Finding The Right Anger Management Therapist
By Sarah Fader
Updated August 13, 2019
Reviewer Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC
Anger is a normal human emotion; everyone has experienced it. An anger response can be anything from a slight irritation to complete rage. This emotion can get out of control for some people, and when it does, it can ruin relationships and cause enormous problems. Finding the right anger management therapist can help you control your anger.
Anger itself has two components, emotional and physiological. It is a powerful emotion that triggers many changes in body chemistry. The physiological arousal causes the heart rate to increase, raises blood pressure, and triggers the release of adrenaline and noradrenaline. If you experience out of control anger, it is important to find the right anger management therapist because out of control anger is not healthy for the body or mind.
What Causes Anger?
Anger is a response to internal and external stimuli. The intensity of the response varies depending on the event that triggered it. Thoughts, memories, and past trauma are common internal stimuli. Thinking about people, places, and events that have caused anger in the past can very easily trigger the emotion in the present. External stimuli such as problems at work or your car breaking down on a busy street can also trigger anger. Anger itself is not the problem. The problem is the exaggerated response.
This emotion is part of our autonomic nervous system and it has evolved over the millennia to aid in our survival. Anger itself helps us deal with threats as it provides us with the physiological and emotional response required to counter threats to our survival. Anger becomes a problem when an aggressive response is not necessary. Not all triggers that aggravate or annoy us require an aggressive response.
Techniques for Controlling Anger
People learn to deal with anger in different ways, some ways are constructive and other cause more problems. It is not enough to ignore anger and hold it in; this will only make you sick by causing health problems such as high blood pressure. Some people learn to control their immediate response to anger by expressing it in passive aggressive ways. This only damages relationships both personal and professional.
One technique that can help you control anger is to focus on breathing to lower your heart rate and blood pressure. This is only one technique, but if you can lower your heart rate and blood pressure, your outward expression of anger will be easier to control.
There is no perfect way to control anger, but there are techniques that can help you control this powerful emotion before it controls you. An anger management therapist will do more than provide you with techniques for managing your anger. They will also provide information and work with you to help you understand your specific triggers.
Finding the Right Anger Management Therapist
The right anger management therapist for you will provide you with more than breathing techniques. The right therapist is the one you find easy to talk to; an individual with whom you can begin a therapeutic relationship with. A therapeutic relationship is one where trust and mutual respect make it easy for you to benefit from the therapy offered.
Take your time when searching for the right anger management therapist. It is important that you feel comfortable and relaxed. When you feel comfortable with someone, you are more likely to be open and receptive. Finding the right anger management therapist is the beginning of a beneficial relationship, so take your time and when it feels right, you will know.