Finding The Right Anger Management Therapist
Updated November 08, 2019
Reviewer Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC
Anger is a normal human emotion; everyone has experienced it. An anger response can be anything from a slight irritation to complete rage. This emotion can get out of control for some people, and when it does, it can ruin relationships and cause enormous problems. Finding the right anger management therapist can help you control your anger and live a life with fulfilling relationships.
Anger itself has two components, emotional and physiological. It is a powerful emotion that triggers many changes in body chemistry. The physiological arousal causes the heart rate to increase, raises blood pressure, and triggers the release of adrenaline and noradrenaline. If you experience out of control anger, it is important to find the right anger management therapist because out of control anger is not healthy for the body or mind.
What Causes Anger?
Anger is an emotion that has evolved over the years to aid in our survival. It helps us deal with threats by providing the bodily and emotional responses required to confront dangerous situations and ensure our survival. Anger itself has two components, emotional and physical. It's a powerful emotion that triggers changes in our bodies, such as increased heart rate, blood pressure spikes, and the release of the hormones adrenaline and noradrenaline.
The intensity of the angry response varies depending on the event that triggered it. Thoughts, memories, and past trauma are common internal triggers. In fact, thinking about people, places, and events that caused anger in the past can very easily trigger the emotion in the present. External stimuli such as difficulties at work or a stressful event like your car breaking down on a busy street can also trigger anger.
Anger becomes a problem when an aggressive response is not necessary in the situation. The truth is that not all events require this type of response. If you experience out-of-control anger over a trivial matter, it's important to find the right anger management therapist to help you learn about and manage your anger. Out-of-control anger is not healthy for your body, your mind, or the people around you.
Finding The Right Anger Management Therapist
Finding the right anger management therapist is important because it ensures that you will get the treatment you need. When anger starts to take a toll on life, you want to make sure you seek help from the right person, so you can find a way back to a healthier emotional state as soon as possible.
While you're in the process of seeking and obtaining professional help, you may want to consider some at-home anger management techniques. For example, when you begin to feel angry, take a few deep breaths, and slowly count to ten. Do not react to the situation at hand until after you have done this. When you take time to relax before responding, your anger levels may lessen significantly. Deep breathing also lowers your heart rate and blood pressure, which are two physical symptoms of the emotion. Other at-home methods that can help lessen anger include getting adequate rest and engaging in regular exercise routines. When you feel better physically, you can more easily manage your emotions and your reactions.
Help With Triggers
A great anger management therapist should also do more than provide you with techniques for managing your anger. They will work with you to help you understand your specific triggers, and they'll get to the root of the problem instead of addressing it on a surface level. When you find the right anger management therapist, the challenges you face with this emotion can be eliminated quickly and completely.
The best therapist will not only look at your emotional reaction to a situation, but they will also help you to examine how you got into that situation in the first place. In other words, they'll help you to examine your life. With their support and guidance, you'll understand the source of your anger, whether it's coming from places of deep hurt and fear or simply from unnecessary reactions to everyday events.
Finally, your therapist should also help you with impulse control. It can be difficult to eliminate anger completely because it's a natural human response. (In some cases, it's even healthy.) You can, however, eliminate the negative or extreme reactions that you're having when you feel angry. Impulse control can help you manage your anger outbursts, so the emotion will have less of a hold on your life.
Talk therapy may be the best way for some people to develop anger management skills, but it may not be the most effective treatment for everyone. Some people may need something more in depth, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This approach helps people make specific changes in their lives by focusing on current situations and personal beliefs. Another method is Psychodynamic Therapy. This tool uses self-reflection to find the root causes of the problem you're experiencing. In addition, Family Therapy can help those who have allowed their anger to affect the people closest to them. No matter what type of therapy you need, the right therapist will be able to help you determine the best path forward, and then they'll guide you down the road to improvement.
Consider Unconventional Therapy
Sometimes the hardest part about therapy is simply getting to the appointment. It's extremely beneficial once you get there, but it can be hard to get out of the house or the office. Sometimes busy schedules can affect your ability to meet with someone in person as well. Or maybe you find the idea of meeting face-to-face too stressful right now. If you relate to any of these challenges, consider talking to a therapist at BetterHelp today. BetterHelp counselors are available online. You can access them from anywhere at any time, so you can get the support you deserve while you learn to manage your anger. Read the reviews of BetterHelp counselors below to learn more, from people experiencing similar issues.
"I'm generally not a negative person but I'm very self aware that I have vast mood swings of anger and pessimism and I get that from my dad. I chose Douglas because he counsels using cognitive behavioral therapy and anger management - which is the kind of therapy I need. Douglas comes up with clear solutions and I appreciate that. I didn't want a therapist to tell me to talk about my day and how does that make me feel and that it's normal to have these feelings. I know it is normal to feel angry sometimes, but I wanted to understand how to recognize it and address it. So if you need constructive conversation with fast results for everyday annoyances and (especially effective child rearing advice!) I think Douglas is your therapist."
"Steve is amazing and does a good job at making this seem like less of a counseling session and more of a conversation between friends. He helped me talk through my anger issues and road rage and gave me lots of problem solving tools. I highly recommend him!"
Anger can be a difficult emotion to manage. Luckily, help is available to you. With support from the right anger management therapist, you can move forward toward a healthier, happier life. Take the first step today.