this condition. However, Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is one of the best in treating childhood trauma or child traumatic stress.

 Please note that this therapy is different from others that are also used to treat trauma. Examples are pharmacotherapy, Eye Movement Desensitization, and Reprocessing (EDMR), hypnotherapy, behavioral therapy, good therapy, psychodynamic therapy, and cognitive-behavioral therapy. Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is an evidence-based treatment. This treatment is a sixteen to twenty session treatment for a model for a specific age range of children.

Normally, Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) concentrates more on children between the ages of 4-21. It also focuses on the caregivers that witnessed traumatic events and are facing severe symptoms associated with the exposure to the trauma. Please note that TF-CBT is a limited time solution and usually extends as much as 150 to 180 days (5 months to 6 months) on an average scale. This therapy involves both the caregiver and the child. Over time, through the treatment, the child develops a trauma narrative that helps them communicate in a supportive setting like a support group.

How Do You Know If You Have Childhood Trauma?

There are different trauma symptoms a child may show when suffering from past traumatic experience. When you're suffering from psychological trauma, you may show trauma symptoms such as increased heart rate, perspiration, feeling agitated, and upset emotionally. These are normal trauma symptoms that may last longer and affect your emotional and physical well-being.

Furthermore, you will know that you have childhood trauma the moment to have other trauma symptoms such as depressive symptoms, ongoing and intense emotional reactions, anxiety, problems at school, difficulties with concentration, mood swings, behavioral changes, nightmares, sleeping and eating disorders ( leading to weight loss or gain), and pains and aches. It's important to know that chronic trauma symptoms may lead to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Certain people notice a few things in their lives at one point or the other. Due to this, they may not be aware of its source. However, there are a few things that can make you know if you may have childhood trauma. Before going further, you must be self-convinced that knowing whether you had one may help. Childhood trauma is a very negative experience that affects the human brain to a certain extent, which is very unhealthy.

You may start by checking if you have had any of the symptoms of chronic depression and/or anxiety. Depression is a severe mood disorder that totally affects ones thinking and behavioral pattern. Lots of people express depression in various ways. It leads to low productivity and poor performance in daily tasks. It also ultimately affects relationships and negatively influences ones' health condition.

A few conditions that may worsen due to depression are arthritis, cardiovascular disease, obesity, and cancer. A symptom of childhood trauma also includes mood swings, a tendency to react abnormally, wrong beliefs about the world, problems trusting other people, and an inexplicable sense of isolation and loneliness. If you have any of these symptoms, you may attempt to contact a therapist, or you should go see someone that can help you with contacting one.

What are the 10 Adverse Childhood Experiences?

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) is a term coined by the Center for Disease Control’s research that expounds on the relationship between childhood trauma and adult health outcomes. From CDC research, it was shown that the brain and the central nervous systems of children are influenced by adverse childhood experiences. These adverse childhood experiences result in many life-threatening challenges, such as mental illnesses, chronic diseases, and violence.

It''s important to know that there are 10 ACEs measured by CDC's research. These include:

  • Physical abuse
  • Emotional neglect
  • Verbal abuse
  • Sexual abuse
  • Physical neglect
  • A family member who is depressed or diagnosed with other mental illness
  • A family member who is addicted to alcohol or another substance
  • A family member who is in prison
  • Witnessing a mother being abused
  • Losing a parent to separation, divorce or death

Childhood experiences are essential in building an individual. Negative childhood experiences have the ability to affect emotional intelligence and stability. Adverse childhood experiences come in different forms from the physical to mental abuse to neglect and dysfunction in the household. As far back as 1998, a ground-breaking study was published that deeply investigated the effect of ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences) on the mental and physical well-being of over 17,000 adults.

In the study, adults were offered a survey that asked them about ten types of ACES and if they had experienced it before the age of 18. The study exposes a direct correlation between ACES and future health compilations. They are divided into three major categories, which are abuse, childhood neglect, and household dysfunction.

The 10 ACES are physical, emotional, and sexual under abuse. Under neglect, they are physical and emotional. Lastly, under household dysfunction, they include mothers treated violently, divorce, incarcerated relatives, mental illness, and substance abuse. In order to help with any of these issues, you may consult a trauma expert or discuss it in a support group.

What Happens If Childhood Trauma is not Resolved?

It's important that you know that you can be at risk of future trauma if your childhood trauma stays unresolved. If you experienced trauma in your childhood due to traumatic events that overwhelmed your nervous system and caused traumatic stress, it's possible that such experience may make you vulnerable to severe and chronic conditions.

Unresolved childhood trauma is very unhealthy. Abuse or trauma can completely affect a child's development process, who the child trusts, and how that child sees life. Overcoming childhood trauma is not difficult. However, it also requires a bold step and immediate action. If steps are not taken early enough, it may lead to further issues or challenges with the child's relationship with other people and the child's general well-being sometimes till adulthood.

If you’re unable to recognize the symptoms, then you need to know that depression could be one of them. Asides depression, anxiety, fear, guilt, shame, self-blame, sadness, anger, mood swings, confusion, shock, disbelief, and difficulty concentrating are some emotional and psychological symptoms that may surface. Unresolved childhood trauma may affect one’s self-esteem and create anxiety.

It may also cause chronic inflammation and permanent hormonal changes. Moreover, it may affect the way the DNA reads and how cells replicate, ultimately increasing the possibility of having heart disease, diabetes, cancer, stroke, and Alzheimer's. It's vital to take immediate steps to resolve childhood trauma. One of the most helpful ways of overcoming childhood trauma is by going through therapy; then a support group may also help. You may contact BetterHelp to get help from a counselor.

How Do you Tell if you Have Repressed Trauma?

Several Individuals experienced some traumatic events and levels of stress at a certain point in their lives, which led to repressed memories. Repressed memories refer to memories that have been inhibited unconsciously because they have a connection with a high level of trauma or stress.

The nervous system can be affected by different traumatic events such as abuse, accident, loss of someone dearly loved, and war. These traumatic events are related to repressed memories. Repressed memories are like shields to protect someone from extreme emotions such as anxiety, aggression, and negative beliefs. You will know if you have repressed memories when you show the following trauma symptoms:

  • Depression: Depression is a sign that may show that you are affected by a repressed memory. From studies, several people (under therapy) with depression are found out to have repressed memories.
  • Sleep Disturbances: This is another indicator. If you are diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder, you may have sleeping disturbances because of stress and anxiety. Several people with post-traumatic stress disorder most times remembering their past experiences of trauma, which may affect them consciously or subconsciously.

Certain issues can be major causes of repressed trauma in children and adults. Usually, repressed trauma may be as a result of a childhood sexual abuse or childhood emotional abuse, or any other reason. According to Freud, memory repression is typically used as a defense mechanism among both children and adults in suppressing their feelings towards traumatic events.

Symptoms of trauma that could not be completely traced to its root cause were concluded to be from repressed memories of traumatic events. What happens is, you may be unable to remember what happened, but you feel it your body. So, you are certain to a particular extent that the event took place. If you want to be certain you have repressed trauma, you may need to see a trauma expert. However, there are some signs that may show a trace of abuse or trauma.

One of the most common symptoms is sleep issues, which include fatigue, nightmares, and insomnia. When you have trouble sleeping, it may be a major sign that shows a specific level of repressed trauma. The occasional feeling of doom is also another symptom that usually depicts repressed trauma. Other common symptoms are mood symptoms like anxiety, anger, and depression. One may also experience confusion or issues with memory and focus.

Why Can't I Remember my Childhood Memories?

There are different factors responsible for you facing difficulties remembering things from your childhood. Apparently, most people find it difficult to pick a specific scene from what they experience in their early days. The common term used for this condition is "Childhood amnesia," which centers on the fact that people have few memories of what they did before the age of seven. Childhood is still a phenomenon that researchers are still looking for ways to comprehend better.

The reasons why you find it difficult to remember your childhood memories may be related to some grounds, which include:

  • The hippocampus: This has to do with the belief system that the part of the human brain which holds power to store information is yet to be fully formed until the age of seven or above. So, technically, nothing serious is going in the brain with respect to creating and storing memories.
  • Language: The interdependent relationship between memory retention and language cannot be underemphasized. Spoken language is learned by children before the age of seven, and they are able to remember its use for the rest of their life. However, during this early stage, their memories were formed but not verbalized. And by time, they tend to lose them. "Memories formed without being verbalized are significantly less likely to be remembered."
  • False Memories: During the early stage of children, they will be introduced to several things, of which many are false and irrelevant for the future ahead. It's important to know that false memories don't stay for long.
  • Cultural Effects: The culture that children are exposed to within the immediate society can influence their memory. When an emotional attachment is added to memories, it makes them stronger and stays longer. Some cultures do not emphasize this, and this may result in childhood amnesia.

Childhood memories hold both positive experiences or negative experiences. Unfortunately, some have a higher percentage of negative experiences that anyone may wish to subdue. These negative experiences are typically called the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE). These are divided into three main categories based on the experience.

One of the categories is abuse, which includes physical abuse, emotional abuse, and sexual abuse. Another main category of the ACEs is neglect, which consists of physical and emotional neglect. Household dysfunction is another major category that includes mental illness, mother treated violently, divorce, incarcerated relative, and substance abuse.

There are some other environmental and societal ACEs, which include bullying, racism, and community violence. Childhood memories have lots of peculiar qualities. Most people have no memory of what happened before three years of age, and they only have a few memories between three and six years of age.

A major reason why a person may be unable to remember his or her childhood memories could be as a result of brain development. In some cases, it could also involve brain trauma or degeneration. A few other reasons are the suppression of the memory due to extreme stress. In some rare cases, it may be due to infantile amnesia or just the inability to remember early childhood memories.

Can you Have PTSD from Childhood?

Post-traumatic Stress Disorder is a mental health disorder that has no age restrictions. It can affect children, younger children, young adults, and older adults. In children, PTSD may be responsible for scary thoughts and traumatic memories.

Post-traumatic stress disorder in children may sometimes turn to a chronic problem with alongside other mental health challenges such as depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. PTSD in children is mostly caused by traumatic events such as accident, violence, abuse, and neglect. These traumatic events may overwhelm their nervous system which may lead to trauma, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), and anxiety symptoms such as feelings of emotional distress, nightmares, depressive disorder, sleeping problems, nervousness, loss of interest in what they once found pleasurable, aggression, trouble focusing, problems in school, aches, and pains, and so on.

PTSD means Post-traumatic stress disorder. It's a mental health condition that comes up due to a certain event either by experiencing it or witnessing it. If you have PTSD, you should notice certain psychological and physical symptoms such as nightmares, severe anxiety, flashbacks, and very uncontrollable thoughts about the entire event. Other times you may notice intense feelings of distress at points where you remember the event.

Post-traumatic stress disorder affects children as much as it affects adults. In children, they may notice symptoms such as unwanted memories about the event which occurred, nightmares, headache, and fear when reminded of the event. In children, PTSD may occur due to childhood adversity. Child adversity is a term that primarily defines a range of circumstances or events that pose a threat to the physical and emotional well-being of a child.

When a child has issues with PTSD, he may need to be taught to identify his feelings of fear, manage his anxiety with relaxation techniques and other helpful practices, talk through the event and understand buried feelings. Psychotherapy advises children to also think about the event in certain ways that do not pose self-blame or guilt.

Lastly, the child may have to restore his or her trust in other people and hope for a great future. EDMR therapy is sometimes used to treat childhood trauma. It involves movement desensitization and reprocessing, just as the name means in full. Desensitization and Reprocessing EMDR helps effectively treat issues of anxiety, depression, or panic disorders.

Can childhood trauma be overcome?

Childhood trauma typically happens when a child experiences depressing or overwhelming bad experiences in childhood. Several experiences can overwhelm a child for a very long time. Sometimes, this trauma builds up in relationships, maybe between parents that exhibit abuse, violence, or neglect. So many things could happen when traumatic experiences are not appropriately treated.

However, early childhood trauma occurs can overwhelm a child if the child chooses not to share. Fortunately, childhood trauma can be overcome to a certain extent, but it usually takes a while. It's typically advised that to get over childhood trauma, you may need to take certain vital steps. Usually, people advise that you take some time out for yourself or undergo therapy. It's a good idea to undergo neurofeedback for quick (immediate) results.

Neurofeedback is one of the most effective ways to face childhood trauma and know more about how your brain functions. During the process of neurofeedback, electrodes are connected to the person's head to show instantaneous brain activity. Asides the medical processes, you may need to forgive to be able to move on. EMDR therapy is also another helpful way to overcome childhood trauma. In the session, you will watch the light move from left to right at a particular speed. These eye movements are proven to help put your brain in a state where you can face traumatic events much easier.

How do I stop thinking about childhood trauma?

Childhood trauma may seem difficult to get out of your mind. There are certain things that may, however, help get over childhood trauma. Sometimes, adult life events that took place in previous years may still have a certain effect on you. It may also affect the way you view certain things in life. Study shows that children who have witnessed trauma one way or the other have issues identifying, managing, and expressing emotions.

Moreover, they also internalize or externalize stress reactions, which may lead to anxiety, anger, or depression. Over time, childhood trauma has a way of affecting attachments and relationships. For instance, when children figure out a relationship is unstable, they are unable to trust others. So, when someone abuses a child, he or she concludes that the person and the world as a whole cannot be trusted.

Sometimes, they may also feel that the world in itself is a horrible place. Fortunately, there are helpful ways or techniques to stop thinking about childhood trauma. You may need to consider neurofeedback for immediate results. They help people face trauma and know a lot more about the functioning of emotions and the brain as a whole. In addition, EMDR therapy also help.


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