When talking about success, motivational speakers mention hard work, ambition, and passion.
The person talking might be in decent shape, have a full head of hair, is well dressed, and perhaps has perfectly straight, white teeth and nice skin. They likely exude confidence and probably attract almost everyone that they encounter. The speaker probably doesn't mention that sometimes attractive people are more successful.
According to a Business Insider Article from 2012, those who are good looking get hired sooner, get promoted quicker, and make more money than their below-average looking coworkers.
Professor Dario Maestripieri of the University of Chicago developed a principle called "The pleasure of dealing with good-looking people." This principle says that people who are good looking are more successful because of their sex appeal. A good-looking, charming car salesman will have a better chance of selling a woman a car than his coworker who has an annoying personality. According to this theory, the woman believes that buying the car from the good-looking salesperson will increase her chance of having sex with him. The same can be said of men who go to a gym looking for a personal trainer. They are more likely to hire a woman trainer who is beautiful.
Researchers are quick to point out, however, that it is not just the physical sex appeal that makes good-looking people more successful. Attractive people are more successful because they often possess personality traits that are desirable to employers, such as being confident, healthy, detailed, and deliberate.
In a study completed by the University of Houston and researchers from Rice University, the control group was attractive individuals. The experimental group was comprised of people who had facial disfigurements, scars, or birthmarks on their faces. Each group was interviewed for a job opening. Interviewers rated people with facial disfigurements lower than those who did not.
Less information was remembered about candidates who interviewers didn’t consider good-looking, which left negative impacts on their overall scores. The interviewers spent more time stigmatizing a candidate's facial features than listen to the information being told to them.
First impressions occur within the first few seconds of meeting someone, and that impression is most often based on a person's physical appearance. Substantial evidence indicates that people who are good-looking have an easier time in society. Society perceives beautiful people as happier, more successful, wealthier, healthier, and more intelligent.
People tend to attribute positive qualities to attractive people, which in turn can cause more average-looking people to treat attractive people better. In many cases, the more beautiful someone is, the higher the pedestal they are placed. In school, the traditionally pretty kids are usually the most popular; they are also called on more in class and often receive more lenient consequences for bad behavior than their peers.
Someone's level of physical attraction determines whether they are liked, trusted, or deemed a worthy mate. But isn’t beauty in the eye of the beholder? While people may vary in their looks and what attracts personally, some features were deemed by The British National Child Development Study as more favorable than others.
In the United States, less than 15% of men are over 6-feet tall, but 58% of Fortune 500 companies are led by CEOs who are over 6 foot tall. Studies by the University of Florida showed that tall men earn more money than their shorter co-workers. After more than 30 years of study these researchers concluded that humans are hardwired to favor more attractive people.
Attractive individuals also tend to be more talented, kinder, more trustworthy, and more intelligent than others. This could be because good-looking people receive more help and more chances than their peers.
Humans want to be liked and accepted by those they believe are better than they are, so when a beautiful person needs help, they are more likely to get it. The Rice University study also showed that subordinates favored attractive bosses and viewed them as more competent and better managers than bosses who were not.
Most people are not born with perfectly symmetrical faces, naturally good physique, or a charming personality. Not everyone gets the attractive genes each parent has to offer. Luckily, there are many things that you can do to make yourself feel more confident in your own skin and convey to others that you are confident in who you are.
No matter what physical traits you are born with, whether you are blessed to be a Greek God or a Fred Flintstone, there are many ways to make yourself more attractive and appealing to potential partners and employers. Boosting self-esteem is one way to achieve this. If you’re not sure where to start, consider chatting with a mental health professional.
Research shows that there is a link between self-esteem and our relationships. A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, for example, found that high self-esteem enhances the quality of our relationships, and good relationships boost our self-esteem, regardless of how attractive you think you are.
By working with a licensed counselor, you help increase your self-esteem and learn strategies to be more confident that others will love you as much as you love yourself! Consider exploring online therapy, which research shows is an effective option with many added benefits. For example, this study, conducted by Brigham Young University researchers, found that technology-based therapy is as effective as traditional face-to-face therapy, with the potential to be delivered at a lower cost and with more convenience.
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