Motivational Interviewing - What Is It And How Can It Change Your Life?

Updated September 30, 2022 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

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Most of us have aspects of our lives that we might like to make changes to. This may bring about negative feelings at times, but it's normal. It's part of our process of creating happy and healthy lives for ourselves while figuring out who we are and how to stay true to that while growing. You may want to become better at managing money, or you may hope to take steps to overall living a healthier life. Perhaps you are struggling with a larger challenge that you would like to change. You may have a serious health condition, such as diabetes or high blood pressure that needs managing. Or perhaps you deal with substance use or anxiety and are seeking to manage and overcome those things.

Wondering If Motivational Interviewing Can Change Your Life?

Whether you are looking to make a small change or completely turn your life around, motivational interviewing (MI) may help set you on the right path even when other counseling techniques have failed or aren’t right for you.

What Is Motivational Interviewing?

As its name implies, motivational interviewing helps those struggling to find the motivation to make important changes in their lives. Motivational interviewing was first described by William R. Miller in Behavioral Psychology in 1983 as a method of therapy for problem drinkers. The theory and practice of MI have evolved over the preceding decades, and is now widely used in behavioural and cognitive psychotherapy for treating a wide variety of conditions. If you believe this method could be a good fit for you, continue reading. You may be able to join the many people who have changed their lives through the use of this therapy tool.

An article in the Annual Review of Clinical Psychology describes motivational interviewing as a “client-centered, directive therapeutic style to enhance readiness for change by helping clients explore and resolve ambivalence.” In essence, MI is a short-term therapy technique used by counselors to help clients find the internal motivation for change through empathy with the client's situation, acknowledgment of how difficult making a life change is, and through client-oriented goal setting. The counselor helps the client identify whether their current actions are taking them closer to or farther away from their stated goals. Essentially, a counselor leads a client to see how negative behavior is deterring desired outcomes without creating tension or confrontation.

The Spirit Of Motivational Interviewing

Many scholarly articles about MI focus on its underlying spirit. This is not a prescription for how to practice MI per se, but rather it's a frame of mind in which a counselor should approach motivational interviewing.

This spirit focuses on:

  • Letting the client take the lead - An individual may be at the beginning of the stages of change and not yet willing to consider changing their behavior. Motivational interviewing is not about coercing, convincing, tricking, or persuading a person to change their behavior. In fact, it is quite the opposite. In motivational interviewing, the counselor is not there to list the reasons why an individual should want to change. it is the counselor's job to help the client explore their resistance to change. The client should be led to articulate the possible costs and benefits of changing on their own.
  • Creating a conflict-free environment - The counselor should focus on building a relationship with the client through active listening and empathy, understanding, and respect for the client's ideas, thoughts and feelings. There is no need for the counselor to confront the client about denial or to push the client toward a certain path. As the spirit of motivational interviewing honors client autonomy, the counselor should instead ask questions to help lead the client to his or her own conclusions.
  • Developing a collaborative environment - Miller specifically warns against the temptation to see MI as a set of techniques to "use on" people. Rather, the counselor should aim to build a collaborative relationship with trust and a mutual understanding that life change is challenging and not always perfect.

Motivational Interviewing Principles

As stated above, motivational interviewing isn't a simple list of techniques. There are, however, recommended principles and strategies to help a counselor follow the spirit of MI.

Express Empathy - Miller states that "[t]he counselor's accurate understanding of the client's experience facilitates change." He encourages counselors to practice empathy by putting themselves in their client's shoes and by trying to truly understand where the client is coming from. Afterward comes the expression of that empathy through reflective listening.

Support Self-Efficacy - MI asserts that there are as many ways to change as there are problems and clients. Counselors should hold clients responsible for their choices and remind them that if one plan does not work, they are limited only by their creativity to find another. Clients must believe that change is possible, as well as be willing to try various options while working to change their life.

Roll With Resistance - In the spirit of reducing conflict, counselors should not fight against a client's resistance, but rather lean into it. This may not feel like the typical client/counselor relationship. Instead, the counselor simply acknowledges a client's resistance and allows the client to find their own solutions to the perceived problems.

Develop Discrepancy - Ambivalence, or having mixed or contradictory ideas and feelings about something is at the core of MI. Counselors can identify change talk (statements that indicate a client’s desire to change), help clients to expand on these ideas and increase their level of commitment to change.

Motivational Interviewing Strategies

Below are a few of the proven strategies used by counselors who practice successful motivational interviewing:

  • Open-ended questions - Questions should require more than a "yes" or "no" answer. For example, "What brings you here today?", "Why do you think you feel this way?", or "How have you been able to stay sober in the past?" Through asking open questions, a counselor can draw out a client's thoughts and motivations, and help them to explore mixed feelings around changing a certain behavior.
  • Affirmations - Sincere affirmations can help build strong relationships between counselors and clients. Focusing on a client’s strengths and past successes can help an individual to build confidence in their ability to change.
  • Reflective listening - This is a technique where the counselor repeats back the key points they have heard, to both check and deepen their understanding of the client's thoughts and feelings. A counselor may reflect, question, or summarize what they have heard from the client.

Wondering If Motivational Interviewing Can Change Your Life?

What Conditions Can Motivational Interviewing Treat?

Motivational interviewing has proven to be particularly effective for substance overuse disorders. Often those with addictive tendencies have a difficult time correlating in-the-moment decision making, such as getting high or having a drink, with long-term consequences, such as losing custody of children or poor long term health. MI helps lead a client to see these conflicting goals and actions and allows them to create a self-directed plan for change.

Other challenges that motivational interviewing has been shown to be particularly helpful with include:

  • Weight loss
  • Smoking
  • Gambling
  • Medication adherence
  • Hoarding

Who Does Motivational Interviewing Work Best For?

Motivational interviewing can vary in effectiveness depending on the person and their particular needs. Because MI is specifically non-confrontational, it can work well for clients who struggle with anger or low self-esteem. Motivational interviewing also works well for those who are having trouble finding the motivation to begin their journey toward change. It is believed that the nature of motivational interviewing, which meets clients exactly where they are at, can facilitate treatment adherence.

How BetterHelp Can Help

If motivational interviewing seems like a tool that would bring about positive change in your life, consider reaching out to a licensed therapist today. If you've got a busy schedule or want to avoid an additional commute to a therapist's office, consider using an online platform like BetterHelp.

Online therapy has been found to be just as effective overall as in-person therapy in treating a broad range of conditions and concerns, from depression to PTSD to substance overuse and addiction to relationship issues (and much more). In fact, an in-depth study collaborated by multiple universities worldwide reviews 373 studies of the effectiveness of online therapy, and found it to not only be just as effective as in-person therapy, but also more effective in that it removes many of the barriers in place with conventional therapy. These include things like privacy issues, negative stigma, cost, as well as timing issues and location.

Speaking of the latter, BetterHelp tends to be more affordable that traditional therapy, as you don’t have to commute or secure transportation to and from sessions, and our therapists don’t have to pay to rent out office space (meaning their rates can stay lower). Additionally, the remote nature of our platform enables sessions to be held via phone call, video chat, live voice recordings sent back and forth, or instant messaging/texting, and these can be held anytime and anywhere that works best for you – including the comfort of your own home! You’ll just need an internet connection to get started.

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Motivational interviewing has made a difference in the lives of many. It's a gentle, yet effective, therapy approach that brings about positive changes in the lives of people who use it. If MI seems like something that would benefit your life, reach out to a counselor today. You can move forward, accomplish your goals, and live a happy and healthy life no matter how many times you've set out and failed before. With the correct tools, you can achieve anything you set your mind to. Take the first step today.

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