Why Do I Hate People So Much?
By Sarah Fader
Updated December 06, 2018
Reviewer Christy B.
If you have ever found yourself wishing you could just walk out of your job, work from home, or become a recluse, you may be experiencing "people burn out." Most of us work in offices or environments where team collaboration is the norm, and even if we are cloistered in our cubicles and on our computers or phones most of the day, we are still dealing with clients and co-workers. When we finish the day and leave, we deal with people in the parking garage, on the drive home, and in the grocery store when we stop to pick up ingredients for dinner. Sometimes we feel like we hate people.
You Deserve a People Break Today
Taking a people break is essential to our mental health, but often an impossible task. When we're home, we're often with people, even if it's our family members. While we hopefully do not hate our family, they are still people we must deal with before we can begin to take care of ourselves. After a long week at work, the last thing we wish to do is deal with is more people, but then there is a party or gathering, which we are invited to, and expected to go. We have had it up to our necks with people, and the idea of more people, even friends, causes us to feel stressed.
It's impossible for most of us to take a break from people during the workday. We find that even our lunchtime is filled with people. Maybe it's time to find a place that is people-free for your lunch hour. Instead of taking lunch in the break room or the usual sandwich shop with people in it, take it outside, or if you can sit at your desk without getting on the phone or computer and take lunch there. Eat your lunch in blissful silence, put your feet up, and close your eyes for a 10-minute power nap. Sometimes a simple lunch break away from people can recharge your battery.
I Am Not Antisocial, I Just Don't Like People Right Now
Do not worry about others thinking if you are antisocial. That is probably what brought you to the level of people burnout in the first place. Take these mini-breaks and let others know you just need some alone time to think. It is okay, and it is not rude. Do not feel compelled to go to every social gathering to which you are invited. Reserve Friday nights for alone time or family time that ends with some valuable time for you.
Taking a people break in increments will help you to avoid the "people burnout" that often leads to taking sick days or standing friends up. Most of us have been to a point where we cannot even bring ourselves to be around the people we love the most. If you're having trouble telling others, you need a break, and it's standing in your way of taking the breather you need there's a way to get help.
Set up some time to talk with one of the qualified therapists at Betterhelp.com. Online therapy can be a great way to get insight into who you are as a person and help you to take care of yourself and your needs. Online counselors are trained to guide you through the process of self-discovery and show you how to set boundaries with people that you may have trouble doing on your own. It's okay to put yourself first, and you can work on that in online therapy.