Finding The Right Anger Management Therapist

By Jessica Anderson|Updated April 20, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC

Intense Anger? An Anger Management Therapist Understands How You’re Feeling


Anger is a normal human emotion; everyone has experienced it, and it can actually be healthy. An anger response can be anything from a slight irritation to complete rage. This emotion can get out of control for some people, and when it does, it can ruin relationships and cause enormous problems. Finding the right anger management therapist can help you control your anger and live a life with fulfilling relationships.

Anger itself has two components: emotional and physiological. It is a powerful emotion that triggers many changes in body chemistry. The physiological arousal causes the heart rate to increase, raises blood pressure, and triggers the release of adrenaline and noradrenaline. If you experience out-of-control anger, it is important to seek help froma qualified anger management therapist.Unmanaged anger is not healthy for the body or mind.

What Causes Anger?

Anger is an emotion that has evolved over the years to aid in our survival. It helps us deal with threats by providing the bodily and emotional responses required to confront dangerous situations and ensure our survival.

The intensity of the anger response varies depending on the individual and on the event that triggered it. Thoughts, memories, and past trauma are common internal triggers. In fact, thinking about people, places, and events that caused anger in the past can easily trigger the emotion in the present. Chronic external stimuli, such as difficulties at work, or a single stressful event, like your car breaking down on a busy street, can also trigger anger.


Anger becomes a problem when an aggressive response is not necessary in the situation. If you experience out-of-control anger over a trivial matter, it's important to find the right anger management therapist to help you learn about and manage your anger. Out-of-control anger is not healthy for your body, your mind, or the people around you.

Finding The Right Anger Management Therapist

Finding the right anger management therapist can help you get the treatment that is right for you. If anger is taking a toll on your life, you deserve to receive the right help from the right person, so you can find a way back to a healthier emotional state.

While you're in the process of seeking and obtaining professional help, you may also want to consider at-home anger management techniques. For example, when you begin to feel angry, take a few deep breaths, and slowly count to ten; do not react to the situation at hand until after you have allowed yourself to slow down first. When you take time to relax physically before responding, your anger levels may lessen significantly. Deep breathing also lowers your heart rate and blood pressure, which are two physical symptoms of the emotion.

Other at-home methods that can help lessen anger include getting adequate rest and engaging in regular exercise routines. When you feel better physically, you can more easily manage your emotions and your reactions.

Help With Triggers And Self-Awareness

A good anger management therapist can also do more than provide you with techniques for managing your anger. They will work with you to help you understand your specific triggers, and they'll get to the root of the problem—the sources of your anger—instead of only addressing it on a surface level. When you find the right anger management therapist, the challenges you face with this emotion can be addressed and lessened.

A therapist can also help you examine your life experiences, past and present, so that you can understand your anger more clearly. If you experience explosive anger toward other people or external events, it may be compounded afterward by feelings of regret or shame. Working through your deeper emotional self with the help of a caring, licensed professional can bring greater self-awareness and help you to unburden yourself.

Intense Anger? An Anger Management Therapist Understands How You’re Feeling


Impulse Control

Your therapist should also be able to help you with impulse control. Remember that anger is a natural human emotional response that can be useful and even healthy, depending on the situation.You can, however, work to eliminate negative, inappropriate, or extreme reactions to feeling angry. Practicing and implementing impulse control with the help of a therapist can help you manage anger outbursts, so that emotion will have less of an impact on your life.

Various Techniques

Talk therapy may be the best way for some people to develop anger management skills, but it may not be the most effective treatment for everyone. Some people may need something more in depth, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This approach helps people make specific changes in their lives by focusing on current situations and personal beliefs. Another method is Psychodynamic Therapy. This tool uses self-reflection to find the root causes of the problem you're experiencing. In addition, Family Therapy can help those who have allowed their anger to affect the people closest to them. No matter what type of therapy you need, the right therapist will be able to help you determine the best path forward, and then they'll guide you down the road to improvement.

Consider Other Approaches To Therapy

Just as a trainer at a gym can coach you through using exercise machines safely, a therapist can coach you through managing your anger safely, in ways that will keep you mentally and physically healthier over time. The American Psychological Association has noted that excessive anger can lead to numerous negative health outcomes over time: neurological functioning, cardiovascular health, memory loss, immune system functioning, digestive problems, and more.

You might wonder if therapy is truly the best solution to managing your anger. You also might feel embarrassed or self-conscious about pursuing therapy for anger. However, you deserve to be able to feel in control of your life and your responses to situations; if anger is keeping you from feeling in control, then a licensed therapist can help. Therapy is often instrumental in helping individuals learn to manage their anger, and online therapy offered by BetterHelp can be a flexible, effective mental healthcare solution.

Online therapy can be arranged around your life; with no need for transportation to an appointment, you can save time and hassle. The discretion of online therapy also means that you don’t need to share your mental healthcare plans with anyone, and you can choose the channel of communications that fit you the best—video chats, phone calls, emails, or even text messages.These reviews from BetterHelp users also show what makes online therapy different when dealing with anger.

Counselor Reviews

"I'm generally not a negative person but I'm very self aware that I have vast mood swings of anger and pessimism and I get that from my dad. I chose Douglas because he counsels using cognitive behavioral therapy and anger management - which is the kind of therapy I need. Douglas comes up with clear solutions and I appreciate that. I didn't want a therapist to tell me to talk about my day and how does that make me feel and that it's normal to have these feelings. I know it is normal to feel angry sometimes, but I wanted to understand how to recognize it and address it. So if you need constructive conversation with fast results for everyday annoyances and (especially effective child rearing advice!) I think Douglas is your therapist."

"Steve is amazing and does a good job at making this seem like less of a counseling session and more of a conversation between friends. He helped me talk through my anger issues and road rage and gave me lots of problem solving tools. I highly recommend him!"


Anger can be a difficult emotion to manage, but remember that help is available. With support from the right anger management therapist, you can move forward toward a healthier, happier life. Take the first step today.

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